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RE: Telling family - 9/20/2006 10:38:36 PM

liljade

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I find it very hard, feeling as though I cannot be who I really am in front of my family... It was hard enough that when I came out about what my father (and later my husband) did to me... Now, while they professed to believe me, nothing was done about it and life went on as normal for the perpetrators... It left me feeling invisible and unsupported... And now to have the bdsm be such a beautiful part of my life and to have to stay silent because none of them are willing or able to see the beauty in it... It just compounds and solidifies my sense of abandonment and isolation... I feel completely alienated...

I think the simple fact is that there are some things that no-one in this world will EVER understand about us... Its a sad fact but a fact none the less... Now if you can find a way to come to terms with that BEFORE you come out about either the bdsm or the gender disphoria issues or your sexual orientation, their reactions become almost completely unimportant... Its incredibly important to protect yourself first... If you are still feeling fragile about it all, I would suggest you wait until you are feeling stronger and more secure about it and in yourself... Once you know and are able to EMBRACE who you truly are, you will get to a point where you feel nothing can touch you... I sincerely hope you are able to find that place inside...

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RE: Telling family - 9/21/2006 6:01:42 AM

MstrssPassion

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I would suggest you wait until you are feeling stronger and more secure about it and in yourself... Once you know and are able to EMBRACE who you truly are, you will get to a point where you feel nothing can touch you... I sincerely hope you are able to find that place inside...

This is exactly what a therapist will help you do. Gender dysphoria really has to be diagnosed. It is not a condition that one can assume they have. Often individuals will find out they are in fact not GID & many others will at least confirm that they are & this will enable them to move forward with many choices in life. Not all transsexuals decide to go the full distance, meaning HRT & SRS... it could be financial reasons or it could be personal. There is no one path to follow in this. All of this must be addressed & this requires not only the medical professionals but it also requires a strong support group of peers.

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