RE: Punishment ideas

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Punishment ideas

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: Punishment ideas

Page: << < prev 1 2 [3]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 7:18:01 AM

indigo302

Posts: 127
Joined: 4/28/2004
From: Delaware
Status: offline

Is it just me, or does this scenario sound familiar??
http://www.collarchat.com/m_518445/tm.htm

(in reply to RavenMuse)

Profile

Post #: 41

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 7:19:12 AM

Midearthtrainer

Posts: 67
Joined: 10/10/2004
Status: offline

And yes, the problems that led up to this incident are routed in the past. You need to reevaluate what led up to this incident and where the two of you want to go in the future. as others have said, there is more to this than just the drunk night/sex retaliation. The two of you need to go out for a long walk, picnic or something of that sort that will give you time to actually talk. Honesty and Openness are the keys. Don't steer the conversation, let it flow. Be prepared to open doors, as well as have doors opened. Don't get defensive, as well as remind her not to get defensive. This is a bareing of souls, if the two of you truely intend to find out what happened and take it from there.

good luck

(in reply to RavenMuse)

Profile

Post #: 42

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 7:38:13 AM

happypervert

Posts: 2203
Joined: 5/11/2004
From: Scranton, PA
Status: offline

quote:

Is it just me, or does this scenario sound familiar??
http://www.collarchat.com/m_518445/tm.htm

Nice detective work, indigo!! It is unusual when we got BOTH sides of a story. Now if we could just hear from the "other guy" we could have our own collarme version of Rashomon!

(in reply to indigo302)

Profile

Post #: 43

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 7:45:34 AM

juliaoceania

Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

OK you are asking for peoples opinion on this, so opinion you get.

I don't care if it was a one-off but if you can't handle the drink, stay the hell AWAY from it. If you can't control yourself then you have no place trying to control someone else.

She may think she has reasons for her actions, but they are not excusses. She felt hurt, she hurt you back... where was the trust?

Your relationship is on a knife edge. Back at stage one and BOTH of you need to start from that point. You both need to re-evaluate yourselves as well as the relationship. From what happened IF you both wish to continue you will have to find some way to get over the breach of trust and begin to build it all over again.

You are in no possition to punish her, you are as much at fault as she is. This, if it is to be gotten over needs work and communication. It won't be solved by playing with a cane!

RavenMuse... what you said!

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to RavenMuse)

Profile

Post #: 44

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 8:42:08 AM

masterhyyde

Posts: 57
Joined: 8/16/2006
From: Manhattan
Status: offline

too funny...but I have no connection to that story

quote:

ORIGINAL: indigo302

Is it just me, or does this scenario sound familiar??
http://www.collarchat.com/m_518445/tm.htm

(in reply to indigo302)

Profile

Post #: 45

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 8:44:18 AM

masterhyyde

Posts: 57
Joined: 8/16/2006
From: Manhattan
Status: offline

once again I do not know that person. although it does sound astonishingly like my story.

quote:

ORIGINAL: happypervert

quote:

Is it just me, or does this scenario sound familiar??
http://www.collarchat.com/m_518445/tm.htm

Nice detective work, indigo!! It is unusual when we got BOTH sides of a story. Now if we could just hear from the "other guy" we could have our own collarme version of Rashomon!

(in reply to happypervert)

Profile

Post #: 46

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 9:13:12 AM

Owned1

Posts: 847
Joined: 7/6/2005
From: Toronto, Ontario
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: indigo302

Is it just me, or does this scenario sound familiar??
http://www.collarchat.com/m_518445/tm.htm

and both profess to being from NY State, makes ya kinda go hmmmmmmm???

I think busted is the term

Owned

_____________________________

~~in His Chains i am free~~

(in reply to indigo302)

Profile

Post #: 47

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 9:43:02 AM

angyldown

Posts: 1
Joined: 8/19/2006
From: Brooklyn NY
Status: offline

Okay this is in response to all of the ppl who believe that they have figured something out. I am masterhydde's s/s not cutelinygurl84
that posted the other story that was/is very similar to ours. And I have not posted anywhere anything about our lives or situation ever.

(in reply to Owned1)

Profile

Post #: 48

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 10:25:37 AM

bignipples2share

Posts: 611
Joined: 4/19/2004
Status: offline

I'm not understanding the basics here. How can she not know that this relationship was not monogamus?
Is it open on your end, but she is to remain faithful and this is how she became confused?
Do you share her with your friends, but expect her not to venture off on her own?
I can't even make the mistake of reading your post and think this may be a role play and that she needs punishment, then ask for your clarification.
You state that this was a three year relationship, but were you living together for those three years?
Did you live in different parts of the country and have this relationship and just recently moved in together?
I don't understand how someone can be confused about this. It seems the subject would have come up at some point in three years.
There is alot of missing information here.

~Big

(in reply to masterhyyde)

Profile

Post #: 49

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 1:54:00 PM

masterhyyde

Posts: 57
Joined: 8/16/2006
From: Manhattan
Status: offline

How can she not know the relationship was mongamus?
That's a good question and I still am not sure of the answer. She claims that when she left the house she thought it was over.

Is it open on my end?
Yes it is but there should of been no confusion as to the fact that she is/was not to be with another unless I gave approval. And even with my end being "open" I do not do anything that would interfere with my ability to protect and care for her. And her feelings on said matters are always taken into consideration.

No we did not live together the entire three years. And only within the last year did the relationship turn towards a m/s relationship. It was a natural transgression that we both agreeded upon.

Do I share her with friends? I have had her sleep with other men/women for my own personal reasons while I was with her, but I do not "share her with friends".

quote:

ORIGINAL: bignipples2share

I'm not understanding the basics here. How can she not know that this relationship was not monogamus?
Is it open on your end, but she is to remain faithful and this is how she became confused?
Do you share her with your friends, but expect her not to venture off on her own?
I can't even make the mistake of reading your post and think this may be a role play and that she needs punishment, then ask for your clarification.
You state that this was a three year relationship, but were you living together for those three years?
Did you live in different parts of the country and have this relationship and just recently moved in together?
I don't understand how someone can be confused about this. It seems the subject would have come up at some point in three years.
There is alot of missing information here.

~Big

(in reply to bignipples2share)

Profile

Post #: 50

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/19/2006 8:34:27 PM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

I guess the moral of this story is - when you break up, make sure both people understand it.

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to masterhyyde)

Profile

Post #: 51

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/20/2006 1:06:02 AM

leatherorlace

Posts: 215
Joined: 2/21/2005
Status: offline

Me thunks that you're confuzzled. Allowing another to enjoy sexual interactions with your girl is sharing her.
she was confused or not. she was hurt or not. she was looking for some acceptance after your blowup. she found a pair of eager arms and hot crotch to assauge her hurt and cause him to remember her fondly for decades to come. she needed to establish a connection with another tribal member so that she wouldn't feel abandoned and at the mercy of anyone that came along. she was confuzzled by your confuzzlement.
Gentry

quote:

ORIGINAL: masterhyyde

How can she not know the relationship was mongamus?
That's a good question and I still am not sure of the answer. She claims that when she left the house she thought it was over.

Is it open on my end?
Yes it is but there should of been no confusion as to the fact that she is/was not to be with another unless I gave approval. And even with my end being "open" I do not do anything that would interfere with my ability to protect and care for her. And her feelings on said matters are always taken into consideration.

No we did not live together the entire three years. And only within the last year did the relationship turn towards a m/s relationship. It was a natural transgression that we both agreeded upon.

Do I share her with friends? I have had her sleep with other men/women for my own personal reasons while I was with her, but I do not "share her with friends".

(in reply to masterhyyde)

Profile

Post #: 52

RE: Punishment ideas - 8/20/2006 9:58:43 AM

bignipples2share

Posts: 611
Joined: 4/19/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I guess the moral of this story is - when you break up, make sure both people understand it.

I agree.

~Big

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 53

RE: Punishment ideas - 2/8/2007 5:35:16 AM

cindyxdresser

Posts: 42
Joined: 2/8/2007
From: Tulsa ,Oklahoma
Status: offline

well you could go two different ways .She had sex with someone with out your permission,doesnt that make her a slut?Why not treat her like one then,gangbang,or put her out as a prostitute might work ,show her how sluts are treated.Or why not lock a chastity belt on her for an extended period of time,if you deny her any sexual pleasure at all for several monthes she will think twice before cheating again

_____________________________

Cindy Cole

(in reply to mistoferin)

Profile

Post #: 54

RE: Punishment ideas - 2/8/2007 6:35:29 AM

Celeste43

Posts: 3066
Joined: 2/4/2006
From: NYS
Status: offline

You say you behaved irrationally while drunk. I'm not sure if what you mean is abusive. Whatever it was that you did scared her so much she felt she had to flee for her safety. Once flown, she's free. She could continue to stay free whether or not you dismiss her. However you have talked and are wishful of reclaiming your relationship.

Marriage counseling. Nothing else has a chance. I don't know how often you drink or if this was the first time that verbal threats escalated to physical, which is an assumption based on the fact that you are fine talking about what she did but not about what you did. Alcohol counseling might be in order. Anger management may be necessary.

Whatever is going on is bad enough that she fled with only the clothes on her back. Address that issue first or she'll flee again if she's lucky or wind up in the hospital if she isn't.

(in reply to BrokenDoll)

Profile

Post #: 55

RE: Punishment ideas - 2/8/2007 1:42:10 PM

MagiksSlave

Posts: 2768
Joined: 9/11/2006
Status: offline

LOL drudging up old threads.... its kinda funny beeing the person that I am I offerd help to both people of these 2 different threads help when I first read each one of them.. I never considered them to be the same relationship and I can tell you for a fact they are not. LOL their age differences alone should tell you that... Other then that I have lost track of cute LINY girl even though she lives rather close to me and I had offered to help her out as for Masterhyde I still talk to him he is a nice guy the situation he was in was is rather fucked up and in the end he really became a victome emotionaly of a girl he loved who was playing him I dont want to give more info because well not my place to I just wanted to clear his name because he is my friend and seeing as this thread has beed dug up giveing me the chance to do so I desided to take advantage.

Magik's slave

_____________________________

If you’re going through hell keep on moving
don't slow down
if you’re scared dont show it
you might get out
before the devil even knows your there.

-Rodney Atkins-

(in reply to Celeste43)

Profile

Post #: 56

RE: Punishment ideas - 2/10/2007 6:44:18 PM

Shadow4Dom

Posts: 4
Joined: 12/16/2006
Status: offline

The Question's I would ask here is: Was I not the one not tending to my sub, to her needs and sexual play desires?
                                                         Why did this happen?
                                                         Am I at fault here for not listening or being around when she needed me?
                                                         Are My rules for her fair, but justifible?
                                                         Am I being fair with my sub, withholding myself, or her sexual needy time till it's too late?
                                                        What can I do to repair or to sustain this relationship, between Master and sub?
Your answers to these questions will ultimely help you to decide if anythin as what you both should do to help or break this relationship.
You need to realize that without your sub, you are nothing but a Dom in search of _______________ whatever is left, after the truly prized subs have all been taken or claimed.
Therefore:   Remember it takes two or more to tango, in this lifestyle.

(in reply to MagiksSlave)

Profile

Post #: 57

RE: Punishment ideas - 2/11/2007 2:26:33 PM

grlneedstolearn

Posts: 728
Joined: 1/29/2007
Status: offline

I agree with a lot of these responses, i know that if i did this to my dom, i'd be looking for another dom within seconds. That's also part of our agreement and it falls under trustworthy and honesty. Yes she told you on her own free will, but still that's no excuse

(in reply to masterhyyde)

Profile

Post #: 58