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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 7:45:43 AM   
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Ohh, you are wicked, little miss two paddles

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 7:47:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aubre

It's one thing to simply use a title to show your disposition in your nick, it's yet another if your nick implies you are the Alpha and Omega of all things domly/subby.


Agreed.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 7:50:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BlueHnS
When meeting someone for the first time does it give you pause if you see Master/Mistress, Sir/Ma'am, or sub/slave as part of their nic?

Depends on where I am or the group.  If I'm in the north or mid-east, yes it would.  If I were in the south, or in a long-established group, leather family, or a group that was really into protocol, no. 

Either way, I wouldn't treat them differently than someone I'd met at a business meeting.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 7:53:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Don't you remember when the girls were stealing the diamonds but told Jay and SB that  they were rescuing the animals used for testing?  They filmed Jay talking about how he is The Master of the CLIT?  It was hysterical.

btw...have you seen Clerks 2?

I meant to say "Have you seen Clerks 2, O Mighty Four Paddles?"



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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 7:54:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: JeniferJuniper

Yes, I do find some names off-putting or even offensive.  First impressions do count.

A true Master would not need to call himself that.  And really should only be addressed by that title by their slave/s.

I also dislike it when a dominant calls himself a Master - to my mind they are 2 different things.  A Master is someone who owns property (slave/s), a Dominant is someone who uses a submissive.

And submissives who give themselves slave names.  Or say they are a slave, when they are a submissive.  I am sick of getting messages from "slaves" - but then read their message and profile and find they are submissives.

And my real pet hate?  Anyone who tags 69 on to their name........... sooooo lacks imagination. lol


My pet peeve in sub names is "angel" in here someplace.

Another rather unimaginitive thing.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 7:56:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		But some of us ARE angels ...<grumble> Can't find the halo emoticon...grrrrr.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 7:58:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Don't you remember when the girls were stealing the diamonds but told Jay and SB that  they were rescuing the animals used for testing?  They filmed Jay talking about how he is The Master of the CLIT?  It was hysterical.

btw...have you seen Clerks 2?

I meant to say "Have you seen Clerks 2, O Mighty Four Paddles?"




Awww, I haven't even seen the first one lol, but I like Kevin Smith, so I need to.
 
O.M.4.P.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 8:03:44 AM   
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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 8:14:59 AM   
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Was that a crack?? Huh?? Wuzzit??


nope.. fortunately for me.. the domly drawers were pulled up..there was no crack to be seen here <wink>


LOL jessie, good, or ya'll could call me Plumber Dom  


According to what I hear online that would be better than PlumperDom!     (...personally I wouldn't agree, though.  LOL )
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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 8:21:12 AM   
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Regarding the use of Honorifics; I use them if I get to ‘know’ someone well enough to know which way they lean.  I guess I don’t call a Dom ‘Sir’ just because, but if I find him worth the ‘title’, I give it to him.  …course, I don’t call my Doctor ‘Dave’, either.
 
To all the Dominants I call ‘Sir’ or “Maam’, I beg your pardon if you find it offensive.  I’m just trying to be polite.  It’s hard to keep up, yanno…some submissives come unglued if you cap their name, too!  Go figure.
 
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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 8:22:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BlueHnS

When meeting someone for the first time does it give you pause if you see Master/Mistress, Sir/Ma'am, or sub/slave as part of their nic?


Does it give me pause?

It makes me think that they are using the titles in a much freer way than I do.

It suggests that our philosophies are different.

Both of those things are relevant when opinions about others, making friends, or finding partners but they are not deciding factors.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 8:23:24 AM   
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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 8:43:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Has to be said some (not all, granted) of the Sirgurudommlydoms posting on here choose their names whilst resting their tongues firmly in their cheek so, being a sarcy moo at the best of times, I won't overlook someone on the basis of their name.. def on their blahdeblah profiles perhaps, but that's a different thread altogether. In fact I had Uberlord round here for curry a couple of weeks back (no, really I did!)- very pleasant chap and not a single inch up his own bumhole  : )  
I'm with Arpig on this, they're just words.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 9:06:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		A few people have touched on it, but I think that it's less in their nics, which could be #43 they tried, and more in the way they sign their messages. 

My name, for example, does not stem from a particularily big puppy play fetish, but simply because benji was a famous dog, and a lot of people call me benji.  If someone were turned off by puppy play, I would be fine with that.

So don't judge a book by it's cover.  Nor should you grab hold of their balls and slam a book on them until you, at least, know their first name.

Yours,


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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 9:25:38 AM   
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But some of us ARE angels ...<grumble> Can't find the halo emoticon...grrrrr.


You can't find it because CM took it away from certain submissives .

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 9:36:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		And, yet, somehow, the pissing dog gets a perma-halo. 

Apparently, I'm the subliest sub, to get away with this shit.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 10:08:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BlueHnS

When meeting someone for the first time does it give you pause if you see Master/Mistress, Sir/Ma'am, or sub/slave as part of their nic?


Yes.

On the submissive side, especially those that send messages to us, when they call themselves "slave" I ask;  "slave of whom/what?" Submissive is a identity trait. You can identify yourself as being submissive or as a submissive. Slave requires something more. For your identity to be a slave you are required to have an owner. If you bankrupt yourself for your wardrobe, you'd be a "slave to fashion", overeating - a "slave to food"; but a slave in the context of this site's primary focus requires another person who has accepted the responsibility of ownership.

Same applies on the other side of the ledger. You can be "Master of your domain", but without having the ownership responsibilities of another human; "Master of who/what?" And again, you can have a dominant personality or take the dominant role in a physical/mental encounter with anther person. It makes you a dominant, but not anyone's Master. If you've be "granted the title" whether from the Free-Masons or the "International Domain Involved in Organized Titillating Sensations"; you retain the title in the group but shouldn't expect instant recognition outside the specific community.

If you think about it in those terms and apply the literal definition for the labels you'll discover that a self label is pretty silly. In an on-line environment, with no intent or desire for real time contact, self labeling is harmless. But in speaking to people seeking a touching contact with another body relationship, I tell them that it's been our experience that the dominance or submissiveness of a person is in inverse proportion to the dominance/submissiveness of their name. All other issues being equal, I'd consider my chance of a successful meeting would be greater with a "begginya" than "kijara-gutter slut slave whore of the universe"  

With us, it's simple. When we meet people, I introduce beth as my slave. I introduce myself by my first name. beth is the only person I expect to call me Master. I don't have any other slave. I don't require that from anyone else. However, I will respect how anyone else would have their slave or submissive refer to me. Similarly, I require beth to respect how anyone else would like to be called. But when it comes right down to it, our names for each other are only critical to our relationship. We have no need to be validated by how someone else refers to us.

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 10:30:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Expressleo, I think the term "Sir" or "Master" should only be used by the sub at such time as she feels comfortable using it or, as a way of signaling that she would be receptive to the Dominant's attentions.
After all, at that point there is no relationship between her and the Dominant.
Now me, I'm Tom.


Amen.

That is how I generally go about things when I am addressing people.  I use part of their names when they include such things like Sir,Lord or Master/Mistress.  I offer civil respect upon first speaking, and more noted respect if it is earned by that person.  The ones that I will use any kind of title with are those that have earned a great deal of respect from me through longer, more intuitive conversations.  And I do not use those titles at all times from that point forward.   I will use their names when in normal conversation, and when in certain conversations/circumstances, I will revert to using Ma'am or Sir or their "whole name/nick".




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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 10:39:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		hello madam
may i be slave
email me at benjibenji at benji dot com




Edited to add: Just thought it was about time for a random interjection of that sort

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RE: In the online world ... - 8/28/2006 10:44:42 AM   
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When meeting someone for the first time does it give you pause if you see Master/Mistress, Sir/Ma'am, or sub/slave as part of their nic?

 
Nope, words are just that.  While it doesn't give me pause, it does aid in the generality of those who are searching, but for me, it is only to a point. 
 
i have met those who wore the title of dominant, but yet, when experiencing them in person they turn out to be latent subs! LOL!  There will always and forever be folks who are not in touch with who they truly are, but walk around trying to emulate others, denying self.  Just adding another twist of thought.
 

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