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Tips for introduction letters. - 8/30/2006 12:38:16 AM

SavageEu

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For those of us reaching out and initiating contact any tips for the trenches? The obvious stuff I think is to cover a quick into of yourself and then what attracts you to the person your contacting, assuming its for more than just friends or chat. But beyond that, is it better to just assume they will look at your profile and get information from there or do a lot just read the one message and go on from there? e.g. should you put more of your profile stuff in an intro?

And on a side note, I've noticed a few profiles with very little text and just a few interests but thier journal indicates they are flooded with mails. Am I missing some secret? Well I mean besides being a 20yro 120lb female :D I have attempted a few just to see what happened but wow I have no idea how to begin since there are no interests or anything of substance on there.

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RE: Tips for introduction letters. - 8/30/2006 2:33:56 AM

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I always read profiles if someone sends me a messagae that interests me in any way, in fact I personaly get nnoyed if they only resend me their profile details in a contact mail

So I dont think you need to repeat yourself .... particularly the basics like age etc

I would mention something you think might be relevant ... eg location being different ... but you are moveing or travel etc .... so feel free to refer to your profile details .. but dont quote them

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RE: Tips for introduction letters. - 8/30/2006 3:59:49 AM

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Some of what you are experiencing is simply due to the fact that you are part of a dominant couple, there are many couples looking for a female, while the number of females looking for couples is not that large.

After reading your profile i would suggest you might include in your letters if not a mention in your profile what your females duties and relationship with your wife would be.

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RE: Tips for introduction letters. - 8/30/2006 4:48:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: SavageEu

For those of us reaching out and initiating contact any tips for the trenches? The obvious stuff I think is to cover a quick into of yourself and then what attracts you to the person your contacting, assuming its for more than just friends or chat. But beyond that, is it better to just assume they will look at your profile and get information from there or do a lot just read the one message and go on from there? e.g. should you put more of your profile stuff in an intro?

Sincerity always works. Providing a brief snapshot of what your life is like can be helpful as well. Even mentioning why you've both decided to bring in a third cannot hurt. You may opt to share your views on these kind of relationships and the lifestyle in general. I like to see variety and I think it is good that you do speak of things outside of this world. It shows diversity. When speaking to someone initially you could choose one or two items from their profile that are of interest and attempt to build an initial conversation around it and allow things to flow naturally from there. I would caution you to avoid the more sexual items as that can be a huge turnoff for some. As others have mentioned it is merely a matter of time. You throw a few darts but never know where they will land. Best of luck to you both in your search.

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RE: Tips for introduction letters. - 8/30/2006 4:59:27 AM

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There's a couple things that turn me off immediately. One line introductions telling me to contact them on yahoo or some other instant messenger are high on the list.

I operate on the assumption that you get out of it what you put into it. If someone sends me a note consisting of a couple paragraphs, I'll return the gesture in kind. If somone sends me a one-liner asking me what city I live in, or telling me to look at their profile and contact them if I'm interested, chances are I won't be and I'll send them a one or two word acknowledgement hoping that it ends there.

I see the introduction letter as a conversation starter so the more it contains, the higher the chances of a conversation getting off the ground with a bit of momentum.

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RE: Tips for introduction letters. - 8/30/2006 8:14:49 AM

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Just a quick note to thank everyone for thier responses before I head to work. I thought that this might be a good compaion topic for the Tips for Profiles. Especially advice from those that tend to be on the receiving end of the intro's which some of you have provided. I think any insight that might steer people toward more meaningful communication is a good start.

Off I go.

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