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LadyHugs -> RE: False postings (8/20/2006 11:41:32 AM)
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Dear MzTlaz, Ladies and Gentlemen;
You wrote;
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ORIGINAL: MzTlaz
The internet is a great place for people who don't like who they are to create the person they'd like to be...it's sad but true. And yes, people do that in real life too, it's just easier to spot most of the time.
To Lady Hugs...how often those we reject decide we are the 'fakes' because it's easier for them to think that than deal with rejection. If someone bad mouths anyone we should all know first to consider the source, take it into consideration but discover for ourselves who the subject of the bad mouthing is. Some people will also bad mouth us because we know something bad about them and they want to discredit us in case we decide to 'out' them.
I would have to agree with you on both paragraphs. Indeed, people can create what they cannot be in real life. Indeed we may see this, when those in the community so disabled as to not get into the real life mainstream BDSM, D/s and or M/s, they are free to replace missing or shattered limbs and serve in the mental and emotional realms, as physical is to horrible to present to others.
As I had posted many posts ago, people just want so much to be accepted. They'll do anything to be accepted but, it is difficult to be accepted when there is an air about the community that virgins to the scene or those wishing/want to be, is a dirty word and treated with amazing intolerances. In my mind's eye, if everybody practiced tolerance and patience more, perhaps individuals would not need to create false faces per se.
Indeed, those that we dominants reject, turn around calling that dominant fake. Some dominants, like me-- decline slaves in the most gentle and kindest of ways as to take the sting and hurt out of the rejection processes. But, indeed some still will be spouting about that the dominant they approached is fake. It is not easy for dominants to decline slave's approaches. But, it is no service to them to entice or have them linger on a match that will not work. The spirit of intent is not immediately know on either side of the whip. Only those involved in the immediate process do. We, in the outside fringe are only witnesses to assumptions and selected information presented as to taint the response to their favor. This is disappointing, as the tainted information is not spot on, in regard to the issue at hand. So, it makes the responding parties give skewed information because of half-truths. But, such as life in many other aspects of life.
Oh, and yes--I have seen and been witness to attacking the credibility and so forth as to deflect attention on themselves as they have more to hide and or have sinister motives that might be exposed by somebody with ethics, standards and ready to expose. It is indeed the 'whistle blower' mentality in such a case. So, most times the whistle blower is tarnished as to preserve the conspiracy and or subdefuge in the background. Not much different than a policeman patrolling--a theif won't steal when they are being watched.
In my mind's eye, I figure when cautions are given, it is enough. Otherwise, the whistle blower is tarnished. In time, I have seen the truth comes out but--the sad part is, at what cost? And, sometimes the issues come from the external based on hearsay, not fact. Frankly, it can become blown way out of shape. I rather leave the drama for those actors who need it. I enjoy a peaceful existance and always hope to find it with others.
Respectfully submitted with a bit of wit,
Lady Hugs
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