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does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 5:28:21 AM   
princessrn


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After having a year out to heal after a broken heart i came back to the lifestyle to find friends , listen to things and if i can put some input in to some subjects  i will
 
im not looking ....          but what i found from  many mail i had was an underlineing question AGE and when i talked to some people it was stated many go for the younger sub ... is this so ?
 
have i been out so long that its come down to age and not a good match ?
 
do i put myself out to grass now ?
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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 5:36:57 AM   
lilsubl


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Status: offline 		i've seen this in many profiles, but i've also seen many who have no age preference...i emailed a man when i was looking & he sent me back a very polite email stating that he was looking for someone younger & thinner...i appreciated his candor & sent him an email to thank him for that...i certainly cannot be all things to all people & if some have personal preferences, i have no problem with that...i am 60 years old & owned by a 43-year-old Master...i haven't found that age discrimination in the lifestyle, or anywhere else for that matter, to be a problem...i yam who i yam & there are those who appreciate this & those who will never...just life, i figure.....


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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 5:52:27 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		Does age matter? For Me the answer would be both yas and no.

From experience I have found the dynamic, personaly, works better with a younger sub. Therefore when looking, I tend to look mostly amongst those younger than I. So as far as that goes, yes, age matters..... a bit.

However, from experience, there are exceptions to every rule. I have certainly met girls who where older than I with whom the dynamic has kicked in very well. Not often, but often enough that I never rule out the possibility. The dynamic and relationship 'spark' works between the two individuals, if it is present, then their age isn't a factor.

I would say you certainly shouldn't give up sweetie. Who you are as a person is far more important than what age you are. I look where I am more likely to find what I seek, maybe, if you find there are many who share this, it means you might have to be a little more forward in getting their attention. After that it is down to compatability, unless someone is just looking for arm candy, then that is far more important (After saying that, you look like very pretty arm candy to Me )


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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 6:44:55 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		No, things have not changed that much in a year.  You're just perceiving and experiencing it differently.

In general, males will go for the very young piece of female meat if given the choice.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_441624/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#441638
Does age make experience?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_389399/mpage_2/key_age/tm.htm#389616
Age since weight is being done

http://www.collarchat.com/m_366036/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#366124
Should age matter for a sub?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_336445/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#336457
Yes another ? about age

http://www.collarchat.com/m_325491/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#325694
Does age difference matter?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_290637/mpage_2/key_age/tm.htm#291554
What is the oldest dom you would consider?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_220984/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#220997
What is it with girls having masters double their ages?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_209024/mpage_3/key_age/tm.htm#212527
Does age matter? (2)



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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 7:12:14 AM   
sisyphus2000


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Status: offline 		"In general, males will go for the very young piece of female meat if given the choice."

The same can be said for many of the Ladies out there that are looking for males, especially the Ladies in their 30s and 40s it would seem.  In my own case, i'm a 54 year old male submissive, and i frequently will see a new profile of a Lady near my age looking for a sub, and i think, "maybe this time?", only to see that She will state that she wants someone as much as 20 years younger than She is, and definitely no older. I would not say this is "the rule", but it is far from infrequent.  Many is the time that i have felt like simply giving up the search because of my age.

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 7:26:46 AM   
Rule


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Status: offline 		I am nearly 49 years old, but have reason to believe that girls as young as 18 may be interested in me - and that I could have them if only I had the guts to address them. (Strange, when I was young nearly no female was interested in me.)
 
It would depend on circumstances. I would go for the young meat if possible, but if a poly relationship could be agreed to, I would be open to include women far older than me.
 
You are goodlooking. My advice is to either go for someone older, or for someone very much younger.

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 7:40:30 AM   
gandalf0297


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Status: offline 		I consider myself fortunate(or cursed take your pick;) But I have prefered older women ever since I was a young man. And now that I am getting up there(51) there are begining to be more of them to choose from. I have no idea why,But they seem to carry themselves better and are more eager to please.
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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 7:45:09 AM   
SexyRed


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Status: offline 		princessrn, it has nothing to do with age, it is attitude. I almost exclusively date younger men than I, not necessarily because of preference (I would like to date someone my age in the perfect world) but because they pursue me.

I also hear from lots of older guys as well. You are as young as you feel, but remember a fine wine is much appreciated by the discerning connoisseur.

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 7:45:46 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		I am 35. My slave girl anne is 50+. I admit that, for sexual relationships (anne isn't a sexual partner), I tend to enjoy younger men and women, but in the end, it really depends on the person. So, my ages are all over the board. My first husband was 12 years older; my second was 6 years younger. I'm currently dating 3 men: one is 27, one is 33 and the other is 40. Finding a girfriend seems to be harder...although I'm looking at a female slave that would be a sexual relationship who is 38. I've had a sub/play partner who was 14 years my junior as well. I call him "The Army Kid". LOL

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 7:45:51 AM   
feelmylove4u


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Status: offline 		age should never matter but it always will be the one deciding factor who pushes the bondage zimmer-frame

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 8:03:26 AM   
Bearlee


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Oddly...I keep THINKING age makes a difference.  Yet, I've had long-term relationships with men 15 years older than I am and as many years younger!  I am not collared right now, but am very close to three Dominants; one is my age (58), one is 40 and the other is 50.  I've played with some in their 30s who I found piqued my submissiveness bone more than just a little bit.
 
I’ve topped guys ten years older and 35 years younger…but generally find that much younger and a ‘relationship’ woulda been tough.  Hell, I don’t even get the music they listen to!  LOL
 
As far as guys who seem interested in me as a submissive; most seem to be in their mid to late 40s…I dunno why.
 
Anyway...all things relative; it seems age doesn't make all that much difference.  I am getting close to sixty, yet am younger (by far) than some 40 year old women I know.  Wierd, huh? 
 
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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 8:06:55 AM   
Bearlee


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(waggles eyebrows @ gandalf and winks vampishly...)
 
<~~  58 is older than you!  heh heh heh

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 9:05:19 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I think that this maybe true, and it doesn't matter if more dominants want younger property. I say this because all you need is one dom, not all of them. I am older and had no trouble attracting dominants when I began looking, even ones younger than myself.

I think it is all in your attitude, and how limited you feel by age. I have seen some women who feel very limited, some like me do not. I have more to offer a man today than I ever have. I have read as many dominant profiles looking for women in their own age group as I have seen looking for young ones.

Lets face it, an 18 year old usually have had no kids, or if they do they are even a bigger liability because those kids will be extremely young, they have no idea what it is to be a grandparent, or soon-to-be grandparent. They have not usually been married and divorced or supported themselves. Many dominants may like that innocent vulnerability, but many do not. There are the obvious pros for younger submissives, but there are cons too, such as not knowing who they are yet, or what they want yet... not experiencing life yet.

If you are like me, you want a companion, not an unreachable overlord. It is a power exchange, but I want my Dom to be reachable and accessible... he has to want that too, and appreciate that an older submissive will be able to be conversant and experienced in the same things he is.. these are the types I have always found attractive.

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 9:22:25 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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Status: offline 		Yes, age matters to people. It has mattered ever since humans have discovered its concept. People seem to have a focus about age that is really unhealthy. I, for one, have two older submissives (37 and 42) and am looking for a younger girl because I wish to begin a family in the near future. Does this mean I'll overlook an older lady? No, I'm open to having a relatinship to any woman as long as they are open to poly.

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 9:27:06 AM   
raiken


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ORIGINAL: princessrn

Greetings A/all 
 
After having a year out to heal after a broken heart i came back to the lifestyle to find friends , listen to things and if i can put some input in to some subjects  i will
 
im not looking ....          but what i found from  many mail i had was an underlineing question AGE and when i talked to some people it was stated many go for the younger sub ... is this so ?
 
have i been out so long that its come down to age and not a good match ?
 
do i put myself out to grass now ?

 
LOL i think we each go through similar thoughts, especially when we find ourselves having to begin again.   There are folks who depend on the numbers game as if it were their key to winning the lotto, and others just looking for someone to match their own mentality and commonalities/interests.  Age is important to some, for many reasons, aside from the obvious, like what will others think, who will start looking older first, and to avoid those age old comments, like "hey is this your mother?"  It happens.  Remember that movie, i think it was called "How Stella Got Her Groove Back".  Stella and her very young companion (20 years her junior) played by Tay Diggs(sp) was sitting at a tikki bar and the bartender asked Tay what his "mother" would be drinking.  If a person is young, i mean truly young at heart, but also knows how to connect with their adult, then that type of person has an enrgy about them that can roll with the young folks and/or stroll with the older crowd.  Your chances opf finding someone are just as good as anyone elses as far as a number.  For all of us, the chances become slim pickens when looking for a partner that compliments us on more deeper and imtimate levels of beliefs, perceptions and attitude.  While it is said that wisdom and maturity can often be found among those who have lived longer, this isn't necessarily true.  i have met many guys 10 to 15 years my junior, that in spite of their age, i would have no problem submitting to, because they have never stopped learning and know how to aplly life's lessons.  i look for those who are confident, secure with themselves, have gained some wisdom, and are not afraid to admit they have more to learn.  Age is insignificant when put in this line of thinking.  The only time i feel i would like someone closer to me in age, is when i wish to enjoy a long term or hopefully lifetime commitment and relationship.  My reasoning for this is that i don't want either myself or my partner to grow away, as this sometimes may occur between couples with huge gaps in age.

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 9:29:42 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		From the view of one of the elder generation and general old fart, I'd have to say that age does matter. Age becomes importand when i am looking at specifics of what I require from the aspect of the type of service I will be extecting from each person (Slave/Servant). generally there will be a routine od domestic duties dependent on the status I will accord to the person. As much as age I will be looking at what experience and skills the applicant has to bring tio my home. As a Housekeeper I don't look at age so much but at organizational skills and ability. For general service including entertaining I will require someone who may be limber enough to dance for the entainment of mysef and/or guests. Seeing that other chores may include some physical activities which I am unable to accomplish, the aspplicant will need some degree of flexability and fitness.

Thus in conclusion, I seek only those who can fit into my home and for the most part age is not a deciding factor. I'd rather have a low maintance servant of pleasant appearance and a happy nature who is willing to serve and serve well. If the applicant is seeking a 24/7 live in situation then the sexual compatability is also important but generally this is of less importance...


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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 9:39:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		AGE has nothing to do with it.
Honesty, openness  does


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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 10:14:16 AM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear princessrn, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I prefer older men--as they tend not to run away so fast when I pull out my axe, knives, torture tools.  [Grins with a lot of humor]  With the young lads, you have to chain them up rather well to slow them down into an "institutional shuffle."  [Grins with a lot of humor]
 
Being that I have arthritis from limb to limb, I can't be running in domme` sneakers after these escapees. [Grins with a lot of humor]
But, younger lads do have strength to tow the toy bags and luggage around.  Yet, I have a Gay slave who is a body builder at the young age of 69 who manages just fine. Others who are in service to me manage as well.  My Texas based slave though, did have lots of problems towing my toy bags, so did it myself and he was 43 and a male nurse as well.  So, I rather look at age as well as physical abilities.  Some age most gracefully and some are way old beyond the numbers.
 
Personal preferences really should not be seen as a flaw though.  Some will want young, some will want old.  Also, depends on if there is just a play relationship or a long term relationship.  It really depends on the chemistry between the pair or more.
 
Respectfully submitted with a bit of humor,
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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 10:17:45 AM   
Yang4yin


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Status: offline 		I prefer compatability much more than an age range, but would prefer someone not be older than myself.

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RE: does age matter in a sub - 8/23/2006 11:00:09 AM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Have not experienced this as a problem myself.  Have had interests from all ages and if all is said and done the age is a factor but only because i want and need a Dom with experience in life and as a Dom.  That is my preference but then when all is said and done a Dom that is intelligent, loving, caring, and loves being a Dom is the most important part.  The only time i have ever turned anyone down was when they were my stepkids age and dang that just felt wrong to me.  So to each their own, just don't give up and you will find a wonderful Dom that will not care about age at all.  Oh btw i am pushing 50. 

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