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twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 5:29:54 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		Twicehappy's search for the stable male subbie.
 
A few weeks ago LA said I needed my own column on the subject so here it is.
 
Now I am not searching for a stable of subbies, nor a swarm of SAMs , nor a school of switches, nor a covey of cross dressers , nor a flock of forced fems , nor a colony of cyber cocks, nor a herd of humiliate me's , nor a den of do me's, nor a mass of marrieds , nor a squad of sociopaths.
 
 (Not that we have anything against any of these, we have many friends who fit these categories)
 
I am simply searching for one stable subbie.
 
He can be slightly twisted; we would prefer that he is.
 
He can be semi sarcastic, we enjoy sarcasm as humor.
 
He needs to be piquantly perverted as are we.
 
I would say the first and most important thing he needs to be capable of is to simply show up.
 
He needs to be from the USA, not Turkey or Greece or Timbuktu.
 
It cannot be you David as (cute as you are) under any name, unless you show up on the doorstep prepared to suffer severely for your sins. (Dommes do talk dear.)
 
I have shopped at Wal-Mart, Kmart, Supersubbiemart, biker bashes, a mass of munches, a plethora of play groups, yard sales and flea markets.
 
I have gone on unicorn hunts, subbie snipe hunts, hell I have even tried mass mailings for masochistic men.
 
So, my question of the day is…..Where do I look now?
 
To the male subbies out there what are you looking for?
 
What is it that you need, where are you hiding?
 
Hmmmmm……anybody know where they hold regular slave auctions and if you do are they returnable for cash or a store credit?
 
Any of you who have been frustrated in your own search feel free to vent here or add advice as well.
 
 
 

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 7:46:00 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Well I can sympathize to some degree, but I think what needs to happen is that you need to hibernate for the winter, and just before spring dawns go back to all the places you looked before and then look again. Perhaps someone new will have joined collarme, or your local BDSM group? A watched pot never boils

I will say that when I would be looking for collectibles and antiques for my business, sometimes I just couldn't find anything, but I would go back to all the same places I looked before after a week or two and voila... merchandise to be found! Sometimes ya just gotta have some patience.

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 8:24:17 AM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		I actually can't relate to those that have struggled and longed for that partner or special someone.  Before alandra came into my life... I indeed ached and wanted someone in my life that fit.  However,  it has been so long that I honestly can't remember the depth of those emotions.  I see them in my past and they are liking looking thru a fog.. Muted and distorted and hardly comparable to those that ache in the here and now.  Even as I searched for that second girl to add to our life, I never held alot of hope or deep expectations to make the dream come true.  I was very much a realist in the possiblity of finding a second girl that fits me and alandra as much as alandra fit with me.  In some ways I am still in shock that I found this girl in kyra and wonder at times if the other shoes is going to drop.

To those that long for the right person to be in your life.... it will happen... but only if you got to the pond and fish.  Use the right bait... meaning... be yourself... be authentic... and when it happens all the struggle will slowly disappear into the fog.



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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 8:26:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

ITo those that long for the right person to be in your life.... it will happen... but only if you got to the pond and fish.  Use the right bait... meaning... be yourself... be authentic... and when it happens all the struggle will slowly disappear into the fog.


From Your mouth to God's ears..lol..

cheers
jimini

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 9:08:22 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		If you happen to find one that isn't so masochistic, send him our way

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 12:54:16 PM   
DivaDuchess


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Status: offline 		Responding to this Post:   Hmmmmm……anybody know where they hold regular slave auctions and if you do are they returnable for cash or a store credit?
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Oh good Lord!!  When I train a slave, at the end they have the choice ... I can either auction them off (the slave determines what they believe their value is after training), or they can leave and search on their own.  Anything taken in from the auction is then put into an account, usually a revolving CD with a maturity of about 10 years for that slaves own security as this is a very tenuous time we live and people are unpredictable.  It gives them the sense of pride and self value necessary to be everything they can to their Master/Mistress.


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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 12:59:48 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		Well i dunno Twice.  I dun really go about looking for male subbies.. maybe its why they all find me?  I have this really bad habit (tried and true) of turning men who tell me they are Dominant, into submissives.  I do seem to have a few waiting around for me to become a Domme.  i've also a really really good friend who STILL swears he's Dominant and every now then i offer to remind him... Which i'm sure he wouldnt mind too much about if he could have a relationship with me.  But w/e  I generally have a harder time finding men Dominant to the level i would like them at then finding submissive men.  Gawwwwwd they're all over the place. 

i think its the "water doesnt boil"  thing.  You should send me an email about your detalied qualifications and if i run into one, i'll send him your way. 

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 1:31:12 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Best of hunting.  Was looking when i found my Dom.  Kept looking to be sure and now W/we wait to be sure that W/we truly are a match.  Neither of us profess a doubt but then W/we also believe that a collar for U/us means more than a wedding ring ever would.  Take it easy, take Your time and he will come. 

diamond

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 1:42:20 PM   
NastyDaddy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

Twicehappy's search for the stable male subbie.
 
A few weeks ago LA said I needed my own column on the subject so here it is.
 
Now I am not searching for a stable of subbies, nor a swarm of SAMs , nor a school of switches, nor a covey of cross dressers , nor a flock of forced fems , nor a colony of cyber cocks, nor a herd of humiliate me's , nor a den of do me's, nor a mass of marrieds , nor a squad of sociopaths.
 
 (Not that we have anything against any of these, we have many friends who fit these categories)
 
I am simply searching for one stable subbie.
 
He can be slightly twisted; we would prefer that he is.
 
He can be semi sarcastic, we enjoy sarcasm as humor.
 
He needs to be piquantly perverted as are we.
 
I would say the first and most important thing he needs to be capable of is to simply show up.
 
He needs to be from the USA, not Turkey or Greece or Timbuktu.
 
It cannot be you David as (cute as you are) under any name, unless you show up on the doorstep prepared to suffer severely for your sins. (Dommes do talk dear.)
 
I have shopped at Wal-Mart, Kmart, Supersubbiemart, biker bashes, a mass of munches, a plethora of play groups, yard sales and flea markets.
 
I have gone on unicorn hunts, subbie snipe hunts, hell I have even tried mass mailings for masochistic men.
 
So, my question of the day is…..Where do I look now?
 
To the male subbies out there what are you looking for?
 
What is it that you need, where are you hiding?
 
Hmmmmm……anybody know where they hold regular slave auctions and if you do are they returnable for cash or a store credit?
 
Any of you who have been frustrated in your own search feel free to vent here or add advice as well.
  

The name "stormy" from a couple years ago just keeps popping up in my head... stormy was a femsub ISO a malesub for her Domme.  She used every ploy imagineable and often conducted her search here on the message board too.  It seemed like she actually ran more malesubs away than she attracted, and her search became a running worn out joke/leather poly benefits debate.

Does anybody recall whatever eventually happened in lil femsub stormy's world quest?

Perhaps there should be a forum dedicated to subs seeking other subs for their owners... the "Ask a Recruiter-sub" forum?

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 1:47:16 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		I like that Nasty!  A forum for the recruitee's

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 1:47:39 PM   
joyinslavery


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Status: offline 		This place is so funny. 

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 5:49:45 PM   
twicehappy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

Before alandra came into my life... I indeed ached and wanted someone in my life that fit. 

In some ways I am still in shock that I found this girl in kyra and wonder at times if the other shoes is going to drop.


Awwwww...so very beautifully put KOM......be careful you will make their heads swell, lol.


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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 5:57:57 PM   
OhReallyNow


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Status: offline 		this slave was without ownership for more than 5 years after the passing of her first Master. Almost 4 months ago, this slave did something she had not done since his death; she answered an email. She was not looking for a new Master; and yet, the fates saw fit to send her one
 
Sometimes, what we most want, comes when we are not looking for it.

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 8:22:03 PM   
aurora31


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Status: offline 		As always KoM you seam to say the right things just when I need to hear them the most. Sometimes this search can be so frustrating. Especially when you think that at last you have succeeded only to have it fall apart. Knowing that others have found it and in your case have done so twice gives me great hope that with time and paitence that some day I will find it too.

aurora

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 8:23:10 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Hummm..what a conundrum!...All I can think is that it seems to me that a lot of BDSM"rs seem to be linked in some way to the medical profession and with you Twice having been in the field may have contacts that you have not tapped?....Or you can check out your local Domme friends, they surely know someone who knows someone (you get the picture).....best wishes to Jewel...Tempting

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/17/2006 9:04:38 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: aurora31

As always KoM you seam to say the right things just when I need to hear them the most. Sometimes this search can be so frustrating. Especially when you think that at last you have succeeded only to have it fall apart. Knowing that others have found it and in your case have done so twice gives me great hope that with time and paitence that some day I will find it too.

aurora


Just keep being your wonderful self and hold to the standard in what you need in your partner, soulmate... Dominant.  It will happen.


OH yeah... keeping fishing!  cause you have the right bait *w*

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/18/2006 3:17:46 AM   
twicehappy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DivaDuchess

Responding to this Post:   Hmmmmm……anybody know where they hold regular slave auctions and if you do are they returnable for cash or a store credit?
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When I train a slave, at the end they have the choice ... I can either auction them off (the slave determines what they believe their value is after training


So when is the next auction.....? Lol........

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/18/2006 3:31:42 AM   
twicehappy


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ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

She used every ploy imagineable and often conducted her search here on the message board too.  It seemed like she actually ran more malesubs away than she attracted, and her search became a running worn out joke/leather poly benefits debate.


ND, if you read the post you should have realized it was written very tongue in cheek; it was sparked by a past suggestion of LA's. I have asked a lot of questions about male subs on the boards because they are an unfamiliar animal to me. I really do not grasp a lot of their requirements so i hope for info from those who do. There are very few male subs who read the boards; i search for them on the other side here as well as numerous other locations.
 
If there was a recruitment board i probably would not be on it. I started searching for Jewel's male on my own simply because i have no personal involvement in it so would not get my feelings hurt. As long as the one she ends up with is loving and treats her well it does not matter to me who she picks as there will never be more than a family connection between us. Much like I pick the best pieces of meat off a roast to give them to her I am picking through the male subs available so she only has to deal with those that are appealing to her and are  possible future household members.
 
 

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/18/2006 3:32:53 AM   
twicehappy


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ORIGINAL: OhReallyNow

Sometimes, what we most want, comes when we are not looking for it.


True but sometimes to find the proverbial needle we must search the haystack.

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RE: twicehappy's new column. - 9/18/2006 3:41:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		I guess I'm still fishing.

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