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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 5:28:04 PM   
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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 5:28:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I may or may not speak for some,but with males,sometimes we feel we are the maligned,may that we be perceived as marauding,looking for fun anywhere it may be.How many profiles on the other side state,'no males' or 'no single males'.Sometimes the feeling is we are not wanted,so anyone looking for anything under the sun,may it be,is basically looking for contact from anyone.Desparate,might be a word to describe,a horrible word,but males are not all the same,true there are marauders,or perhaps people unfamiliar with the ettiquete of contacting another,but we learn and modify our ways.I have been there,I have learned,and I have moved on.
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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

For me I chose a lot of the list, sub males, sub females, dominant couples blah blah on an on, Because I am very curious and open minded and I chose not to limit myself in my possibilities. It was not however cause "anything I could get was better than nothing"

I'm not a male though and I can not speak for why males select every option under the sun.
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ORIGINAL: Aneirin


To some,anything is better than nothing I suppose.




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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 5:42:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

A)  Subject line sucks, I know you can do better


I have pms and was out of chocolate!

 Hey aren't you supposed to be staying after class with me?

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B)  If you're going to keep doing this, we should create a new forum called "Twice's Frustrating Search for a Stable Secure Mature Male Poly Sub" because I don't think you're anywhere NEAR the worst of it. 


Cool idea why didn't i think of that? Want to be in charge of it?
 
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  C)  Because they are like chickens with their heads cut off and desparate to get communication going with ANYONE.  Or, much more rarely, they really are open to any sort of connection because it's not about the sex for them and sex isn't involved in their choice.


ROFLMMFAO............

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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

I especially like the idea of Twice getting her own forum just for the search.  


So will you help LA design my new column? I'll give you both credit for it, big smiles.......

< Message edited by twicehappy -- 8/29/2006 6:04:23 PM >

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 5:51:42 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kree

Comment in general:

just a curmudgeon who had grown incredibly weary of this rampant search that was originally about finding a female submissive


You must have me confused with somebody else, while a bi or lesbian female would be welcome i have no trouble communicating with them so i have never started a thread asking what was up with their behaviour.
 
As i have minimal experience with male subs/slaves i keep hoping somebody has them figured out and can give me the keys to the way they think.

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At least this post omitted the words "motorcycle", "rider", and "biker"... 


If the other half of my life bores you so badly there is always the block button.

Sorry i am a biker, i do ride a motorcycle as do many other posters here.

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 5:55:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kree

lost,

You obviously do not read many threads or you would understand. 


Perhaps you are correct and I don't read that many threads... I do work and have a life to live, after all.

However, I have a fairly decent grasp of the English language and my reading comprehension skills have been rated somewhat high ... despite any perceived collective concurrence by you, I don't believe these commenters would have bothered to respond to TwiceHappy, at all, if they were truly weary of her posts in this matter. 

I also seriously doubt that they had any agreement with you in mind when they did so, and may, in fact, not appreciate your including them in your denigration.  But, that's just my personal perception.

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 6:01:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aneirin

I may or may not speak for some,but with males,sometimes we feel we are the maligned,may that we be perceived as marauding,looking for fun anywhere it may be.


Sweetheart i know there are many good male subs out there, i have written back and forth with some of them, there are a few here on the boards i think the world of, but there are so many others who first response is" do you have a web cam?".
 
So please those of you who do not fit my new column of complaint " Twice's Search for a Stable Male Subbie" please take no offense. And if you have any advice for me on how to better approach and make myself plain feel free to email me on the other side or simply post in my new column(as soon as LA finishes designing it) lol. 
 


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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 6:02:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		I guess I must be through half the worst...cause it seems every male profile I read seems to be the same. Or even talk to.
My question is...Why is it so hard to find a sub who seems to be mentally stable on the first impression? Or not whiny or needy...I mean I realize their submissive but you have to be able to stand on your own 2 feet as well. Or you're lost in this world.
Trust me twice the search is long and hard.

I've come to the conclusion..that men are like shopping...you go to the store the jeans you like are either too big, too small, too long too short...and you spend hours trying to find those perfect jeans. Except in this case it can take years unfortunately. Happy hunting.
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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 6:02:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

I have a question; Why do some males who list themselves as straight subs or slaves lists of what they are searching for include submissive females, su/sub couples, sub or dom trans etc?

It appears that some have listed they are looking for anything. Why is that?

To be honest as i peruse the listing for male subs/slaves( every body is fairly aware Mistress is looking for a male and that i occasionally look for her as well) i have been passing by these guys wondering if they are subs why are they looking for subs of any gender. 


Twice... I can only surmise that at least some are looking for a way "in".  I've been contacted by quite a few male subs before... some asking for me to domme them, but also a few have asked me if I know of any dominants that I could recommend them to.  I've even had one or two ask me if they might "share" the dominant that I find.  I think, to a degree, it might be a case of "networking" gone wild.  But mostly I think that everyone else is right and they are simply seeking to connect with anyone. 

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 6:03:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yep, I do enjoy those "I would be willing to switch for you" notes that some male subs send.

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 6:04:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		That..and it's a valid point, the confusion of it all, no matter what you are looking for. It seems odd that male/female/whatevers have profiles and appear to be searching for "something", but when you look at their wishlist in their profile, they have selected either all, or nearly all, of the possible choices. I can see someone interested in a couple choices, but to put Male Doms, Female Dommes, subs, switches, poly, etc., sounds more like a smorgasboard list than a sincere description of what they are looking for. Damned..pick something already.

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 6:06:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: losttreasure

Twice... I can only surmise that at least some are looking for a way "in".  I've been contacted by quite a few male subs before... some asking for me to domme them, but also a few have asked me if I know of any dominants that I could recommend them to.  I've even had one or two ask me if they might "share" the dominant that I find.  I think, to a degree, it might be a case of "networking" gone wild.  But mostly I think that everyone else is right and they are simply seeking to connect with anyone.


Thank you for you kind words both now and before, sadly i think you are right.

(btw very nice pic)

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 7:16:29 PM   
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Congratulations... I dont read or reply to many threads either.  Yes, I work and have a life too, so dont feel you are unique.. 

Having a grasp of the language doesnt mean you have read the things that I, and some others, were responding to.  There is no concurrence concerning anything about you because I do not know you, or have a real desire to know someone who feels a need to attack someone when they do not know what was referred to.  I also do not think you have been nominated to speak for others, but you felt a need to give them a pass and attack me.  Works for me. 

I included no one in my thoughts.  I thanked a few others  for their comments because they have seen what I referred to.  You, on the other hand, obviously have not seen it, but you just had to spout off.  That is fine.  I have no desire to enter a discourse with someone who has not seen what was referred to, but has to respond anyway.   

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 9:52:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kree

lost,

Congratulations... I dont read or reply to many threads either.  Yes, I work and have a life too, so dont feel you are unique.. 

Having a grasp of the language doesnt mean you have read the things that I, and some others, were responding to.  There is no concurrence concerning anything about you because I do not know you, or have a real desire to know someone who feels a need to attack someone when they do not know what was referred to.  I also do not think you have been nominated to speak for others, but you felt a need to give them a pass and attack me.  Works for me. 

I included no one in my thoughts.  I thanked a few others  for their comments because they have seen what I referred to.  You, on the other hand, obviously have not seen it, but you just had to spout off.  That is fine.  I have no desire to enter a discourse with someone who has not seen what was referred to, but has to respond anyway.   


If you wish to perceive my comments to you as an attack, you are, of course, entitled to do so.  However, my intent was to simply bring to your attention the semblant presumptuousness of your original post. 

Whether you feel that I do or don't have the entire story, is beside the point.  Whether you or any other members have, in other threads, expressed similar displeasure at the content of TwiceHappy's posts, is also irrelevant.  I see no excuse for your rudeness.

And yes, in my opinion you were rude.  If you were pleased to see what you regarded as others displaying irritation with TwiceHappy's comments and wished to express your gratitude to them, you should have contacted them individually and privately to do so.  Aside from seeing no evidence to support your assertation of mutual annoyance by LA or any of the other commenters, the fact is that your post was addressed in a sweeping generalization that appeared to include some that I happen to know do not share your feelings.

Furthermore, even if every other member of this forum was tired of hearing about TwiceHappy's search for a male sub, you did not limit your comments to appreciation for support regarding just that.  Your diatribe continued by including insults against TwiceHappy's interests and insinuating that noone cares to hear her mention them.  By doing so, you included "LA and others" into that portion of your complaint and projected the appearance of a unified front against TwiceHappy.

I honestly have no idea what you mean with regard to anything being concurrent concerning me.  I made no reference in my post to anyone agreeing to anything about me.  What I did say was, "...despite any perceived collective concurrence by you...", which in other words means, "notwithstanding any impression you might have of group agreement".  I apologize if I didn't make myself clear.

I would recommend that if, in the future, you have problems with either the contents or frequency of TwiceHappy's posts, you should contact her owners directly with your grievances.   Likewise, you are welcome to do the same with mine.  Though I don't imagine it will do you much good; he was one of those swept up in your inference, and I believe his response was simply, "Idiot".

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RE: Why? - 8/29/2006 11:30:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash

That..and it's a valid point, the confusion of it all, no matter what you are looking for. It seems odd that male/female/whatevers have profiles and appear to be searching for "something", but when you look at their wishlist in their profile, they have selected either all, or nearly all, of the possible choices. I can see someone interested in a couple choices, but to put Male Doms, Female Dommes, subs, switches, poly, etc., sounds more like a smorgasboard list than a sincere description of what they are looking for. Damned..pick something already.


LOL Wish I could.
I search within 3 different groups, Dom, Sub, and Switch. Smorgasboard? No. I'm looking for something specific, but it is a bit different and that could possibly be found in any of those groupings. I really don't care which group it springs from either, as long as we're both in agreement that it has the potential to work.
To the OP, as someone else stated, I think those that are checking off everything, a few of them might be looking for the partner or their dreams, but may also have the desire to just serve, which would not have any bearing on their actual sexual orientation. Then again, there are those that think they've found their treasure chest of gold here. They read all the different things in profiles that they'd only touched on in previous fantasies. They've had desires for years and and here they can run their fingers through all the pieces of gold and jewels..they want it all. Fantasyland overdrive.

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RE: Why? - 8/30/2006 3:31:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kree

At least this post omitted the words "motorcycle", "rider", and "biker"... which I found incredible.  I answered a post yesterday and very seriously considered mentioning the makes and models of my BMW's, and my experience having raced vehicles like them.  But you know, I really didn't think anyone would give a shit about the names of my bimmers... or my racing experiences. 


From another thread.

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ORIGINAL: stockingluvr54

Thanks and right back at ya...!!!   More bike threads...that'd be cool.......


Stockinglover54, i borrowed this from another thread to encourage Kree to feel free to talk about his rides and experiences, my apologies and thanks in advance.

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RE: Why? - 8/30/2006 4:04:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

I have a question; Why do some males who list themselves as straight subs or slaves lists of what they are searching for include submissive females, su/sub couples, sub or dom trans etc?

It appears that some have listed they are looking for anything. Why is that?

To be honest as i peruse the listing for male subs/slaves( every body is fairly aware Mistress is looking for a male and that i occasionally look for her as well) i have been passing by these guys wondering if they are subs why are they looking for subs of any gender. 

My first thought twice is that they aren't necessarily looking for a fuck - just to communicate with all types of people.  Just because they have ticked the boxes, does not mean they are specifically looking to communicate with these specific groups other than to just communicate.  If they are a straight male subs or slave,  is that going to stop them communicating with others?  Nope.  Nor should it.
 
Its not all about finding a mistress or a quick fuck, twiice - not all males have a one track mind.
 
Oh, and what Em said...
Oh... and I understood Krees post...
 
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RE: Why? - 8/30/2006 4:20:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: darkinshadows

Its not all about finding a mistress or a quick fuck, twiice - not all males have a one track mind.
  
I never said that it was did i? The question was why do they list so many things they are looking for.  
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ORIGINAL: darkinshadows 
Oh... and I understood Krees post...
 
And like Kree you are also free to use the block feature…..


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RE: Why? - 8/30/2006 4:36:12 AM   
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Nope you didn't - not openly anyway.  But the question is no different to the 'why are there so many people who are already owned on this site and still have an ad' or  'why do all males want chastity' posts... etcetcetc.
But you are already passing these profiles by because of the fact they are listing they want to speak to people who aren't just female dominants - your own words - so you are choosing based of thinking there must be an another motive intead of seeing a profile you like, and writing to ask them personally.
 
People come to sites like CM to communicate.  So of course they have interests other than directly what one would assume they are looking for.  If a straight male s-type lists and ticks the boxes for transexuals, male dominants or spongebobsquare pants, its probably because they aren't narrow minded and are more open to all people.  And that is an attractive quality in a person, IMO.
 
And I don't use the block feature - Waste of time.  What one person may have to say one day may be irrelevant to me, another day, they will have something interesting to say.
I am not that closed minded.
 
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RE: Why? - 8/30/2006 5:35:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyJC


I've come to the conclusion..that men are like shopping...you go to the store the jeans you like are either too big, too small, too long too short...and you spend hours trying to find those perfect jeans. Except in this case it can take years unfortunately. Happy hunting.


Lol, i like that, consider those whose first question is "do you have a cam" like an annoying sales person trying to sell you a style you simply do not care for.

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RE: Why? - 8/30/2006 9:08:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would say because they are looking for anything. OR they are like Myself and open to A/all types of people. OR they dont know what they want yet and so they want to try everything....OR they are just lazy and didnt want to pick one...OR they didnt see that question... Or who knows why...I try to not make assumptions as that is the Mother of All Fuck-Ups.

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