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RE: Commitment - 9/5/2006 3:29:16 PM

eyesopened

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*Laughs* Oh, hell, at this point i'd settle for "cared for and special"

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RE: Commitment - 9/5/2006 3:37:16 PM

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I don't necessarily fear falling for a Dominant, but i do have a fear of committment...

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RE: Commitment - 9/5/2006 5:16:54 PM

Casie

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I Never had a fear for falling for my Dom just because if I were in love with him his happiness would be an even larger priority. And I resently married my dom! Does that make us less comitted to the lifestyle.....no. We love eachother, and I feel asif he owns me more now than ever.

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RE: Commitment - 9/5/2006 6:23:15 PM

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I do want a committed relationship with a dominant woman. I feel that there would be more trust in this kind of relationship. I would ask her if she is looking for a committed relationship. I would like to find a woman to be friends with first. That I would know she is dominant and she would know I am submissive from the start of the relationship. I think building a long-term relationship takes time.

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RE: Commitment - 9/5/2006 8:31:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tikkiee

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Just wondering about wether or not subs have commitment issues, do subs get scared about falling for Dom/me

Why is it that if a person does not look for love ever lasting in a relationship...that they are automatically assumed to have commitment issues? Just curious is all?

I don't want or need romantic love in my life, and yet I can still commit to a relationship based on other things.

Inquiring minds want to know

Tikkiee,

I am right there with you on this one. I am currently with an owner and am very clear that I am not in love nor do I look to "fall in love" with Him or His wife (my sister slave). However, that does not make me any less committed to Him as His slave. If anything it keeps the focus where I want and need it to be.. on the D/s.

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RE: Commitment - 9/5/2006 9:35:28 PM

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I fell for my Dom at the same time I knew He was falling for me ... or I wouldn't have opened up to him. I've never been in a D/s just for play ... I can imagine it, could probably do it, but don't want it.

Why the fear? Too many others involved?

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RE: Commitment - 9/6/2006 12:59:31 AM

MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Destroy the D/s M/s dynamic i find that very interesting why would love do that? My Master ans i love each other and from what i read many other subs/slaves and Masters love each other, and it works for them and us. I must admit though my late Master did tell me not to fall in love with him though he must have felt the same way i guess but he did not say it in so many words. Some people just feel that way i guess.

Matt's littleone

You responded to my post, and I'm very perplexed as to what your post had to do with what I said.....might you elaborate a bit more?

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RE: Commitment - 9/6/2006 1:14:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

*Laughs* Oh, hell, at this point i'd settle for "cared for and special"

LOL....awww

I don't have a great deal of faith in the idea of *love* being the basis for being with another person or committing to them.

I often think that when people speak of *love* they are actually wishing for *security* and commitment..... and those things are not dependant on someone professing *love* for you.

The word *love* is bandied around so much that it means very little to me............It's possible to feel very loved by someone that doesn't *love* you in the romantic sense...............and to feel unloved by someone that declares it loud and often. It's how YOU feel, not what someone can give you.

As Tikkiee said........a relationship can be based on many other things that are just as satisfying.

*Love* is over-rated.

Regards, agirl

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