Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

serving a SADIST


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> serving a SADIST Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 11:32:58 AM   
subtexxxt


Posts: 20
Joined: 12/8/2004
Status: offline 		Hello everyone and Happy New Year,


Does anyone here have any tips / ideas for this non-masochistic slave to increase my endurance / pain threshold??? It's really important to me to be able to please my Mistress and accept the gift of Her sadism.

thanks,

subtexxt
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 11:49:04 AM   
BeachMystress


Posts: 2156
Joined: 4/3/2004
From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California
Status: offline
ok, you need to breathe through the pain. Do not hold your breath. Concentrate on your breathing.

Another way is to see your body as a large house. When something bad is being done in the backyard, go upstairs to the attic on the other side of the house. Actively ignore the bad stuff going on.

Don't worry, your pain tolerance will increase. By the end of the year you'll be looking back going.. "I thought that hurt? I was a real wuss back then."

_____________________________

Beach Mystress
*Do not threaten the weak. Intimidate the strong. ~ Stevenson*
http://beachmystress.jigsy.com
http://www.flickr.com/photos/beachmystress/

(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 1:01:07 PM   
darlyn


Posts: 24
Status: offline 		BeachMystress has a good point... it is about refocusing, sometimes it is the change of what is being felt... taking it in the mind from the pain to the heat to the warmth to the pleasure. It is very much a learned thing. If you think about how you may have felt to once fear a simple spanking and yet now you may wish that a simple spanking is all it was! lol

Personally, i find that if permitted orgasm, it will 'melt away' all of the other sensations (when allowed)... this is because the focus of my attention is no longer on the pain that i am feeling, but on the pleasures i am experiencing. In time, it may all blend well together, but be prepared to know that if you are not a masochist by nature, then these things may not come to pass. Not everyone enjoys the same playing of the edge of S/m and every Sadist is different by nature.

_____________________________

~darlyn~

"Nurturing the mind is just as important as pushing the limits of the body." ~ Master of my Destiny

(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 3:35:06 PM   
INSIDEYOURMIND


Posts: 483
Status: offline 		Focusing on your breathing will help you though some of the pain, concentrate on taking deep breaths through your nose, and exhaling out your mouth, come up with a cadence that works for you, being careful not to hyperventilate.

By the way, your body will adjust to the pain in time, well, some of the pain!


_____________________________

If I got smart with you.................
How would you know?

(in reply to darlyn)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 4:52:55 PM   
realophelia


Posts: 168
Status: offline 		Rather than tolerating the pain, try allowing yourself to react to it (if you don't already). Tears work for me.

~Ophelia

_____________________________

"And every one of them words rang true And glowed like burning coal Pouring off of every page Like it was written in my soul..."

(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 4:53:38 PM   
jillwfsub4blkdom


Posts: 375
Joined: 7/2/2004
Status: offline 		Are you sure it is something you want to do? i tried dealing with a sadist and thought i would be able to handle anything based on my feelings for Him. i learned very quickly that i was not cut out for that kind of Domination.

jill

_____________________________


"It's the moment that transcends
Our physical into a more spiritual level of understanding" - Musiq

(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 9:47:33 PM   
slavebaby


Posts: 6
Joined: 1/1/2005
Status: offline 		Just to add to what jill said..be sure it's something you truly want and can commit to...and not something thats making you downright miserable and becoming a battle in your efforts to serve/submit.

I do understand your wanting to please your Mistress but, I'm not sure Sadism would really be considered a "gift" to someone who doesn't at least have masochistic tendencies.
(and even then a debateable term to even a masochist)

I wish I could help you here but, I've never really thought much about how to endure pain because it's always been a pleasant sensation for me, an escape, a safe place etc.....not an enduring task.

A few things that might help have already been mentioned but, to be honest if your Mistress is Sadistic and you really have no interest in Masochism..I don't really have any words of wisdom that will turn you into something your not.

Hope that made some sense..and best of luck to you..

~tam




(in reply to jillwfsub4blkdom)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 10:03:44 PM   
cynicalsuffering


Posts: 7
Joined: 10/7/2004
Status: offline 		Personally I find that NOT having an orgasm before hand is much more conducive to pain tolerance. After a release I am much more sensitive all over, and cant tolerate heavy play at that point. The best bet is practice, practice, practice...you will get better as time goes and the practicing is most of the fun. I hope your Domme is "warming you up" well. If you start out with a light beating (or whatever) and increase the intensity, you will build up a tolerance just within the scene. Being in the correct headspace to begin with is also very helpful. Some folks use rituals to get them into their roles, and to become mentally ready for a scene. Have fun...enjoy the journey.

(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/4/2005 10:12:42 PM   
subtexxxt


Posts: 20
Joined: 12/8/2004
Status: offline 		Thank Y/you A/all for the words of wisdom.

Yes i'm sure this is what i want, this Woman is truly my soul mate and i sincerly want to be what pleases Her. In the past i've experienced some intense pain and had a high threshold but that was years ago -- and i've noticed my threshold does increase according to my emotional attachment. i have yet to have experience Her sadism but i know its coming -- She is a ProDomme and i've "heard" from subs that She puts the 'S' in sadism -- so needless to say i'm a lil nervous.

Thanks again for the words of advice.

(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/5/2005 12:13:36 AM   
proudsub


Posts: 6142
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Washington
Status: offline
quote:

Does anyone here have any tips / ideas for this non-masochistic slave to increase my endurance / pain threshold???

These threads might be of help:

tolerance/endurance

tolerance to pain

can you train a submissive to be a pain slut




_____________________________

proudsub

"Without goals you become what you were. With goals you become what you wish." .

"You are entitled to your own opinions but not your own facts"--Alan Greenspan


(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/5/2005 6:18:54 AM   
topcat


Posts: 1675
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Tidewater, VA
Status: offline
quote:

Does anyone here have any tips / ideas for this non-masochistic slave to increase my endurance / pain threshold???


Midear Texxxt-

I'd sugest opening yourself to the pain- welcome it in and let it blow through you. Relax into the moment instead of grabbing onto it. Imagine that it is traveling from the impact site through your body and going to ground through your restriants, like an electrical current (another reason restriants are a kindness<g>).

The above is the only tatic that seems to help me as a bottom. As a top, my sadism isn't feed so much by my application, but by their recepection of it, so do react (honestly, now, no hamming it up<g>) instead of taking it stoicly.

Stay warm,
Lawrence

_____________________________

-there is no remission without blood-

(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/6/2005 12:16:48 AM   
subtexxxt


Posts: 20
Joined: 12/8/2004
Status: offline 		wow,

Thank you A/all for the words of advice / and links. Its greatly appreciated.

respectfully,

subtexxxt

(in reply to topcat)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/6/2005 6:19:28 PM   
liltxsubby


Posts: 328
Joined: 11/18/2004
From: TX
Status: offline 		Thank you subtexxt for asking this question, to everyone for giving sucj wonderful replies and links. i have an upcoming meeting with a sadist soon and these same questions had been running through my mind. i'm nervous, excited, only a little apprehensive. i'm sure (i hope) all these mixed feelings are normal as with any new experience. more than anything i'm very excited about it, and can hardly wait. this info will make everything a lot easier instead of going in completelly blind

(in reply to subtexxxt)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/6/2005 7:58:45 PM   
SweetlyMisguided


Posts: 44
Joined: 2/10/2004
Status: offline 		Breathe, relax, and most important of all... DON'T tense up... it only makes things worse.

I used to be one who couldn't handle pain... now I march along with the best of em because through relaxation, practice, and building up, I've learned to enjoy it...

And another thing... make sure it's something that you REALLY want to do for you... don't allow anyone to "force" you into becoming something you aren't!

_____________________________

Very much taken, very much loved...

(in reply to liltxsubby)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/6/2005 11:44:42 PM   
perverseangelic


Posts: 2625
Joined: 2/2/2004
From: Davis, Ca
Status: offline 		I second the comment about -not- having orgasms. It makes it much easier for my endorphins to get to the level which makes the pain go away or feel amazing.

I also second the part about relaxing. Do it conciously. Tell each part of your body to calm down. (This is the one that got me thorugh nipple peircings. Ow.)

Also, if it's ok with your partner, don't hesitate to make noise. This only works for me sometimes, but vocalizing helps me to flow with pain and just let it happen.

_____________________________

~in the begining it is always dark~

(in reply to SweetlyMisguided)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/7/2005 12:30:46 AM   
SherriA


Posts: 544
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: topcat

I'd sugest opening yourself to the pain- welcome it in and let it blow through you. Relax into the moment instead of grabbing onto it. Imagine that it is traveling from the impact site through your body and going to ground through your restriants, like an electrical current (another reason restriants are a kindness<g>).


It's energy, entering your body, so like Lawrence says, let it move through you and out. Sometimes it helps to "transform" the energy - into sound (yell, curse, etc) or movement (stomp your feet, bang your fists against the wall, shake, etc). YOu can do it with colour or light. It's a little more esoteric, but sometimes I can "feel" what colour the energy is, and change it into something else (purple works well for me usually).

And breathing. As has been said already, don't forget to breathe. You can actively exhale the energy, and rhythmic deep breathing helps you relax as well.

quote:


As a top, my sadism isn't feed so much by my application, but by their recepection of it, so do react (honestly, now, no hamming it up<g>) instead of taking it stoicly.


Stoic bottoms do nothing for me. Why am I expending all this energy if they're going to ignore it? What do I get out of that? It's all about the reactions for me.


_____________________________

-- Sherri

Fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity.

(in reply to topcat)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/7/2005 7:14:08 AM   
subhubc


Posts: 23
Joined: 12/14/2004
Status: offline 		Building that pain threshold is difficult at first. Being gagged and / or having something to bite down on helps. I agree with the comments on emotional attachment and transferrance as helping, it built my threshold greatly over time. Sometimes, during a very savage scene, she will place a washcloth, sock, panties, or similar item in my mouth. Obviously, everyone is different and there is no one fits all solution.

(in reply to SherriA)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/17/2005 12:09:00 PM   
jayde25


Posts: 5
Joined: 1/17/2005
Status: offline 		Thank you for all advice posted to this thread. i used to be able to take anything anyone could dish out. Since becoming involved in a 24/7 relationship, i am not able to take anything this Master gives me. Even his smallest spankings are hard for me to take. Of course he has not formally tried any training with me in this area. i feel very bad as Master would really LOVE being able to really lay into me, but his style has been hard for me to adjust to. In seven months, i have hardly made any progress at all.

(in reply to subhubc)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/17/2005 12:25:15 PM   
Suleiman


Posts: 1127
Joined: 9/9/2004
Status: offline 		All my little nuggest of wisdom are pretty much used up in other people's posts. I would most assuredly pay attention to what Topcat, Perverseangelic, SherriA, and subhubc have to say.

And for crying out loud, if this person is a sadist, then SUFFER! Thrash, wail, cry, scream. It's fun for you and it's fun for them. Better yet, once you enter into a full-blown cathartic state, very often you hit a very calm, tranquil place deep within yourself, where it really is possible to accept whatever it is they have to dish out. Go there often enough, and you won't need quite so much drama to find your way there again. Eventually just the play space itself, or your dominant's favorite toys, or whatever paraphenalia you use as part of your play time rituals, will carry enough associative energy to put you in that place. Then you'll be able to do what you have asked about, to simply submit and accept the caress of her whip.

_____________________________

Think of my verbosity as a sort of litmus test for our relationship. I write in a manner identical to how I speak and how I think. If you can not cope with what I have written here, it is probably for the best if we go our separate ways.

(in reply to jayde25)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: serving a SADIST - 1/17/2005 3:05:51 PM   
nella


Posts: 1243
Joined: 12/30/2004
From: Norway
Status: offline 		I wish you luck, some types of meditation might work, some types of chrystals in the room can also reduse the feeling of pain as bad, for you belive in that sort of things.

(in reply to Suleiman)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> serving a SADIST Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.078