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46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong withhim - 9/13/2006 12:48:11 AM   
mons


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i am a kind person always but i am still a domme i find people we take my kindness for weakness and use or ttyr to play games with me.
i just had a submissvie male who wrote me we began to talk i always have that feeling and it was there, i just thought talking was ok he sent ok email then i open my emails and i had 26 email from him and they were crazy it is as simple as that crazy. thing i heard of whcih i thought was ok but so manythings about this domme and how loveley she was and that domme who was stunning i am an artist i enjoy seeing a lovley woman but my gosh what wa he thinking he sent to much mail it made my email go slow this was on her cm. this one ios not the wrong track and scary i will not do this again i blocked him and dlelet everyone of the email 46 of them all sent at the smae time.
someon tell me why would someone go off like this and think it is ok.
 
mons thank for you adivce
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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 1:18:23 AM   
popeye1250


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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 1:23:30 AM   
porcelaine


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Status: offline 		46? Gosh I'm jealous. I need to have a chit chat with my Sir! *g*

Seriously, perhaps he was in a talkative mood. Assuming they weren't identical and it wasn't a technical glitch I would gather he just wanted to make a statement. From the looks of it he did.

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 2:49:49 AM   
mons


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oh i wish they had been of the same subject each one was as crazy as can be one after another each one with a different suject and he was mad i did not asnwer them in the order they were given. the last straw was i ppick one out of the batch and it has about mental patient and how beating was helping them ok i had it i delete all of his mail block him i think he was ill i never had this happen before. when he said he was blackmailed i should had know something. he needs help this is so strange he wrote me things about how and why slaves are slavel with a display wow i was like no more my kindness is taken for weakness and i am not that oh yes it had to be something very wrong there
 
thanks for repying
 
mons

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 3:35:40 AM   
zero69u2


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Status: offline 		quote "he was mad i did not asnwer them"  Ridiculous.. your the dominant. he's there to please you. he's having a tantrum and craves attention.. do the sadistic thing and deny him the pleasure.. and/or take charge of the situation and tell him what appropriate behavior is and what's not.
If you have'nt responded and he's sent 3 emails. that's all he is allowed per day.

You blocked him.. that's a good response. but it really does'nt stop what he'll do to the next dominant and the tantrum continues.



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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 4:37:35 AM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		Yes I would say that's a sign of mental or drug problems or both. That's just really erratic, out of control behavior and it sounds like you did the right thing.

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 4:49:30 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		The guy was desperate and trying to hard to impress you. Did you tell him to cut the emails down to a few a day. If so then you did the right thing by blocking him. Trading seveeral emails a day with one person is the norm for me but anything more and I put a stopper on it.

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 6:20:03 AM   
Aubre


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Status: offline 		I think it's time to block his email.

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 6:36:38 AM   
Phoenixandnika


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Status: offline 		mons,
Did you discuss with him that you thought this was excess and that it bothered you? Did he continue after you told him? If you didn't tell him it bothered you, how would he know? Perhaps to him and others it is "acceptable" to write so many emails in a day.ut if you do not communicate your feelings or stand on the subject how will he or anyone else your corresponding with know?
 
 
 
zero,
I have an issue with the this statement :Ridiculous.. your the dominant. he's there to please you. I was not under the impression that there was a collar involved. I was under the impression that they where simply "getting to know one another" and in my opinion a dominate can not assume power over a submissive simply because they are dominate.There has to be an exchange there, one both parties agree upon. I would also venture to say that when a submissive/slave emails or corresponds with dominate though they should be respectful they are not under any obligation to "please" that dominate. Yes they may be a dominant, however; they are NOT their Dom.
 
 
 

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 7:13:52 AM   
CreativeDominant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: zero69u2

quote "he was mad i did not asnwer them"  Ridiculous.. your the dominant. he's there to please you. he's having a tantrum and craves attention.. do the sadistic thing and deny him the pleasure.. and/or take charge of the situation and tell him what appropriate behavior is and what's not.
If you have'nt responded and he's sent 3 emails. that's all he is allowed per day.

You blocked him.. that's a good response. but it really does'nt stop what he'll do to the next dominant and the tantrum continues.


I disagree, zero.  She is a dominant but not HIS dominant yet.  So, while it may be his intent or desire to please her and she may hope that he pleases her, at this stage, it has nothing to do with the fact that "she is the dominant that he is there to please".  I don't know all about female dominant/male submissive interaction but I've met enough and talked with enough to know that the ones I've talked to (and I would imagine that there are many others) feel much the same way as many male dominants and female submissives would re:  this situation.  And that is as I've stated earlier:  "you aren't my dominant yet and while might I hope my actions please you, that is not my express purpose at this point in our interactions."

Her best response is to deal with this from the standpoint of person to person interaction:  "I feel that your actions are excessive at this stage.  Please tone them down or do not bother to contact me anymore."  And on and on.  If he continues, then she should take what steps she feels are necessary.

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 7:14:31 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Obviously he is an alien whose earthling-simulation software has gone haywire.

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 7:21:59 AM   
Pimpernell


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Status: offline 		I've got a rule: 45 emails per day. Any more than that and you are obviously a little crazy.  Any less than that and you're not devoted enough.



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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 7:28:05 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 7:50:48 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: zero69u2

quote "he was mad i did not asnwer them"  Ridiculous.. your the dominant. he's there to please you. he's having a tantrum and craves attention.. do the sadistic thing and deny him the pleasure.. and/or take charge of the situation and tell him what appropriate behavior is and what's not.
If you have'nt responded and he's sent 3 emails. that's all he is allowed per day.

You blocked him.. that's a good response. but it really does'nt stop what he'll do to the next dominant and the tantrum continues.





Im a submissive and if a dominant got mad at me for not emailing him back before we ever even met... well he could like it or lump it since I do not know him. And a submissive does not exist to please random dominants over the internet...I just thought I would point that out.



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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 10:11:07 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		Hi mons,
I have had many a Dominant that was under consideration in the past send me one line a one sentence questions and say they expect a full answer with proper letter form and punctuation back.
They sent these stupid not even complete sentences let alone a header or signature line notes constantly all day long.
Some of them have expected me to keep up with 30 or so a day. Responding took over 4 hours of my day to that one person. I was willing to do it as I was considering maybe they just wanted to see how task oriented or devoted I could be initially.
I got to the point I no longer play that STUPID CONTROL GAME online with potential suitors. I've found if you want that much conversation and you're not willing to talk over the phone I'm no longer willing to talk to you and have my day monopolized like that..
I think they are just severely lonely control freaks & it's not worth my time.
Suzanne

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 10:50:53 AM   
pinkee


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Status: offline 		Poor mons; sorry about the nutter.  i too have been asked to write long letters, essays, etc., by Men i do not know, so i guess while not as freaky, it's going around.  i hope You've heard the last of this idiot, and continue to be confident in both Your kindness & dominance.  pinkee

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 3:47:12 PM   
SleeplessGypsy


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Status: offline 		You never fail to make me laugh!

You're wit is so, so, soooooo, what's the word I'm looking for... Sooo Scrumptious!

Anyway, to the OP... Yes, 49 emails is a bit excessive... Simply tell this person to back off and if they don't, just block em...

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 3:58:24 PM   
LTRsubNW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Bad batch of coke?


Ya know...normally I find your responses arrogant, impudent and altogether indicative of someone who just flat out likes to hear himself talk...but this one....

Fucking funny hahahahahahahaha.

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 4:31:39 PM   
Diane269


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

greeting to all
 
i am a kind person always but i am still a domme i find people we take my kindness for weakness and use or ttyr to play games with me.
i just had a submissvie male who wrote me we began to talk i always have that feeling and it was there, i just thought talking was ok he sent ok email then i open my emails and i had 26 email from him and they were crazy it is as simple as that crazy. thing i heard of whcih i thought was ok but so manythings about this domme and how loveley she was and that domme who was stunning i am an artist i enjoy seeing a lovley woman but my gosh what wa he thinking he sent to much mail it made my email go slow this was on her cm. this one ios not the wrong track and scary i will not do this again i blocked him and dlelet everyone of the email 46 of them all sent at the smae time.
someon tell me why would someone go off like this and think it is ok.
 
mons thank for you adivce



I get the samething everyday. My blocked user list is HUGE!

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RE: 46 emails in one night what in the world is wrong w... - 9/13/2006 6:48:17 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Bad batch of coke?


Ya know...normally I find your responses arrogant, impudent and altogether indicative of someone who just flat out likes to hear himself talk...but this one....

Fucking funny hahahahahahahaha.
Ach!..popeye is always a hoot, you just have to know how to appreciate his particular sense of humor...Tempting

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