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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 7:48:26 AM   
HarryVanWinkle


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ORIGINAL: losttreasure
Compatability. Without it, nothing else matters.


I was wondering if anybody would get to this one.  Compatability is definitely number one.

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 8:00:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		This is not fair, picking one is just not fair.

So ethics I guess would be my answer

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 8:04:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Cloudz

Communication. With communication you learn if they have the other important traits - loyalty, honesty, self discipline, a willing heart, and intelligence.


Exactly as written.

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 8:05:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

quote:

ORIGINAL: losttreasure
Compatability. Without it, nothing else matters.


I was wondering if anybody would get to this one.  Compatability is definitely number one.


Compatability isn't a trait, it is a blanket condition taking all the traits combined. If enough of their traits are suitable then the person may well be compatable.


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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 8:38:28 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I cannot pick just one. There are four that are, for me, vital and equal in importance.

Intelligence
Honesty
Integrity
Humour


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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 8:39:01 AM   
MissTlTTYMilk


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Status: offline 		I agree with compatibility--if you define it as a trait or otherwise.
i see far too many people excuse their lack of tack or opinions as "honesty" so it all depends on how the two relate to the trait in question.
Perhaps, if we are compatible of how view honesty than yes.
Kindness  may initially draw a prey to the preditor according to Dr. Phil (cough)
Loyalty is a good one........compassion ...... Yet you can get that from a dog or cat.
If someone is loyal or compassionate to you, i dont necessarilly think there will be a  reciprocated connection or have anything else in common as an actor with  a starstruck fan. (vice versa)
Even communication can come across as nagging....How do you define good communication? compassionate? any given trait?
Whatever trait is important to you.......the other person needs to be compatible enough to view it similiarly to you or understand your point of view.


Compatible definitions of desired traits and compatible interaction exchange seems to be  important to me, but everything is so subjective these days....  
i do believe, regardless if perceived as a trait or not,......compatibility still reigns very up there in importance for me.  That is just my opinion and is not factual as i well know. 

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 8:41:27 AM   
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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 9:05:30 AM   
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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 9:46:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Of all the traits that are important to me, the top has to be spirituality. A need to provide service runs a damned close second, though.

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 10:58:46 AM   
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The ability to be true to himself.
 
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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 11:11:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Submissivness would be one of the top traits I look for.

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 11:18:46 AM   
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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 11:25:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Compatability isn't a trait, it is a blanket condition taking all the traits combined. If enough of their traits are suitable then the person may well be compatable.


I did contemplate whether to even put forth "compatibility' because of what you've pointed out.  The definition for compatible is "capable of existing or performing in harmonious, agreeable, or congenial combination with another or others".

A trait?

Technically, no.  However, an ability (i.e. communication skill) isn't a trait either... and neither is intelligence or the possession of knowledge.  As others were broadening the scope of initial question, I, too, took the liberty of answering in what I felt was the spirit of the question.

MissTITTYMilk gave a very good explanation as to why, in my estimation, compatibility supercedes any individual traits.  While I might expound upon it at some length, it would be "beating a dead ponyslave". 

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/24/2006 3:56:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: thegunslinger

Let's cheat here and say honest communication, communication of feelings, ideas is important in the relationship, but if they aren't truthful, doesn't really matter how much ya'll communicate, does it?


no fair.. you stole my answer... and i couldn't have said it better myself.


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RE: Personal Traits - 8/25/2006 1:00:39 AM   
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Which one trait do you expect to find in a possible partner, and why?


Honesty and Warmth

I haven't dealt with many dishonest partners..... but I'm here to tell you that ''cold'' people suck.




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RE: Personal Traits - 8/25/2006 2:58:55 AM   
Kedicat


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Status: offline 		An ability to deeply love and be loved in spite of all the weird things I'll make her do.

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/25/2006 3:22:36 AM   
wysiwygitsme


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Status: offline 		Is compatibility a trait?

Honesty is the most important to me.  
The art of communicating can be learned rather easily.  Without honesty, one could communicate anything.

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/25/2006 5:29:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was going to say either Honesty or Loyalty until Susan said "Kindness."

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RE: Personal Traits - 8/25/2006 5:58:17 AM   
sierraflowr


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Status: offline 		Is submissiveness a trait???



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RE: Personal Traits - 8/25/2006 6:00:21 AM   
sierraflowr


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ORIGINAL: Viper001

Personal integrity.


I think that is so true. If one doesn't have Personal Integrity then what does one have???


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