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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 1:21:31 PM

juliaoceania

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The men I have had my longest and deepest associations with there was an instant "click". Was that "love", no it wasn't. It does not even need to be "at first sight" because one of the deepest loves I have ever felt or been hurt by I fell "in love" with his voice in chat. Just the sound of his voice made me swoon. It was like this when we met in person too.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 3:59:16 PM

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I'm just curious how many of you felt an instant connection or a "love at first sight" type feeling when you met your partner.

Obviously "love" , true love, is something that takes time and trust to build. But what I'm referring to is that feeling of "I've known you all my life" or feeling instantly "at home" with someone as if you'd been involved with them for years.

If you did have that instant feeling of connection, did it last or did it just burn passionately for a short time and then dissipate?

I ask because I met a wonderful dominant this weekend whom I had been corresponding with via phone and email for a couple of weeks and as soon as I met him, I felt as if he were my best friend. I was just immediately comfortable with him. We spent the night hanging out and cuddling on his bed watching movies like an old married couple.

After hanging out for several hours,we eventually proceeded to become physically intimate and there was none of the awkwardess that usually accompanie a first encounter with a new partner. It was like we just "read" each other perfectly. It was the oddest experience of my life, but also one of the most pleasant.

I spent the majority of the weekend with him and I just feel this amazing connection such as I've never felt before (not even with my ex husband.) It was just WEIRD.

So I guess I'm just wandering how many others have gone through that and how it worked out for them. I don't want to fall head over heels for this guy too quickly but I'm having a very hard time keeping my feelings in check. I don't want to become too infatuated too quickly and then get hurt...but things just feel so RIGHT with him! I've had plenty of lovers/sex partners in my past but never felt anything like this before.

Has anyone else had a similiar experience?

While i have felt an instant connection, i wouldn't call it a "love at first sight" type feeling. It was more of a "i'm falling in ... deeply, quickly". The actual awareness of "it's definitely love" happened about a week later, at most.

It was definitely an instant feeling of connection, which has lasted and continues to burn more passionately as times goes on, with no sign of the potential for it to dissipate.

He's my best friend. i'm madly in love and lust with Him. And i have never felt so 'at home', or that i am 'where i belong', than i have felt with Him. i wouldn't say that i feel as if i have 'known Him all of my life' because just when i think i know Him, i learn something new about Him. If anything, i feel cheated by life for not having met Him years earlier. A lifetime will never be enough for me ....

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 6:58:31 PM

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Thanks for the responses everyone. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.

Now the question is "How do I deal with being away from him, when I feel so good with him?"

He lives 3hrs away and I can't make it down to see him EVERY week. I know next week he has plans, so I won't get to seem him. The weekend after that I'm coming down, but that still means two weeks without him.

I'm sitting here, and sort of 'dropping' and feeling a bit depressed over it. He and I both have very busy schedules and I doubt I'll be able to see him more than twice a month. Sigh....

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 7:24:21 PM

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This is why I said in the beginning:

It's great that it feels right for you, just remember your own words- it still takes time. Time will see whether your new relationship energy will firm itself into a lasting strong connection between you both.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 8:09:48 PM

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When I was younger I felt this way a couple of times..However for one reason or another it never worked out...As I am older now it seems to be harder to get even a mild click when I meet someone..I am not sure if it is the walls that become built up over the years or just simply takes more for me to connect..Kind of sad really I miss those feelings..

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 9:02:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

I'm just curious how many of you felt an instant connection or a "love at first sight" type feeling when you met your partner.

Ive had "vibe at first sight" but didnt know yet that it was love.

The first time I met my ex husband, I was 18. He was a customer in a place I was waitressing in. The minute I layed eyes on him, I had the feeling that I knew him. It was such a strange feeling of familiarity, almost like seeing a brother or something. I knew I didnt know him and had never met him before, yet it felt like I was looking at someone that I had known my whole life. It was chilling, really.

That was the first and last time I had ever felt anything that I would liken to love at first sight.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 9:17:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

I'm just curious how many of you felt an instant connection or a "love at first sight" type feeling when you met your partner.

Actually, yes - when I first met my husband, it wasn't so much "love/lust at first sight" but rather almost like the pleasant serendipity when you run into someone that you were not expecting but are very happy to see again. This was not a "scene" meeting and we had never spoken before - we were just college students who ran into each other in the dorm. We clicked right away, then fell in love, and have been together ever since (over 20 years now!). Not to say there have not been challenges over the years, but we have always had a firm commitment to each other and this is going to sound very corny, but we feel that are somehow meant to be together. Maybe because both of us can be insufferable to anyone else??

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 9:18:41 PM

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Hey, LA, haven't we had a bunch of threads about this?

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 11:16:19 PM

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i did not believe... and it still happened when Master and i met. We broke all the rules, and are still living our happily ever after more than a year later...

May you be just as happy!

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/12/2006 11:59:53 PM

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Yep

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 12:05:18 AM

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Yes, I do.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 4:24:13 AM

slavejlb

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i dont even belive in instance soup, let alone istance emontions, that love at first sight only happen in the movies, and broadway plays, and is only because they a limited amont of time to feel something.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 6:51:13 AM

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I believe in it. I do however feel that it happens more often that one person feels the energy while the other does not.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 7:23:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
Hey, LA, haven't we had a bunch of threads about this?

Which this? LDRS? Love at first sight? Whether your first intuition is right or wrong? Whether you thought someone who was "the one" ended up being "the one"?

Not that it matters, the answer is yes. You want all the links?

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 7:56:44 AM

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I was thinking of this one:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_257471/mpage_1/tm.htm#257471

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 8:18:33 AM

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Yup that was a good one.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 8:20:14 AM

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Yes it happened to me.
First time I had no clue what was going on. Just that when I saw her for the first time, she glowed.
Second time was just as powerful but I made sure I did something about it.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 9:17:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

Thanks for the responses everyone. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.

Now the question is "How do I deal with being away from him, when I feel so good with him?"

He lives 3hrs away and I can't make it down to see him EVERY week. I know next week he has plans, so I won't get to seem him. The weekend after that I'm coming down, but that still means two weeks without him.

I'm sitting here, and sort of 'dropping' and feeling a bit depressed over it. He and I both have very busy schedules and I doubt I'll be able to see him more than twice a month. Sigh....

Well, we usually live 5 hours apart, and we used to have to go 6 weeks at a time apart. Recently i've temporarily moved closer, but that is ending next week. Then it will be back to once a month for a little while. It is hard -- very hard. But you know what? It is WORTH it! And in between, we write, we talk, and we remind each other (okay, he reminds me since it seems to be me with the most fears lol!) that we were already bonded before we even met, and once we get stuff sorted out (jobs, lives, etc...) we can be closer and see each other more. I'll be honest and admit I really do need a bit of extra reassurance when apart. Less than i used to, but it still does happen. one day it won't!

Oh, forgot to add, i also keep VERY busy. Which i will be anyway -- that really helps.

In the meantime, like somebody else said above, I sometimes resent that fact that we didn't find each other earlier, but now, we have a lifetime to explore and learn and revel in being together (though even a lifetime feels too short...) and every moment is just so precious ...

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 12:31:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
Now the question is "How do I deal with being away from him, when I feel so good with him?"

He lives 3hrs away and I can't make it down to see him EVERY week. I know next week he has plans, so I won't get to seem him. The weekend after that I'm coming down, but that still means two weeks without him.

I'm sitting here, and sort of 'dropping' and feeling a bit depressed over it. He and I both have very busy schedules and I doubt I'll be able to see him more than twice a month. Sigh....

To Your Initial question, yes I believe in love/something special at first sight, but don't believe that is enough to sustain a relationship. However, with me, a relationship has a significantly better chance of working out and lasting if we feel that certain connection initially (In a real time face to face meeting).

How to cope with not being able to see him often: speak every day in the morning or at night; send each other notes intermittently; have one or two things/routine/rituals (whether it is a phone call or a prayer) that you do to remain connected mentally/emotionally, are things that tend to work for me and the person who felt the same way about me.
It is depressing if you focus on the fact that you aren't immediately together, so rather, focus on life, work, family, and the fact that the show of every day mundane life must go on, until you are together again.
Good luck, M

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 12:48:15 PM

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I have felt attractions after "talking" with someone online for a brief while and not having any idea what she looked like. I can tell her intelligence and sensitivitiy right away as she can feel mine enough so that we both believe we have a "connection."

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