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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/7/2006 3:29:55 PM

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I agree with it depends on how its delivered.

The one thing I really dont like and I wont read....is a 1st letter 2 pages long about some
fantasy they copied,pasted and call their own.

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/7/2006 6:58:08 PM

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i believe that manners play a major role in discussing fantasies with a Dom/me. If i am not invited to speak of these things, i will not do so. If someone invites me into their home, i would not go into their kitchen and make myself a sandwich or a cup of coffee without an invitation to do so, and i believe that a similar concept applies.
If i am not asked, i would not feel right about discussing fantasies.

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/7/2006 8:06:31 PM

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Depends on the sub.

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/7/2006 8:47:12 PM

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I think that you should what to her our fantasies. You don't have to follow them just hear her out

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/8/2006 9:36:31 AM

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somehow, I'm less than surprised that a sub thinks that we should want to hear their fantasies.

Once again, it's not that none of us want to hear them, its that, by and large, we want to not hear them until we've asked for them. I do not want someone randomly off the street that I've never talked to before to come up and start talking about sexual fantasies that they have - that's rude, and disturbing, and honestly would most likely end up in me yelling for the nearest policeperson. Same thing if it happened in a bar. So why should it be acceptable for someone that I've never talked to before to send me an e-mail with their sexual fantasies?

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/8/2006 10:11:20 AM

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I don't want to hear a sub's fantasies. I am not aiming to fulfill his fantasies, I am aiming to fulfill mine. I am not a service top. I have a host of my own nasty and evil fantasies and urges that drive me to do what I want to do; I need a man that is willing to endure these things because he really enjoys getting me off or making me happy.

In the course of doing what I do, it's inevitable that I find out what buttons he has. A lot of times, I find out buttons he didn't know even know he had. That's much hotter than getting a list of things and then trying to figure out how to integrate them.

I'm far more prone to "use" a man's fantasies/fetishes to make him submit through teasing and denial or button pushing, but I don't do what I do with a nagging voice in my head saying, "I hope I'm fulfilling his fantasy correctly."

I could easily never hear a male sub's fantasy again and would still be dominating then way I do; I didn't become a femdom to cater to men. I just have my own twisted kind of sensuality.

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/25/2006 4:31:44 PM

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Exactly. I tend to do the same, saying that I am busy or something. I don't always want to talk about fantasies, how about some other subject like movies, music, the weather. It's always the same thing...they go on about a fantasy wanting me to waste my time with wank stuff. If they want to pay for it I will do that but without the cash, unless it is someone I know and want to so that with.

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/25/2006 4:46:59 PM

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I think it's creepy as fuck if some stranger emails me right off the bat with explicitly kinky fantasies. What that tells me is that he has no interest in getting to know me as a person. If someone is incapable of talking like a nice, normal human being when they introduce themselves, I'm not interested.

After I've gotten to know someone as a person and it's obvious that I enjoy their company and conversation, I'll probably ask them what their fantasies are. That's the point at which I want to hear about them in detail. But definitely not before.

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/25/2006 7:04:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kahri

In another thread there is a discussion of subs sending fantasies to Dommes, and a few members said that they don't like that. I thought it would be interesting to hear opinions, both pro and con.

Personally, I like to get one or two fantasies from a sub. I can find out quickly if there is a level of mutual interest, and get an idea of whether I am the kind of Domme that sub wants to submit to. I don't feel myself bound to act out those fantasies at all, but it gives me an idea of where they are coming from and how to guide them to what I want them to be.

How do others feel?

Exactly why I use them also.

I also had Slave write up our sessions we would do. I noted the things he would leave out. This revealed things he didn't like (believe it or not). All subconscious. Then we would discuss what worked and didn't.

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/25/2006 7:42:44 PM

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/25/2006 9:10:20 PM

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sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them?

On here, yes... In my mailbox, no, or not until I ask for it.
I wouldn't mind a thread from male subs expressing what they ultimately desire in a relationship with their female dominant. M

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RE: sub's fantasies - Do You want to hear them? - 9/27/2006 3:53:33 AM

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greetings to all

i think it is something i do not care to hear anymore i think they get off teling us this stuff. the first is alway may i kiss you feet may i ground this or that then no name lol how silly no name is written on the email no i do not to hear anyone fansty only if i know them well

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