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You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable expe... - 9/13/2006 4:42:47 PM   
knees2you


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Status: offline 		I now understand what it means
to be "Perfectly reluctant & and of Reaonable expectation!"
 
Wating on the right one could mean 30 days.
Could meand 30 weeks and also could mean 30 years?

For me it took 27 years!
 
You'll never get 100% match in a person.
But sometimes we can come close.
 
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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/13/2006 5:15:37 PM   
DivaDuchess


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Status: offline 		Close counts ... how many times in that 27 years were you close?  I don't look for beauty queen, just someone loyal and loving.  Everything else fades, who you are inside continues on.

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/13/2006 5:33:47 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Why would you want a 100% match?  That would be so boring.

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/13/2006 5:35:41 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Why would you want a 100% match?  That would be so boring.


I don't think so, but I don't look at "match" as being "clone."

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/13/2006 6:04:51 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Yep, I look at match as being a mirror image of me.  And I know that would bore me.
If you are talking about a match as being compatible in the important things, but also being diverse enough to keep it interesting, I can go with that.


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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/13/2006 6:09:44 PM   
mstrjx


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I'm worth it.  Well, tomorrow or the next day.  Perhaps not today exactly.

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/13/2006 7:54:15 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/13/2006 8:47:21 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Yep, I look at match as being a mirror image of me.  And I know that would bore me.
If you are talking about a match as being compatible in the important things, but also being diverse enough to keep it interesting, I can go with that.


I see "match" as someone who will challenge me, and push me to grow.  As someone who is willing to hear me and know me.  As someone who is willing to also grow and stretch his own inner boundaries.  As someone who will lead me to new places, and call me on my bullshit.  So, to me it is not boring at all.

A mirror image of me....gawd I couldn't fathom, lol.

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/13/2006 9:02:36 PM   
Aubre


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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 12:29:03 AM   
slave4Darby3d


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Status: offline 		to me a match is less like a clone, or mirror image, and more like an interlocking puzzle piece.  I have multiple sides, and there are a couple of people in this world who could really interlock with me - but only one fit will show enough of a picture to make sense...

the waiting does make it worth the finding, though...

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 6:18:05 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 6:21:30 AM   
pqwinny


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Status: offline 		Shel Silverstein's The Mising Piece and the Big O comes to mind.  It's a children's book with a grown up message.  i love it when that happens for 2 reasons...it makes it easy for my simple mind to grasp and it shows great love and altruism on the part of the author by delivering a wisdom concept in a format directed at kids. 

Lots of kids have no grown up in their life willing or able to do that for them.  Live, learn, pass it on. That's the name of the game as far as i can tell.

http://www.shelsilverstein.com/indexSite.html 

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 6:25:50 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Diva You gave a great reply. I like your attitude.

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 7:01:38 AM   
raiken


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Yep, I look at match as being a mirror image of me.  And I know that would bore me.
If you are talking about a match as being compatible in the important things, but also being diverse enough to keep it interesting, I can go with that.



My opinion of someone who is a good "match", is a person who is complementary to me.    The ping to my pong, someone who adds a nice contrast to who i am and vice versa.  We naturally, bring out, attract and accentuate mostly the good traits in one another, and fill in the areas where we each may be lacking, just by being the people we are.  Universal laws of attraction in play here:  Like energy always attracts like energy.

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 7:18:38 AM   
Yang4yin


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(Not "compliments.")




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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 8:59:07 AM   
knees2you


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quote:

Why would you want a 100% match?  That would be so boring.

 
quote:

Close counts ... how many times in that 27 years were you close?  I don't look for beauty queen, just someone loyal and loving.  Everything else fades, who you are inside continues on.

 
I've gotten close,
Yes but cheating is my number 1 no, noooo.
Hate that word fornication.
 
No I was not looking for 100%
Even from day one.
 
Nobody's ever going to be 100% equal.
Not now not ever.
 
My Wife and I are about 90%
equal, it wasn't easy adjusting,
but we've done it nicely.
 
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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 3:15:35 PM   
ScooterTrash


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Status: offline 		I'm fairly sure that "Shifted" would be my 99.99% match and "Twice" is in the high 90s, so maybe it's just luck. Of course there were several 1% ones along this path.

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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 3:50:56 PM   
KenDckey


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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 4:16:30 PM   
cuddleheart50


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RE: You must be perfectly reluctant, and of reasonable ... - 9/14/2006 11:41:58 PM   
mssngmy23


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Status: offline 		To have a 100% match is not possible, as no two people are exactly alike.  Don't forget, no one's perfect, your match would have your stubborn and negative behaviors as well.  What is important is to bond with someone who truly understands you, can communicate with you on every level and one who doesn't judge but does call you on certain situations not to hurt but to help you grow.

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