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RE: serving a SADIST - 1/18/2005 5:14:19 PM

subhubc

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Well stated Suleiman. I can usually place myself there, except during Her very harshest beatings. It is very much a battle with the mind in serving a sadist.

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RE: serving a SADIST - 1/19/2005 7:04:01 AM

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I too had trouble in the beginning accepting the pain inflicted. I found that if I breathe slowly, relax myself as much as possible and MAINLY, take my thoughts to some distant place, it is much better.

We had a huge tree in our back yard and that was the center of our play ..... it was our cross .... or our suspension .... I would while chained with my arms high, take my thoughts over the fence into the world beyond the back yard.....it gave me something to think about and worked really well.

Good luck and may you come to enjoy the pain / pleasure... I did and now crave it.

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RE: serving a SADIST - 1/19/2005 12:40:54 PM

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Hello. i found my self in the very same predicament a few months back. i had always had a decent pain threshold but after being in a car accident we could not keep up with our usual schedule so i turned into a big sissy! What helps me is to do chants in my head. i have found that keeping a constant litany of "He is my Master He will not hurt me" going over in my head along with proper breathing helps me. It becomes almost a magic charm and the power i feel inside me when i can take even the harshest of blows without sound makes me proud. Also I have found that if i take the pain into me(it is kind of hard to explain)it only hurts for a second and then it is almost as if a warm liquid replaces the pain and it spreads out and envelopes my body. So i guess i basically just said kind of what everybody else said*insert sheepish grin...here*

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RE: serving a SADIST - 1/24/2005 11:56:46 PM

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texxxt,

The only thing that I did not see mentioned in this thread, is how pain thresholds vary from session to session. There are a plethora of outside influences that contribute to the subs' mindset, hence, her pain threshold. There were times, where I had my Dom stop the scene, and other times, I couldn't take a caning! So, don't be discouraged if you find there are times that you can't tolerate the pain...let it go...get back up and ride the wave again!

Best of luck!

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RE: serving a SADIST - 1/28/2005 8:46:41 AM

sweetpettjenny

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i found when i was owned by a sadist that i would remove myself from the pain...go somewhere else and think to myself i adore my owner i am pleasing him by accepting his pain. Not too long after a touch or whisper and id be out cold in sub space

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RE: serving a SADIST - 1/28/2005 4:54:44 PM

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Does anyone here have any tips / ideas for this non-masochistic slave to increase my endurance / pain threshold???

Practice, practice, practice...

Oh. As many have said, your breathing patterns have a lot to do with how your body experiences pain.

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RE: serving a SADIST - 1/29/2005 11:15:07 PM

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First off, this one believes that if your not enjoying what you are doing, for your pleasure or for the pleasure of your Mistress, you shouldn't be doing it.

Other than that, try this...focus the pain from your body towards your sensous parts...make the pain become your pleasure...learn to turn it from pain to pleasure...make the focus be on your bodies pleasures, not on the pain.

As a mashocist, and the slave of a sadist, she has learned that turing the pain to pleasure is your best bet...one that your body can handle, and the mind can accept.

miss_cherry, proud alpha slave to Master Handfull

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RE: serving a SADIST - 2/8/2005 11:16:13 AM

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For me, it was looking in his eyes and helping me focus through the pain and his beautiful words of endearments to me as he hurt me and pushed me further. I hated the pain but I LOVED his reactions to my pain, it made it all worth it to me. I would fly for days after seeing him!

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RE: serving a SADIST - 2/8/2005 1:56:50 PM

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My Dom is a bit sadistic, i can notice that when he for example use me analy and it hurt a bit and i whimper he get more aroused. i to like a bit of pain, and i am working on being aboute to handel more. i think that many werry good sugestions have come up in this tread.

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RE: serving a SADIST - 2/8/2005 7:39:55 PM

TolerableCruelty

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I saw 1 thing that you posted, texxxt, which hit a trigger for My response.... you said She was a ProDomme with a "rep" around the scene? well, here's My usual abrasive piece of advice to you.... quit being a sissy about it.

if She's good enough to have a reputation around Her peers, then She knows what She's doing an She's not going to hurt you..... tell Her you're a novice to the painslut thing, She'll take it easy, I'm sure.

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RE: serving a SADIST - 2/9/2005 6:45:33 AM

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jayde,

cailin knows exactly where you are coming from. she is now owned by a Sadist and has for 8 months, now. Before then, she was in a terrible relationship where there was no "good stuff". cailin was/is a pain slut and Master fulfills those desires that are deep within her, but as of late, she has noticed that her tolerance for those wonderful moments are on the low end. Master says it's because it has been a while and the more He works on her, the better off she'll be. So it is true what Tthey say? "Perfect practice makes perfect" The more she gets beaten, the more she will fill ya in.

~His cailin

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RE: serving a SADIST - 2/10/2005 5:04:12 AM

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fIRST OF ALL A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A SADIST AND A SAVAGE.any ASS HOLE WITH OUT ANY EXPERIENCE CAN CALL HIMSELF SO AND BEAT THE HELL OF OF A SUB/SLAVE..a GOOD DOMINATE WILL LET YOU STEP INTO YOUR PAIN AND TAKE YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY IN STAGES.pain IS NOT FOR ALL BUT TO FACE THE BEAST AND COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE WILL GIVE YOU A LITTLE PEEK AT YOUR SOUL...make SURE WHOM EVER YOU PLAY WITH IS EXPERIENCED AND HAVE REFERENCE..THE ONLY WAY TO"fly" bREATHING IS A WAY TO BREAK THUR...BOUNTY HUNTER

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RE: serving a SADIST - 2/10/2005 10:13:17 PM

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I've spent a couple of days trying to word my response to this post without offending someone.

I'm married to a man considered to one of the heaviests sadists in the area. I'm not much of a masochist.

I guess the first thing that strikes me is the way that people say sadist, like they're a completly different breed. It strikes me as odd. I'm not quite sure why, so don't put too much on that. But, I believe that he is first and foremost a dominant.

Second, he has a volume button. He knows that I can't take as much as he can give and he adjusts himself accordingly. The goal of our lives is to make BOTH of us are happy. He says that domination is about control and that control also extends to his own actions. He says that what he enjoys most is the reactions and he if he can get the same reaction with less arm, then he's just as happy.

Now, that said....he enjoys pushing me to my limit. His goal is to get me to sceam yellow. But he also realizes that it takes alot less to get me there than some of his previous subs and adjusts himself accordingly.

As far as advice.....the way I learned to associate pain with pleasure was to masturbate through it. After awhile I didn't have to any more. I don't know if it would work for anyone else though.

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RE: serving a SADIST - 2/21/2005 6:58:19 AM

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I know this is an old thread and probably a moot point by now but I couldn't resist adding some thoughts that no one else thought to mention.

For me, what turns the key and cranks the motor is the D/s aspects of things. When faced with these same fears a while back I discovered that the more D/s that was incorporated into a scene the more aroused I became and the more aroused I became the more pain I could tolerate.

Learning all of this I had a ritual that I did beforehand when I knew I'd see him that began the D/s process even before he arrived. Bathing, shaving, dressing to please him put my head in the right place even before he walked through the door.

Ummm...And the lovely bruises and welts afterwards didn't hurt...Love being marked...

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RE: serving a SADIST - 2/21/2005 7:25:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: synserity

First off, this one believes that if your not enjoying what you are doing, for your pleasure or for the pleasure of your Mistress, you shouldn't be doing it.

One can be happy that they are pleasing the dom, and still absolutely HATE what they have to do in order to please them.

For me, I like to put as "I love everything about the pain play except the pain part"

I don't go into subspace in pain play, I don't have happy endorphin rushes, I don't connect in some intimate intense way- it just really hurts. I cry, I shake, I beg, but it just hurts.

And it doesn't matter what level it is- it's all either pain or nothing to me. I don't have a pain/pleasure balance. And I'm saying this after lots of experience from lots of different players.

I love that I give them that, I love that I surrender that, I love the marks, I love that I endure so much. But I HATE the pain.

How to get through it? Breath. Communicate. Try and remember that you've always gotten through it before. If he wants you to build a tolerance, than regular play and build up can help.

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