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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 2:08:17 PM

Sinergy

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Well ouch, based on that theory I should stop telling people I am a mean, evil, nasty, old batich if I want them to believe it, huh?

Hello LaTigresse,

I suspect you would not have any trouble showing them how mean, evil, nasty, and old you are. I also suspect they would be more than willing to have you show them.

Actions speak louder than words.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 2:14:04 PM

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I agree with benji's crush. Aine, you just put a smile on my face, thank you!

If I can make just one person smile every day....does it make up for all the people I piss off during the day?

*giggles behind her hand*

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Honey, you obviously missed the "want to be used as a toilet fetish" thread or "where do I get instructions on setting my sub on fire" thread. LOL

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 2:17:58 PM

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Sinergy

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I would like to take this idea a step further. In my experience, people who insist on broadcasting personality traits they have seldom actually have those traits. It almost seems as if some part of their psyche goes "I know what I am doing, so I better let them all know I am a nice person."

precisely.

actions speak louder than any words we can type or say.

you can't say you're not trying to be rude and then follow it up with something blatantly rude.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 2:28:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Well ouch, based on that theory I should stop telling people I am a mean, evil, nasty, old batich if I want them to believe it, huh?

Hello LaTigresse,

I suspect you would not have any trouble showing them how mean, evil, nasty, and old you are. I also suspect they would be more than willing to have you show them.

Actions speak louder than words.

Sinergy

Wooohoooooooooo party at the farm, line em up!!

On a more serious note, I agree with you 100%. Similar to the old saying "methinks he protesteth too much". Also, I remember someone on the boards having a signature line something like "if they have to tell you they are a lady, chances are they are not"
Always put a smile on my face when I read that.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 2:46:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I agree with benji's crush. Aine, you just put a smile on my face, thank you!

If I can make just one person smile every day....does it make up for all the people I piss off during the day?

*giggles behind her hand*

the short answer, "yes"

K

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 3:04:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aine

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I agree with benji's crush. Aine, you just put a smile on my face, thank you!

If I can make just one person smile every day....does it make up for all the people I piss off during the day?

*giggles behind her hand*

the short answer, "yes"

K

*does the hand wipe across the forehead motion* Whew.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 3:24:32 PM

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Why do people have to be so mean?

Emotional Immaturity.

As for Mons' post, I did some inner child work in therapy long ago. I couldn't go back far enough, because my abuse began as an infant, but I do have some very early memories. I recall my therapist telling me once, "There is this little girl living inside of you who keeps reaching her arms up to you, saying 'pick me up, please pick me up' and you won't even look down."

The day I finally acknowledged her was one of my more painful days, ever.

And then I wouldn't "look down" again after that. Since then, Master has brought me to places so deep within myself (whether intentionally or unintentionally - I think much of it was unintentional in that particular moment), and I have been able to really explore the complex emotions within. Oddly enough (or not so oddly), much of this was done in deep subspace. I think that's because it is durring those moments when he pushes me so deep, I completely let go. I let go of all barriers, all inhibitions, all those walls I constructed over the years, to keep me from looking inward and feeling pain. In the safety of where I was, I could feel those things I needed to feel, and release them from me.

Who would have thought that sex would release my inner child?!

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 3:25:19 PM

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I don't know of any learning disability that keeps a person from clicking the "spell check" button. If there is one, please enlighten me.

Trying to humiliate people nonconsensually maybe your kink, but I do not share it...

Why do people have to be so mean?

I simply see a poorly written response or post as proof of laziness. Granted , a spell-checker isn't perfect. It's a good start, though. I have very, very little tolerance for poor writing. I think it's one of the biggest problems facing america today. At one time, it was expected that a person who wanted to be successful would learn to write properly.These days we just pat them on the back and say, "There, there, you must have a learning disability!"

This is a casual internet forum, and some slang, some typos, etc are to be expected. However, I dislike having to read a post several times through just to figure out what the poster is asking. It shows a disrespect for your intended audience if you don't at least TRY to make your post presentable.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 3:30:44 PM

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I have very, very little tolerance for poor writing.

We get that already. Can we stop hijacking Mons' thread and stick to topic?

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 3:32:16 PM

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Stick to the topic? Tell that to the people who felt the need to bash ME for pointing out the fact that Mons post was impossible to understand. I still don't have any idea what the heck she is trying to talk about.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 3:34:54 PM

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I said "we." That incorporated everyone. Myself included. This will be my last post on this particular segment of this thread. If the thread is that confusing, move on to another. Thanks.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 4:05:00 PM

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this was ask in a post in the humor forum. i thought about this and right away i know what age i was now ok being a domme i am strong a caring and always in control. but as i writen before i was abuse in my lose memery i did not remember it at all but i always felt strange when i went o therpay ( do not knock it, it works ) but i found our the craziest thing in my inner child i was about 5 this is when the abuse started but my sister, i stay this way for many years i was acting like i was 5 but i took care of my fmaily and did the things i know but in therpay i was so different queit scare. when i left i was age 7.
i am back in therpay i am not age 15 lol and it is so strange to have to inside of me does anyone know about this. i may stay this way but it is funny and ok my therpist told me i am ok with how i am . and yes i found out the abuse made me a domme i need to prpoect me from my brother but i now angry at men i am mad at my borhter.

i am proud of who i become i came thorught a nightmare childhood to be a kind and caring i am know to everyone in my niegohood as the one who you can come to for help i had a littleone when his mother hit a child with her car now his father was awake and righ up stairs but he came to get me. i am trust and yes loved by many here so therpay is working well. i hope this is in the right place

any hthought or advcie is welcome

mons

Ah, another survivor. *Hugs* It sounds like you've had better luck with therapists than I have; for some reason, I usually end up hearing their entire life story and everything that's going wrong in their relationships. Or else all the doctor has to say is, "Were the meds fine?" and writes me a new script for a refill.

I tried everything to help myself heal, including going to sessions with a hypnotist. He was able to break through the blank times of my past, where my nightmares and night terrors and panic attacks sprang from. Sometimes things are so traumatic, the only way to survive them is to lock them away. I was never able to break through a blank area of my life that started some time when I was 5 and ended when I was boarding a plane that would take me 3 time zones away from the main terror of my life...I looked back at him, sealed behind the glass window of the terminal and felt like I was finally waking up.

I wasn't aware of an inner child until over a year ago, when I "met" a volunteer peer counselor for abused women here at CollarMe and we talked. It was so liberating and healing to finally reconnect with that part of myself that I had locked away.  I have greater depths of joy when I enjoy life now, because I'm taking my inner 5 year old by the hand and taking her with me.

I have no anger at men, just a keener wariness toward red flags and a problem with trust; part of me still deals in absolutes with trust and I'm working on it. (My mind can handle trust issues better than my emotions can.) I'm often attracted to men who have suffered but seem to be growing from it.

mons, you have every right to be angry with your brother, especially if he has never come to you with sincere apologies and took responsibility for what he did to you and the emotional damage it caused you.

My family kept telling me that I wasn't being Christian if I didn't forgive him and turn the other cheek...they were right and wrong with the point they were trying to make to me. My doctor wanted me to confront my father, but my family got angry with me when I tried. I was supposed to put it in the past and act like nothing happened, so the family could keep their illusion of everything being normal. They supported him in this, telling him that he was right and that I needed to forget about it. I never had any acknowledgement from him that he had been abusive. On his death bed a few years back, he refused to talk with me on the phone. When I asked my sister to let him know I had forgiven him, he told her to tell me that he doesn't need it, that he'd done nothing that needs forgiveness. The only closure I got was knowing that this world was a better and safer place because he was no longer in it. I'm at peace over this now.

He passed away from extensive pancreatic cancer.

Advice? Seems you are doing well and enjoying the sweetness of your life and don't need any. You survived. You're healing...and doing a great job of it. Some are almost destroyed by horrible experiences and they become more empathetic toward others and better caregivers because they understand pain and suffering so well...and I've seen some deal with their own pain by beating everyone else to the hurt, in one way or another.

mons, your posts have always been worth the read...and I don't regret it if I have to read something a few times to get the full meaning. Btw, I took 3 years of Spanish and one semester of French and have forgotten everything except how to count to ten. Learning to think and write in another language, and then having to communicate with others when it's their primary or only language is a very humbling experience.  I'm glad that nobody who laughed at my own attempts were doing so in a meanspirited way. (Remembers when trying to make up a word for puppies in Spanish by putting together perro and ito to make "little dog", and didn't roll the R's enough...and the word sounded like perlito...little FART, lol. Yep, she laughed so hard that she couldn't talk, but it was with glee and not to humiliate me.)

We never know when someone has a disability until we get to know them...my son has autism, but passes for normal until someone gets to know him better. He's different, but his sweetness and honesty make the world a better place because he's in it.  He hates writing.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 8:48:13 PM

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I am very fortunate not to have ever experienced abuse especially as a child. I have no use for child abusers, of any type! I dont understand it, and I dont understand how society lets them get away with it. It is a life sentence you are giving that child.

I am very glad it is so much more acceptable these days to admit to being abused and seek professional help. I am not a great believer in psychiatrists, though I have had the opportunity to seek one out (and he did help). However it is like any other service you need to find one that works for you.

This is the problem I see so many have with psychiatric help, people see one individual and assume they are all the same and none will work.

It is no different than shopping for a service if you are not getting what you need then find one who can give it to you.

Good for you mons for having the tenacity to keep at it and heal yourself. You should be very proud of yourself for coming so far and working so hard at something that is more difficult than most of us could ever imagine.

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RE: what age are you - 9/19/2006 1:18:28 AM

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greeting geekgirl

some of us are gifted with many different thing other are gifted with the lack of speak and manners. i see why you say what you did you wwant to show everyone here you can make someone who has been kind to all look foolish but it turn you see i am a gifted artist self taught i pain portriat in water color, i am a bulid on minature doll house i am also a knowlegdeable stamp collector i know each and everyone of my stamp and i own at least 5,000. i can remember number to many things. now i see my dyslexic writing is a shock to you but that is all you see geekgirl i would never pcik you name out and say " oh my god what in the world does her name mean" you see i have manners and and a close feeling of others.

this is not an attack this is a word to the unwise never judge someone by their writing. i am what they call a genius abert estien could not write either or do you know whom he is. thank you for trying to shame me it did not write i have been on cm and many of the people here help me write and learn ask anyone.

mons

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RE: what age are you - 9/19/2006 1:37:12 AM

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aine LT greeting i mised on who was kind i will remember

now geek, singery both of you singery you became violent what was the slap backhanded to the cheek bone if you a dom or master your a violent one. geeky on my cm my spell check does not work. your a professor singery of english and i am a reader of sonnets you see there is nothing wrong with my reading i have a problem with word placement. i am spurpise most of you you should know of learning disablity have you never had a student who need it to be taped or do you aloud this in your class room? for 14 years i work as a speak and langugae assistant not an aide i made little one who could not even speak walk out of my class with knowing many things i am a damn good but you attack my writing not knowing who i am or what i am how dare you judge for you will be judge. you brains are ;lost you may write me again with long words you think i donot know bu there is where you would be sadly msitake i read pass college level it is just i can not write well.

geek you made you point you the star of the show you have been great you do not count that is all i will say/

anine and lt yes this hurt me but you both have help me so many times when i first came i remember wow no one could understand me with you help both of you you slowing told me how to write better how do i thank you for standing up for me you have made me feel so good what can i ever do for you one other person said something but i do not know who it was would you thank her for me i would be so happy. i am learning how to write again one day i will send you a drawing or painting ok oh my doll house is my therpay lol it so fun

thank you again i will remember what you have done

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RE: what age are you - 9/19/2006 1:41:39 AM

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greetings juliaoncia

thank you for defending me you kindness show your a true woman and a strong one a smile takes one muslce a frown takes over thosnad so geeky an sniery are wrinkle lol

take care i read your post and lt an anine many times

mons

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RE: what age are you - 9/19/2006 1:46:19 AM

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grettings

sinery this i think is enough traits or no traits you taken this to another level why may i ask are you made at my learning disorder are you a dom ? no i am shock many have such manner and grace and are so sexy with strenght i have come to respect in many many of them your so differenet then anyne of the others it shock me truly you may stop with my post please you not need amymore

mons

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RE: what age are you - 9/19/2006 2:51:10 AM

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greeting cythiamaira

it is so hard to face the one who abuse us i learn to now make my inner child have fun i have dollhouses 2 i will get annother the joy i have going to buy thing for my house is wonderful it is something that has a child i dearly wanted. my abuse was my brother he would say things i would not say to geek shameful things that i am not able to say here. but i told him and he laugh and said i was crazy he was so mean to me i did not remember what happen. until i went to therpay and i was so shocked i could not think right. when he laughed i was scared i never let him never our kids and my family one sister who i found out was an abuser to my nepwhew would just want to make us let him be with the kids and she know he did things for years i would never let them go i am lucky i did he was never to come when we were not home. you must forgieve it is okay but never forget i forgive him but i never forgot when i am alone at times i have memory that keep coming back i was once found under out cporch i was bleeding cover in it and i was 4 i remember the police asking who did this, when i told my therpaiy his said you may never remember what happen ever some thing are to horrible to remember so i let it go. i have let go of angry but sometime the inner child is their so i treat her to ice cream candy and toys lol yes dolls and minatures i am glad you ok it took many years for me to get where i am i am ok now . i found i do not need to hurt other feeling to make myself look big or feeling better this is what is happening here. take care

geek
your so angry for some reason. what this subject too much for you many woman are abuse as childern and they are angry and have a time with hearing this. i believe this is what is going on with you. your saying how bad my writing is is a way of letting out you own fears of what may have happen to you, each of us has reason to hurt someone singery backhand slap is so much like an abuse who uses his power to beat the submissive oout of another he can not use the normal way of a true master who use gentle caring movements to control his slave the way he said it was to try and if he could had he would had broken lt cheek. my writing is bad but i am not voilent to anyone with my slave they know i am gentle and will show my power in other ways, a dom should never use angry in anyway to a slave this is the wrong way. he has so much angry it is something i will wish a slave would seee before they go to him, i was beaten by a viloent man and singery you it i was so shock when you wrote that more then i was shock how you attack my writing.

you both have shock me why should my writing do this oh yes geek this is something i come to see in many people lazy is a word some use for black people you use it so well as if you been doing it for a long time i am not lazy you do not know me now depence yourself i never meant anyone here who is racist never but i think i meant one now as i said my spell check does not work but it is more of word placement so spell check may not do now lazy is a bad wrod never heard it use here before shame on you geek shame on you now i done so i will see what the two of you will work sweet go to sleep it is ok my writing will not jump you in the night

mons

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RE: what age are you - 9/19/2006 3:38:42 AM

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geeky... another thing to try to remember, this site is not US / english speaking only, which means you'll encounter posters with "unusual" grammar and poor translations.. we try to muddle thru as best we can, if you can't understand something, a post for clarification might help, but if you can't understand enough to know what questions to ask, just leave it for others to give it a shot.

W/we have here people who use lavender or mint text, in fonts that don't show properly.. people who rush home from the club still in subspace, people who are so angry and upset they aren't thinking straight.. all of those people might have something to share that makes the extra effort of reading their posts worth it, or they won't. you'll learn to be flexible and adapt, or to use the block function, or just use your internal editor and mentally skip anything that causes you too much distress. There is plenty here to read even if you skip 50% of it..
:)

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RE: what age are you - 9/19/2006 5:34:39 AM

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mons,

Keep on keeping on - I say don't judge someone until you walk a mile in their shoes.

We all have things that would put off other people.

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