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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/5/2006 11:48:36 AM

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Catharsis happens in many ways and pain is often a cathartic influence. Some people scream, some people speak in tongues, some people laugh. Changing the reaction can be a very slow, hard process, because you have to focus on what you're doing, which can totally bring you out of the head space. But, like any behavior, it can be changed. It takes time, work and patience, mostly from the one who is most offended.

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/5/2006 12:07:04 PM

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Wow now i feel so much better-i'm not the only one. WHEW! I began to laugh hysterically when i was getting a really painful punishment one night and i couldn't stop. my Daddy/Master teased me about it but wasn't upset by the response at all. i'd never done that before and since it was punishment vs. play there wasn't the warm up to be pleasurable. At the moment i felt like screaming because inside i knew there was no escaping it and all i could do was accept it. OUCH-hehehehe-OUCH!

W/we'd never played publicly b4 and i was so scared that i would do tht in public and it would reflect badly on my Daddy/Master. Thank God when we did the sensations were so different and i reacted more normally (for me) and not a laugh out of place.(some giggles at my vulnerability and in spots where it was intended by my D/M)

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/5/2006 1:10:45 PM

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Cathartic, yes. i remember when my sister lost her 9 year old son.. she laughed so hard at the funeral she hyperventalated and nearly had to be taken out. If she had been anyone other than the mother of the deceased, people might have wondered, but because she was mommy, everybody knew right away it was a cathartic release beyond her control.

MasterFireMaam, i appreciate Your posts and have enjoyed Your cm journal.. so i am asking in respect and curiosity, not as a challenge.. Do You feel cathatic response can be conditioned? i always assumed since it was something the body just took over, IT decides the manner in which it manifests.

But Your post seems to indicate it can be guided and controlled.. which isn't too odd really, considering people report successful conditioning in things like orgasm on command. i don't think it's a huge hijack if You were to tell some of the things You might do to change the reaction. if You have time and inclination to share...

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/5/2006 8:38:56 PM

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Not only do I laugh sometimes, I've down right burst into giggles, loud uncontrollable ones. I think to myself, "Why am I giggling, this isn't funny" Then I see the look on his face and I KNOW it's not funny, but there I am giggling away and unable to get a grip on myself, so I surrender to it and come out the other side floaty if more pain is applied. If the giggles cause him to stop what he's doing then my system is almost in shock and this anger takes the place of giggles.

I no longer try to reason the 'why' to what my body is doing or how I'm reacting, I just relax into the moment and go along for the ride, it's so much more fun that way.

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/6/2006 1:02:17 PM

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great subject. i have experienced this also, and realized that when i am nervous.. which sometimes occurs as a scene intensifies, i often giggle as a result of the nervousness. i dont find any scene funny, no matter who enjoyable, but up come the giggles anyways. i have found that to either increase or decrease the intensity of play abruptly can often get me off of that giggling track and back in focus.

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/6/2006 1:34:05 PM

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I also have this problem where I laugh uncontrolably or can't stop smiley. It tends to agervate my dom who quickly takes to next level getting a scream out of me then the laughter is cured

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/6/2006 6:30:49 PM

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Everyone's pain response is different. Pain is an incredibly individual experience and how many variations of how people react to it never fails to amaze me (and I'm sure is something that influences my sadism). It is not something you can really control. This is something your Dominant will have to get used to.

For me, it is hard to remember I am human as a masochist. My Tops are literally beating a snarling, hissing, attacking, flinching, yelping feline, something they soon get to realize as my threshold is pressed.

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/6/2006 7:01:18 PM

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I can't comment on your situation, but I can say, right after I orgasm, I laugh.

Now, it's not a "that was really funny" laugh, it's more of a "I feel so freaking GOOD right now that I just can't possibly hold back another second" kind of laugh.

(Unfortunately, my last girlfriend didn't appreciate my joy hahahahahahaha).

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/6/2006 7:35:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1

Recently, the amount of pain being given me, has increased. Im enjoying this immensly, if you can say that about pain. But im reacting in a way that i dont understand, and is not pleasing to him. Im giggling and laughing. Its not because i think its funny, its just once we hit a certain level of intensity, i start laughing. The result of this is that it takes him out of his space, and disrupts play to a certain extent.
This usually occurs right on the edge of what i can take. Im in a situation where a safe word is acceptable and welcomed if necessary. So its not a get out clause on my part. Id really like to stop it, but havent been able to work out how.

Any thoughts or similar experiences?
littleone

i do something that is similar. i don't know why and it gets on Master's nerves to the extreme. When He is yelling at me, i "smirk" or laugh at Him...

its very annoying, isn't it?

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/7/2006 3:18:57 AM

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Well, that's answered that then. A catharsis. And one im unlikely to be able to control, nor he.

As for subspace, i didnt actually get in deep on that occasion. Just the floaty pre subspace feeling. But yes, that's a place i can go to.

Thankyou for your responses. He has read this thread today. So, hopefully, it may offer him as much reassurance as it has me.
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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/7/2006 4:40:25 PM

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This is something that I just cringe about. How embarrassing it was that first time that I actually got that far. My funny thing is that it happens from not only pain, but also from pleasure. SO bad is my nasty little secret, that I before I discovered this lifestyle, I'd purposely try not to "enjoy" encounters. The first time I was actually with a Dominant, he and his WONDERFUL wife had to endure what seemed like HOURS of my non-stop giggling and almost jerking "aftershocks".

While its terrible for my Master to tease me about my little snickers, it gives Him a deep satisfactory grin that just is worth the extra licks I get for giggling.

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/7/2006 5:18:52 PM

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A catharsis. And one im unlikely to be able to control, nor he.

Something to think about.

Just accept that it is a part of your time together. There is nothing bad, or insulting in it. Laughing at a time such as that can be unbelievably beautiful if you both accept that it is just one more step on the ladder.

You sound so dejected in what you said there. Don't be

Enjoy the sensation while it lasts.

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RE: pain and laughing? - 9/7/2006 6:23:50 PM

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quote:

Well, that's answered that then. A catharsis. And one im unlikely to be able to control, nor he.

It is just something the two of you will have to accept and anticipate. If you go into higher pain scenes, it is likely the response will get stronger or more insistent. You may eventually reach a new response that might throw the two of you off guard.

As far as subspace goes, that too is individual. Some people never fly. Even then though, there is honesty through pain. Things you can't expect, control or fake, to happen will happen.

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