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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 6:46:36 AM

Aine

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And that's part of why we love you mons. There are those out there that will not admit when they are wrong, and to me, that is a wonderful personality trait.

Crap, I'm gonna be late for work!

Later guys!

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 7:13:45 AM

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Caitlyn.....
Far-n-away......that was the most insightful post written by you to date.

... guess I'm one-up on ya'.

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 7:20:52 AM

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mons,

Congratulations on being a survivor! Though I was never abused I have a very good friend who still gets, what she calls, back flashes. It is a continuing battle for her but she is pulling through.

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 1:00:53 PM

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I figure english is Mons' second language. End of story there.

I get what Mons is saying on various levels. I was told by a professional that for many addicted people, they emotionally stay at the age they were, when they become seriously addicted. I know someone who ran into the troubles of additcion at age 15 and yes, in many ways this person has stayed 15, although the earth have gone by for another 45 rotations..

On the other hand theres also a different kind of age, which other people who have posted here, refer to. There are 21 year olds who are most defintely 40. There are 40 year olds who are most defintely 20.

Im glad mons is working on a troubled past and has become a better person. That says a lot about Mons.

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 1:24:47 PM

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I thought I remembered Mons posting several months ago that she was dyslexic. Not positive, but I think maybe people should assume something like that, or a second language, instead of assuming that she is being what was it... lazy? She isn't lazy! She wrote a big long heart felt post, several of them even. And always tries to reply and be interactive. And assuming she is extremely dyslexic, it would make perfect sense. My sister is also moderately dyslexic and I know that what seems simple to the average person, just isn't to her. For example to this day she spells "get" like "git". Its not because she is lazy, or stupid, its just because her brain works in a different way with words.

On the other hand she could not be dyslexic, but she still said she had a learning disability- so people should really just try to assume the best. Dyslexia, learning disablity, second language, doesn't matter... I don't even know why its up for converstation. :)

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 1:51:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: caitlyn

quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
I simply see a poorly written response or post as proof of laziness. Granted , a spell-checker isn't perfect. It's a good start, though. I have very, very little tolerance for poor writing. I think it's one of the biggest problems facing america today. At one time, it was expected that a person who wanted to be successful would learn to write properly.These days we just pat them on the back and say, "There, there, you must have a learning disability!"

This is a casual internet forum, and some slang, some typos, etc are to be expected. However, I dislike having to read a post several times through just to figure out what the poster is asking. It shows a disrespect for your intended audience if you don't at least TRY to make your post presentable.

1. insert comma after post
2. space not needed after Granted
3. remove the comma after start
4. American needs to be capitalized
5. if a comma is used after time, there should also be one after successful
6. period after forum, remove and, and capitalize Some
7. remove comma after slang, insert and and remove second some
8. etc is not proper - etc ... is
9. remove the a between shows and disrespect - you show a house, you don't show a disrespect - or, substitute, "It shows a lack of respect for ..."

Please repost this on my desk by first period tomorrow.

Ok, this kind of anal retentive bullcrap is NOT what I'm talking about. I specifically stated this is a casual forum. PERFECT grammar is not necessary. However, a post should be comprehensible.

And I still contend that "learning disabilities" are by and far excuses for not being willing to put forth effort.

Our politically correct society wants to turn everything into a disability or a mental illness. In the old days, they just called you stupid.

< Message edited by GeekyGirl -- 9/22/2006 1:54:45 PM >

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 1:55:25 PM

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Hi Mons,
I agree that people that think they are the shit because they spell well and have perfect writing skills are actually asses that feel like if you're not like them you don't belong. The condescending attitude they own these forums makes me want to puke. I often how many people they've bullied right out of this forum in their closed minded ways.
This forum is not an English test it's to get help and discuss ideas. Just because you're not a scholar does not mean you are not as intelligent or more intelligent of those in here so quick to criticize.

I say post what you think and take what they say with a grain of salt. If you consider the source is flawed and insecure to the point they have to try to boos around the world then like me you'll not be concerned with their criticism, but rather pity them for their ego and arrogance.

For anyone of you who can't find the spell check button it's right under the little emotion faces above. It's the tab with a abc and check mark as it's tab icon.

As far as your inner child being stuck at the age you were abused. I fully agree with that. I was molested from 12-16 and indeed love to feel like I'm a little girl safe & secure in my Dom Daddys arms when I had one.

I think what happens is that abuse removes the veil of childhood security and innocence.
From that forceful awakening forward you are a changed being for the rest of your life.
It's like your spirit gets stuck there waiting till someone comes that can convince it to move along in safety and comfort.

I think the people who are mulit & split personalities or DOD have stated in here they also developed the other personalities as their own could not cope with the abuse.
Someone inside yourself comes to your rescue and takes over your mind to protect you from the bad stuff that suffocates the real you out of your head for a while. Sometimes that part of you splits off and forms another separate thinking person in your body with you and sometimes they just meld back into the pot.

I have seen many who were abused when they were young that had no recall of the event till much later in life. Often these kinds of things are surfacing in someone in mid life.

I agree also that your desire to top someone may have to do with the anger you feel toward your brother. Just remember this submissive trust you to take good care of them and they are NOT your brother so you don't hurt someone else for real with your desire to make your brother pay for what he did to you.

I personally hold no anger toward my molester. I've learned to accept yes he absolutely crossed the line and was horribly wrong, but at the same time he still suffers and has to live with what he did to me and I've moved on. People in general create the demons they carry by their bad actions. It does me no good not to forgive him even though he's never admitted what he did was wrong.

I'm glad you've moved on toward being a double digit. 7 is not too far from 10 and it's only easier from there.
Take your time with the internal growing you're doing in counseling. As you grow inside the real you on the outside will grow too.

Good luck mons,
suzanne

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 2:03:03 PM

onestandingstill

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: caitlyn

quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
I simply see a poorly written response or post as proof of laziness. Granted , a spell-checker isn't perfect. It's a good start, though. I have very, very little tolerance for poor writing. I think it's one of the biggest problems facing america today. At one time, it was expected that a person who wanted to be successful would learn to write properly.These days we just pat them on the back and say, "There, there, you must have a learning disability!"

This is a casual internet forum, and some slang, some typos, etc are to be expected. However, I dislike having to read a post several times through just to figure out what the poster is asking. It shows a disrespect for your intended audience if you don't at least TRY to make your post presentable.

1. insert comma after post
2. space not needed after Granted
3. remove the comma after start
4. American needs to be capitalized
5. if a comma is used after time, there should also be one after successful
6. period after forum, remove and, and capitalize Some
7. remove comma after slang, insert and and remove second some
8. etc is not proper - etc ... is
9. remove the a between shows and disrespect - you show a house, you don't show a disrespect - or, substitute, "It shows a lack of respect for ..."

Please repost this on my desk by first period tomorrow.

Ok, this kind of anal retentive bullcrap is NOT what I'm talking about. I specifically stated this is a casual forum. PERFECT grammar is not necessary. However, a post should be comprehensible.

And I still contend that "learning disabilities" are by and far excuses for not being willing to put forth effort.

Our politically correct society wants to turn everything into a disability or a mental illness. In the old days, they just called you stupid.

LOL see what thinking your so high and mighty got you? Ok I see you'd prefer people to all serve you and write all their communications here to please you, but as you'r not in charge of the world your preferences are not going to happen in your lifetime consistantly.
Can somebody say Jessica Power Jr??????
If you are too important to try and understand someone who is not a grammar ace then maybe you just should go make your own forum group of rigid unaccepting geeks like yourself to talk to elsewhere.
Or hell why don't we lump everyting in one box and say the whole world has to be just like you or we're all doomed.
JUST GET OVER THINKING STRANGERS ARE HERE TO SERVE YOU

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 2:08:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
Ok, this kind of anal retentive bullcrap is NOT what I'm talking about. I specifically stated this is a casual forum. PERFECT grammar is not necessary. However, a post should be comprehensible.

And I still contend that "learning disabilities" are by and far excuses for not being willing to put forth effort.

Our politically correct society wants to turn everything into a disability or a mental illness. In the old days, they just called you stupid.

Must be nice to be so perfect (NOT).
You're a hypocrite!
When Caitlyn picks your post apart it's anal retentive crap. When you pick on Mons it's because she's stupid. I won't tell you what I think of you and your tude out of respect for Collarme and it's readers.

M

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 2:15:09 PM

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If you are now "mad at men".. you have NO business being a Domme.

It's not a venue to be used to "get even" on people that never hurt you.

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RE: what age are you - 9/22/2006 11:13:00 PM

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i don't get the impression she's a domme to get back at men cause she's mad at them. i could be wrong here - and Mons please correct me if i am - but my impression is she's a domme because her experiences as a child have molded her to want to be the one in control because as a child she had no control. Big difference. My impression of Mons from all of her heartfelt posts is she wouldn't hurt a fly.

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RE: what age are you - 9/23/2006 1:29:06 AM

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i am glad you agree with her and it is ok you and no one else can hurt me by being a teen in school this is what you both are acting like i am in click your not. really i am know her i never see you before. does it feel good to think it hurt this wonderful smart woman? who is kind with a heart of gold. would you feed you friend if they had no food. would you buy they kids toys for christmas and not cheap things good things, can you say in your heart you would or could do this. would you take the time to teach english to a family who could not speak it with out being paid? i did this for four years and they are not in college! could you do more then be on here to pick apart something someone has written? could not know how to spell and write but be able to draw and paint without being taught do you value people who your friends and keep them as friend? help them when they need it. if someone called the police on a niebor and they did not speak english would you take the time to go over there and help them because you know what is happening this would make a difference to this person. would you if a elderly woman came to you door and ask for toielt paper and food would you give her as much as you could, becsue you know you will get more food soon?

if you can answer yes to these questions then you might be albe to not take so much time to pick apart someone writing you have no ideal about?

take time to do good for someone and then you can come and pick apart my writing

judge or you will be judged
mons

Mons....

Actually... my reply to Caitlyn had little to do with you. You interpreted it wrongly. Besides... picking on the disadvantaged, or anyone for that matter { Well...maybe Caitlyn - I consider her a worthy opponent

} is not my style by a long shot.

- R

PS - You don't see me often.....because I bore easily when it comes to nonsensical re-hash - But if you want to talk about Hugo Chavez, control demolition, or the Republican dirty tricks crowd, you have a warm invitation to join the off-topic gang a few doors down ; }

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RE: what age are you - 9/23/2006 1:53:44 AM

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I wonder..

To be in an age when bad things happened. Could it be, that if a mate could join you in that age and be the good thing that was missing, to try and bring you through that period now. It would be difficult for someone to do it in total. Both being adult. Could a very careful Daddy/Dom relationship bring that age along to adult while also sharing the adult side of the relationship? The dividing lines would have to be very clear in all the moments.
I think it would only be possible with the person already having entered into the BDSM realm. Not for anyone who is struggling with this in a purely vanilla lifestyle.

Just an odd thought on the present dynamic of it.

On edit. Maybe it could be an avenue in vanilla as well. But isn't it just a matter of deep loving and caring to achieve the trust to grow? Or something......I don't know, it's frustrating to see pain and loss.

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RE: what age are you - 9/23/2006 3:42:07 AM

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greetings to all

i have suffer the beatings of teacher the pain of being teased for not know how to write! i wonder why somone would call me stufdip blk what happen there i never spoke evil of you ever anyone fo you who have wrote things about me i am a domme and yes because of my abuse and i was abuse at age 3 or 4 then at everyday until it stop when i found out if i wet the bed they would leave me alone i forgot that for ssome many yerars then my brother abuse me when i was twenty just after my mother passed i woke and there is he was. my english is my first language my twin is so more then i but she has her husband teaching her who to write it is funny but i asaid before i ama gifted artist . but it does nto matter to some . geekygirl i saw your picture on the profiles , the last thing you need to do is worry about my writing work on you. i remember the funny looking girls would pick on me i am very pretty kind and have a good heart i would never do what you done what is the reason i well never understand people like you. i am strong because i may sure i do what is right you and anyone else well not run me froom here no one. i have seen many leave. for all who wrote such kind letters even if it were on letter it outweight so many of the bad ones thank all it is important to show what kindness mean and some no matter what will never have it that is what they have sorry self imagines of themsleves and there lives are a fake lie.

it is ok i am great i have so much in my life friend true friends who are there if i need someone to speak with but i come here for learning and talking to real people some who are not ok so what geeky are you owned? i thought not blk i do not know what to say to you i thought you had more then that in you.

but to all who wrote kind letter thank you so so much take care i am learning how to write and i am getting better yes i am

mons

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RE: what age are you - 9/23/2006 7:48:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kedicat

I wonder..

To be in an age when bad things happened. Could it be, that if a mate could join you in that age and be the good thing that was missing, to try and bring you through that period now. It would be difficult for someone to do it in total. Both being adult. Could a very careful Daddy/Dom relationship bring that age along to adult while also sharing the adult side of the relationship? The dividing lines would have to be very clear in all the moments.
I think it would only be possible with the person already having entered into the BDSM realm. Not for anyone who is struggling with this in a purely vanilla lifestyle.

Just an odd thought on the present dynamic of it.

On edit. Maybe it could be an avenue in vanilla as well. But isn't it just a matter of deep loving and caring to achieve the trust to grow? Or something......I don't know, it's frustrating to see pain and loss.

Hello,
Actually for me I blend the adult sexual contact and the oh Daddy what you're doing feels so good concepts comfortably. A running little girl dialog just makes me hotter than hell sometimes. I'd say I feel like I'm around 14 when I do dirty things with and for my Daddy in my mind.
My Dad molested me from age 12-16.
When I was with my only Dom some of our hottest times for me was when he was pretending to be my Daddy and doing dirty things to me.
At the same time I would also want the moments of being cradled in his lap under a blanket and being rocked while we watched TV or talked about hard things.
I find I really cling to the Daddy protector, nurturer and the nasty Daddy who uses me in secret in role play with me.

For me the lines being blended by someone I obviously know is NOT my biological father makes it not only OK to meld them like that, but highly desired.

On a separate note I'd also like to comment on

velvetears

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i don't get the impression she's a domme to get back at men cause she's mad at them. i could be wrong here - and Mons please correct me if i am - but my impression is she's a domme because her experiences as a child have molded her to want to be the one in control because as a child she had no control. Big difference. My impression of Mons from all of her heartfelt posts is she wouldn't hurt a fly.

quote:

mons says
and yes i found out the abuse made me a domme i need to prpoect me from my brother but i now angry at men i am mad at my borhter.

This is the statement that prompted my statement
"I agree also that your desire to top someone may have to do with the anger you feel toward your brother. Just remember this submissive trust you to take good care of them and they are NOT your brother so you don't hurt someone else for real with your desire to make your brother pay for what he did to you. "

Sincerely,
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RE: what age are you - 9/23/2006 8:34:27 AM

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Onestandingstill, my comment was in reference to what LotusSong posted not you.

ORIGINAL: LotusSong:
{If you are now "mad at men"..you have NO business being a Domme. It's not a venue to be used to "get even" on people that never hurt you.}

If Mons was abused by men it would stand to reason perhaps that is what the driving force is behind her wanting control. That doesn't necessarily mean she wants to use that control to abuse others. Think about people who are in bad accidents, after the trauma some simply prefer and are more comfortable being the driver rather then the passenger after they recover. It doesn't mean they do that so they can smash the car into a wall to get back at their passengers. They feel safer being the one in control (driving).

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RE: what age are you - 9/23/2006 5:10:56 PM

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mons....classic case of dyslexia. And I'm sure that if you spoke to a person with dyslexia in person, they would generally come off just as articulate as the next joe blow. There are also ones that are extremely articulate. There are some that are also not quite so articulate. They are not lazy. I've known other dyslexics throughout my short lifetime and they have all been intelligent, and not any lazier than anyone else. I've seen extreme intelligent people that are some of the most lazy, annoying people I've ever met. And I've had conversations with some of the less articulate, but have come out of those conversations feeling wonderful at having had a quite insightful conversation. They don't have to be as articulate as anyone else. You just have to be willing and open to what they are saying and patient in order to understand whatever point they are making. Hell, I sometimes have to work even harder to understand those that are in my opinion,"too articulate", ie: flashy talkers. But I digress a bit.

Here is an example of what I consider under the "lazy" category.

"I THINK IF U R A TRUE DOM, U WOULD EXCEPT UR SLAVE/SUB FOR THERE MINDSET, OFCOURSE U WANT TO BE PRESENTABLE WITHIN REASON, BUT A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A MASTER AND SLAVE/SUB IS UNCONDITIONAL..IN MY OPINION..."

There are other examples that I could put in here, but again, as so many assumed was mons' case. They could have some sort of viable reasoning behind their "less than average" typing skills. I wouldn't want to step on any more toes than I will be in the releasing of this post.

Another example. I have a good friend who is very intelligent, very funny, very wonderful to talk to and a great advise giver when he isn't being his normal crass self. Yet he has always had a hard time with spelling. It's something we rip on him for, but it's all in good fun and he takes no offense from it because he's accepted that he can't spell worth a crap no matter how hard he tries on his own. Is he lazy? Hell fucking no. He's actually a programmer. In casual settings does he use spell checker? No. No real reason to. We, who know and understand him, generally get what he says and for us, his lack of spelling skills takes a complete back-burner position in our overall opinion of him. His lack of spelling skills should not and does not diminish who he is as a person and the goodness that is in his personality.

I will agree to you to some extent, the learning disabilities in the YOUNGER generation these days is running ape-shit-rampant. I do believe that there are true and -real- cases out there. Do I think all of them are? Fuck no. I think that in a lot of cases, the parents don't know how to parent, the teachers are getting lazy and the doctors get kick-backs for the amounts of medsthey shove down kids' throats. But that's a whole other can-o-worms.

But to make a blanket statement about ALL learning disabilities is just people being lazy and rendering themselves "stupid", is one of the most ignorant, lazy sentiments on humanity that I've heard in a long time.

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RE: what age are you - 9/23/2006 7:24:20 PM

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mons,
Thank you for sharing, i came to understand my inner child years ago, but it materialized in ways different than your own. Sometimes, i think it must be even harder to overcome when the inner child manifests itself in the way you describe.  I've also worked in special education (adult) and care, and i think my particular abuse geared me towards it.(or made me better at it?)
Much like cynthiamarie...i embrace and cherish my inner child, the one who likes to splash in mud puddles, play in the rain, and still be awestricken and excited to walk out on the sand at low tide on what was, only hours before, the oceans floor. (the south end of our beach has a tide that recedes to almost a half mile distance!!). Of course there are negative aspects, i tend to distance myself from others and isolate myself. Sometimes, i even still feel angry or cheated out of the childhood i thought i should/deserved to have had.
I won't say that i believe my abuse is the absolute reason that i am a submissive/masochist, but i am certain it's a contributing factor.
That being said,

Synergy...you quoted 2/3 of a favorite mantra of mine..regarding thinking before one speaks.
                                                                                  .Is it true...
                                                                                   Is it kind....
                                                                                   Is it neccessary....

geekygirl,
the reason you were so quickly pounced upon for your comments are numerous.
Obviously you were unaware, that not only is english not mons native tongue, but that she does battle with dyslexia. As for spellcheck, I may be mistaken,but i think i read on this very forum, that spell check has no value to those who are dyslexic. It's unfortunate that she has to brave insensitivity and cruelty as a result of this. The true testament of course, is the fact that she does do so.
Of the three things i listed above regarding thinking before one speaks, the "is it neccessary" is the one that i utilize the most.

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RE: what age are you - 9/24/2006 12:14:15 AM

mons

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greeting all

i am a domme and true it is for my brother and my boyfriend who rape me and it hurt me so. now as for my angry to males not i am not angry but i had a strong dislike and distaste gor black males now if i were to be angry at males i would pick a black male and go at him like crazy i never hurt or hit in angyr this anfger is at my brother my father who while i watch he cut my mother up. a man broke the door down and 5 feet infront of us he rapen my mom he too was a black man. the horror of seeing that which again was righ infornt of us 5 childern who could do nothing. i stay aways from black males i like them as person but sex or anyting like this is off limits so i pick white males i feel no angry to them if a punhishment is needed it is a time out. if i feel they are not right i leave them alone i am not angry anymore but i do feel when i told a family member abou how he looks at me they lol did not belive.

now what does have to do with bdsm a lot, i went to a theripat he told me that the truma i had as a child so wonder i was okay and i protect me by buying dolls my father would not buy these thing at all. so now my 5 years inner child has dolls and doll house i feel so mcuh better then i did beofre i wrote on them each day i need to paint it wall paper it and add electrical light.
i had never beating someone in angry unless it was to protect me which i did and i won. i am not proud of it but i need to protect me.
so many of you were so kind to help me i learn to write better because of all who care to be nice. some times i do not know when someone may be saying something wrong well it i sokay i know who i am and i am proud i am have learn so much i will get better.

take care all

mons

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RE: what age are you - 9/24/2006 2:12:18 PM

LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: velvetears

Onestandingstill, my comment was in reference to what LotusSong posted not you.

ORIGINAL: LotusSong:
{If you are now "mad at men"..you have NO business being a Domme. It's not a venue to be used to "get even" on people that never hurt you.}

If Mons was abused by men it would stand to reason perhaps that is what the driving force is behind her wanting control. That doesn't necessarily mean she wants to use that control to abuse others. Think about people who are in bad accidents, after the trauma some simply prefer and are more comfortable being the driver rather then the passenger after they recover. It doesn't mean they do that so they can smash the car into a wall to get back at their passengers. They feel safer being the one in control (driving).

I do certainly hope she does not use them to take her internal anger out on them. I recall a time when I was flogging Slave and I had a thought about something in my past and I really laid into him. Things can surface for a Dom/me at an unexpected time and they can hurt someone unintentionally. That's all I meant. I have known some women that have come to this venue just to BEAT the hell out of guys for someone else's past deeds.

It's a bit different when they know they are being sessioned for that purpose. Be aware and preface it with the information that that is what you wish to work out .. Some slaves will accommodate willingly and then it's therapeutic.

(in reply to velvetears)

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