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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 8:14:48 AM

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3 out of 4 women who wore their bras 24 hours per day developed breast cancer.

Ahhhhhh! There are women who submit to that kind of torture 24 hours per day???? And they think WE'RE into pain!

LOL - Funny! Actually when I was much younger, I had to wear a bra 24/7 during my period because it was just too painful not to.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 4:24:55 PM

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My personal opinion is that common sense should prevail in every circumstance. Early on in our discussions, toy and I agreed that, when in doubt, it was best to proceed with caution. This goes hand-in-hand with my personal philosophy that the continued well-being of the household, as a whole, is the primary goal. All other considerations are necessarily superceded if reasonably thought to be in conflict with advancing the House.
It doesn't benefit the House for the neighbors, delivery people, etc. to be reporting complaints to the authorities. It behooves me to make allowances for the inevitable intrusions by the outside world. Until I buy that tropical island, I make the adjustments necessary to maintain harmony within my community.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 4:26:13 PM

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I appreciate your reply, domtimothy.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 4:51:22 PM

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It works for us very well. Senpai dosn't allow me clothing in the house, unless she specifically tells me what to wear (for a scene, etc) or if guests come over. We don't usually have guests over unless we invite them, so it is very rare we have people at the door, if we do Senpai just sends me upstairs and then answers the door. I would say this is something that must be consensual, it wasn't something that interested me in the least, but she asked me if I would try it, and I was ok and so she asked me to continue doing it. Nowdays I have a hard time imagineing wearing cloths in the house and I get a little uncomfortable when guests are over. Since I still have my job, I'm not actually at home and nakie 24 hrs a day, so I have no troubles being in cloths in public.

As I spent more time naked I became much more comfortable with my body, which is a very good thing in my opinion; it did make me a little more of an exobitionist though, which at time annoys Senpai so I try really hard not to. It also has the effect of making some scenes much more powerful, if she dresses me in something or in a costume, since I'm used to being naked, I find it to be more intense and also allow me to get much more in to the persona she wants easier.

In the winter we keep the house warmer so that I can stay naked, though sometimes she lets me cover up in a blanket but only if we are sharing it. Since we live in Japan we have paper screens in a lot of rooms, so we have a lot of natural light while still not allowing people to look inside; if it weren't for that I'm not sure it would be very realisitic... the house would be to cave like (unless you like showingoff to your neighbors).

Mia

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 9:08:31 PM

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I've noticed too that when I am nude for a long period of time, it feels strange to put clothes on. Perhaps then it loses some of its value as a tool of submission? I do not know. I do know that my submission/slavehood is definitely magnified when I am nude and the one in authority is dressed.

There are other times when it is just plain pleasant, when you are working hard at the housework, or in the garden with sunshine and a nice summer breeze.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 9:09:42 PM

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My personal opinion is that common sense should prevail in every circumstance. Early on in our discussions, toy and I agreed that, when in doubt, it was best to proceed with caution. This goes hand-in-hand with my personal philosophy that the continued well-being of the household, as a whole, is the primary goal. All other considerations are necessarily superceded if reasonably thought to be in conflict with advancing the House.
It doesn't benefit the House for the neighbors, delivery people, etc. to be reporting complaints to the authorities. It behooves me to make allowances for the inevitable intrusions by the outside world. Until I buy that tropical island, I make the adjustments necessary to maintain harmony within my community.

Extremely well said, I concur.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 11:31:56 PM

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DomTimothy, well said. And all you have to do is have a robe out and handy to if you do want your sub/slave nude once in a while or, in thong, stockings, garterbelt and high heels.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 11:40:20 PM

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we here practice nudity, not as a condition, or requirement, but as a matter of preference. I have no requirements, but merely leave it as a "suggestion" and without pressure . . . .works very well for emotional comfort, communication at times, and even releiving stresses.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/30/2006 11:49:43 PM

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Greetings
As for our home, it is like, and done most of the time, especial now that it hot,
take care and be safe
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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/31/2006 12:16:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: domtimothy46176

My personal opinion is that common sense should prevail in every circumstance. Early on in our discussions, toy and I agreed that, when in doubt, it was best to proceed with caution. This goes hand-in-hand with my personal philosophy that the continued well-being of the household, as a whole, is the primary goal. All other considerations are necessarily superceded if reasonably thought to be in conflict with advancing the House.
It doesn't benefit the House for the neighbors, delivery people, etc. to be reporting complaints to the authorities. It behooves me to make allowances for the inevitable intrusions by the outside world. Until I buy that tropical island, I make the adjustments necessary to maintain harmony within my community.

Very well said (Like you needed to hear that again. lol) I dont see your posts often, but when I do, seldom have I seen anyone write from such a perfectly balanced and reasonable point of view. Apparently there are those out there who can and do engage in ds relationships without going over the top in regards to what we often see in bdsm romance novels, and whacked out websites mostly written by people who only dream of this stuff but never actually apply it in real life. Nicely stated. :)

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/31/2006 12:22:16 AM

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agreed . . .that goes without saying that the nudity should be tempered with some common sense and consideration of others sensibilities . . .after all, when one lives nearer the fringes of so called "normal" society . . . it behooves us to not draw mininterpreted attentions.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/31/2006 6:51:34 AM

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agreed . . .that goes without saying that the nudity should be tempered with some common sense and consideration of others sensibilities . . .after all, when one lives nearer the fringes of so called "normal" society . . . it behooves us to not draw mininterpreted attentions.

While it's never good to draw misinterpreted attentions...sometimes drawing attentions can be a good and positive thing.

But that's another topic with a huge grey area of balance and comfort.

I know for me that my partner has had to stop me a few times from stripping down at the pool. I'm just totally not thinking and my habit is to get naked.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/31/2006 7:03:43 AM

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Is this a reasonable request? I've read that some Dominants and Masters want their submissives or slaves to be nude at home all the time. They are simply not allowed to wear clothes in the home. I am wondering how this actually works for them in a practical sense.

I am not ashamed of nudity, but - what if a pizza delivery man or a mail person, or a friend or relative comes to the door who either 1) Is not aware of their bdsm life-style or 2) Doesn't necessarily want to see them nude? What then?

I see this listed as a "requirement" for potential submissives and slaves in some Dominant profiles, and am wondering if they actually do live this way, or are mostly just fantasizing and hoping someone will agree to it someday.

What say you?

Thanks for any replies.

- Susan

We have a rule similar here. I was to be nude at all times possible. In the beginning it was to aid me in losing my shyness about certain aspects of my body I did not like to show. He told me I would get over it quickly and I did.

There was a robe on a hook in 3 places in his home that I could quickly put on if I needed to. The doors were locked and the blinds were down. If outsiders peeked through them, I guess they would have had a delightful show.

I would answer the question by saying, It is reasonable if the Master/Mistress said it was in a TPE relationship. Something to think about when speaking to a Dom/Domme.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/31/2006 7:07:41 AM

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My guess is that perpetual nudity probably makes one way too accustomed to the sight of their nude submissive. I guess that might take some of the thrill out of the whole "play" thing.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/31/2006 7:10:34 AM

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Master wants me to be naked where practical. That seems reasonable to us both

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 8/31/2006 9:53:43 AM

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In reading responses It also occurs to me to mention that while unexpected visitors to a home should be respected, that we also have a reasonable expectation of privacy within our own homes. This encompasses our right to be nude. I think a lot of laws in many states support this. In many areas this extends to your yard/garden. When I have been accidently discovered as mentioned, it has been in the yard so I do not think it was an issue of forcing myself on the UPS man :)

If one has to the answer the door nude, you can just poke your head around the door, talk through the door, or better yet throw on a robe.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 10/7/2006 3:03:45 AM

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I require her to be naked in the house but this rule is suspended if vanilla company comes over (however she must remain barefoot). She also wears chains between her ankles so it is impractical for her to answer the door. When we moved to a TPE relationship, expectations were agreed and strictly implemented with suits us both. I love her to bits and we both think our relationship has become stronger since she transferred power to me. We have a yearly review and she can voice to me whether I am too strict on any of her rules but her opinion is usually that I am not strict enough.

If I want her naked then that is how it will be, and I do. One comment she made was that it is hard to challenge her master's authority when she is naked on her knees!

SB

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 10/7/2006 4:11:44 AM

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I just saw this thread. My master usually requires me to be nude at home (I have to be unless he tells me other wise) and I think it is ver reasonable. he has company over a lot (if vanilla company comes over usually he just has me stay in my room) and has even had me answer the door when a delivery man or someoen comes

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 10/7/2006 7:23:45 AM

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i was so excited to see a "new post" from Susan .. but i see it was drug up from the caverns. so sorry. Does anyone know if she's still here in another outfit?

i'm not asking anyone to reveal the new name if she's gotten one, i remember the stalker threads and would sure think a new handle would be protecting herself properly, i just want to know she's still happy and safe.

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RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? - 10/7/2006 8:36:11 AM

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Dunno what happened to Susan, somebody bitched about BDSM theorists not too long ago, maybe she took it personally.

I'm a big drapery fan, so I'm big on robes of all types, saris, togas, belly dancing costumes, etc. - I think being naked might lose it's charm: half the fun is taking it off, and partial concealment is great tease that arouses the libido, tantilizing.

It can be pretty hot to simply take off part of your clothes, like just the pants, leaving your blouse and shoes on, jewelry, etc., (sweaters are especially nice) a bit of cognitive dissonence that make you feel even more exposed than being totally naked - remember those dreams?

Speaking of which having nothing on but jewellry is pretty hot too, it can symbolize bondage.

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