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Mercnbeth -> RE: Research: Why men pay, while women free? (1/2/2005 7:23:45 AM)
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well a master paying is different. This is the Man paying verses what the women should and shouldn't do.
Fangs,
Before closing out the post, I wanted to clarify something.
The problem with weekend or holiday posting is that I never take the time to crystallize my comments. I think it's a function of having better things to play with on non-work days. At my office CollarMe re-focuses me on who I really am while playing the role of businessman.
I see no difference in paying for a meal and expecting sex to paying for a hooker. If you approach a relationship with quid pro quo expectation of cash for service or meal for service the subtle differences are unimportant. The dating process, whether vanilla or lifestyle, should be one of fact finding. It's an investment of time, and money, proportional to the value of the goal. Some investments don't pay-off. In my situation I was looking for one that would provide a lifetime of support. Comparable to similar lifetime financial providers, I knew that such commodities are rare.
When I said, if I couldn't afford a slave I wouldn't have one - that included the process of finding one. More so than ANY physical compatibility I sought emotional and mental attraction. From prior experience I found many who could and would play the role for a period of time; but long term could not keep up their charade. In short, I wanted consistency. I wanted someone who, even when I wasn't looking, was consistent. Not because they wanted what I could provide but it was who they were. I wanted anyone who met me to know they should expect the same thing.
It was well worth it to pay for a meal, a evening at our LA Club, Lair, or just a day out and about LA. I enjoyed the activity too. I paid with the thought of sharing it with someone who, if it worked out, I could reflect back on the memory in years to come. Did it matter that she didn't give me $50 for a $100 dinner? If you saw no value in the company - call in for a pizza, put on a X-rated movie, and go to town.
I used to insist on meeting anyone within a week. Often they would never show. Instead of getting disappointed or whining about it, I saw it as an adventure. I would always meet in different places - different bars/restaurants and if they didn't show, still had a good time. If I was upset at anything it was the waste of time. Their failure to show was a GOOD thing, because I wasted no more time on them.
As far as the woman's movement, woman's rights, or accepted society 'norms'; they will NEVER have any influence in my behavior. I enjoy watching beth discuss her 'status' with angry woman's libbers. They have a difficult time defending their hierocracy when tells them how much she thrives in her 'slave' life. They are frustrated when she uses their own arguments against them.
Using "woman's rights" as an excuse to be cheap is the same as using a safe word in lieu of experience. Like lying, when the time comes to represent an honest view of yourself the image is tainted. It's much easier to just represent who you are ALL the time, first meeting right until death. You may still go to hell for your actions, but at least you won't fall into the pit of hypocrites.
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