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RE: Male Subs with Both a "Straight" and a &q... - 12/20/2006 7:51:01 AM

labsintheriver

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Spot on! There is a lot of female arrogance as a result of the market dynamics.

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RE: Male Subs with Both a "Straight" and a &q... - 12/20/2006 10:38:34 AM

pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

Every now and then I come across a male sub who has both a straight and a bisexual profile. In all of the cases I have seen, both profiles have current activity, so it's not a case of one profile no longer being active. It would seem to Me that a person is either straight or bisexual. How can the same individual be both?

I wonder what is the motivation for doing this? Do they look at a particular Dominant's profile, then respond under the profile with the sexual orientation that they think the Dominant would find most appealing? I know some Dommes specifically state no bisexual men, so I wonder if they have the straight profile to respond to these Dommes? Or might they be straight, but open to bisexual experimentation?

Personally, I am open to either, which is how I come across these dual profiles. However, this practice seems a little deceptive to Me and I would be reluctant to get involved with such an individual.

I am curious as to what others think. What is the motivation for the two profiles? Dommes, would You still consider a sub if You ran across another profile from him with a different sexual orientation?

Lady Topaz

Perhap it is a case of "Marketing"? After all, a profile is essentially an advertisement an individual uses to market themselves to those looking for a particular kind of person. If one is open to serving a Dominant Woman either as a straight male or as a bisexual, perhaps it makes sense to have two profiles, one that is geared to women looking for one type of profile and another oriented toward women who seek the other type? I have no idea if this is the case, but perhaps this is an explanation for some.(shrug)

For many of us who use this site (myself included), if we found the right partner, some of the things we might enjoy or be open to, we would gladly give up when we take into consideration the benefits the overall relationship would bring to our happiness and the enjoyment of our lives. I already know that for me, what I've said clearly is the case. There are some things that I know I must have and others that I could just as easily take or leave. It would all be dependant on the woman and the joy that I felt she would bring to my life along with the other things that I believed we would share. So to me, it is not inconceivable what the OP has described would occur for some men, nor would it necessarily be a lie as I agree with much of what Sea has said in regard to the nature of human sexuality and the continuum that lies between being 100% heterosexual and 100% homosexual. To my mind, it would only be a lie if a man could not be faithful to his Domme as a heterosexual should that be the only condition under which she desired him. So, in my opinion, to have dual profiles with multiple sexual preferences, one preference would have to be primary and the other very much a secondary preference.

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RE: Male Subs with Both a "Straight" and a &q... - 12/20/2006 10:47:14 AM

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I take it as; if you can't get what you WANT.. you'll settle for what you can get.

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RE: Male Subs with Both a "Straight" and a &q... - 12/20/2006 11:35:31 AM

jdtallfem

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Most of the subs/slaves I've questioned who've listed themselves as bi have done so because their past Mistresses wanted them to be bi. Some enjoyed it, but often they just enjoyed submitting to their Mistress and wanted to let a future Mistress know they were open to that option.
When I asked them if they would feel deprived if they never exercised their bi option, they were happy to not do so.
I don't know anything about other profiles, but there are more male subs/slaves then females on most sites, so, guess they're just trying to do whatever works.
As far as myself I am on that Kinsey scale, have been an active bi in the past but lean more toward the straight side, list myself as straight here simply because I didn't want to confuse the issue in my active search for a male sub/slave. Once I find what I'm looking for, I'll probably change my profile.

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RE: Male Subs with Both a "Straight" and a &q... - 12/20/2006 7:27:33 PM

pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: jdtallfem

As far as myself I am on that Kinsey scale, have been an active bi in the past but lean more toward the straight side, list myself as straight here simply because I didn't want to confuse the issue in my active search for a male sub/slave. Once I find what I'm looking for, I'll probably change my profile.

I guess I'm a bit confused by what you've written above. Are you saying that you currently list yourself as straight in order to attract a male sub, but once you have one, you plan to change you profile and list yourself as bi? Somehow that doesn't quite equate for me. Not to judge, but it seems as though you'd be misrepresenting yourself to any potential male subs that you'd be trying to attract that might not wish to serve a Mistress who was bi.