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Romance - 1/13/2005 11:04:20 AM

BennyR

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is it Ok to make a slave/subbie breakfast in bed, give her massages, bring her flowers, take her out places she would enjoy just because I can?

Or is this bound to confuse the issue and make her lose respect for her station in life in reference to mine?

I do not have anyone yet but am looking.

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And saw and heard such frightful things
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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 11:12:50 AM

stef

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Why wouldn't it be ok? You don't need to keep someone locked in a dank cellar and never show kindness to be dominant. You're performing those acts because it pleases you to do so.

~stef

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 11:18:58 AM

Mercnbeth

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Benny,
When you meet and have a sub or even a slave, you'll be the one determining what is and isn't okay. It will be okay because you want it to be. If massaging her, bringing her flowers, taking her out, or even bringing her breakfast in bed is consistent with your dominant persona, it won't cause confusion. With the exception of the breakfast in bed (but I'm sure I've brought food or a snake at some point), I've done all of those things, and don't think beth is confused.

As you go about your search, learn all you can.

Your profile is very unique, your honesty is apparent.

Good Luck!

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 11:33:43 AM

colonicegirl17

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in my opinion as a sub if my Master/Dom takes me out or does any of those thing it shows that he cares and respects me not only as His sub but as a person. if there wasn't any tenderness then i would choose to not be a sub because why give and give and give with not even tenderness or care returned? good luck.

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 1:36:18 PM

darkinshadows

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Master romances me... cooks us dinner... makes me rest... cares for me... holds me... is there for me... why?.... Because that is HIS choice.

Because I belong to Him, His Choice is what I submit to. I have no other choice. And He cares not what others think of what He does. That is (part of) His Strength.

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 1:59:36 PM

liltxsubby

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From this sub's point, not only would it be ok, it would be welcomed and greatly appreciated. It wouldn't cause any confusion, i would hope that my Dom cares for me and it would bind me more to Him.

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 2:01:16 PM

Quivver

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Benny...... although I'm not one with ton's of experience I would like to add my . 02 cents.
There once was this guy, a *dominant* personality, Dom? Possibly.... Yet undefined.
Regardless of title or lifestyle, I was very very sub to him. He did those things you speak
of often. And yes, I did feel very special. BUT. His doing so for me, ate into MY time to
do for him! I wanted to do for him, and found it confusing if it happened in reverse too much.
I guess what I'm saying is do what you enjoy, but keep in mind her need to
serve you too.

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 2:16:53 PM

Suleiman

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Anyone that would lose respect for you being yourself isn't the one you want to be with. Go for the mushy stuff! Real men wear pocket protectors in the front of their leather jackets - why? Who's gonna call them on it!

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 2:27:57 PM

proudsub

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You might enjoy these threads:

is romance dead?

romance and domination

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 2:33:51 PM

mistoferin

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Suleiman

quote:

Real men wear pocket protectors in the front of their leather jackets - why? Who's gonna call them on it!

My Sir treats me to all of those wonderful , romantic things. OK well maybe not the breakfast in bed part(we both agree that the kitchen is my domain). Not only does it not confuse me but it makes me wish to please Him even more. It also makes me realize just how fortunate I am to have Him in my life.

Suleiman....too funny!!!!
I had to laugh when I read that because Sir is 6ft3, built like a Mack truck and looks like a very opposing force in His leather jacket. If He wants to wear a pocket protector.....I am certainly NOT going to be the one to tell Him it's geeky!

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 3:05:38 PM

onceburned

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver
I guess what I'm saying is do what you enjoy, but keep in mind her need to
serve you too.

Yes Benny, go for it!
(Just don't stay on our turf too long)

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 3:25:45 PM

SwitchNCgal

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i have to agree with most of what as been said as a switch I enjoy both sides but whne I'm dominat I would not only wnat to show my affection in small ways like taht but I would not be Dominat to any that would not like those shows of random affection. Like Roses just to say I Love You. partly becasue i would rember teh special dates i don't celerabte days like valentines day because i don't believe in being told when it is ok to show my feelings to another.

As a Submissive/slave I would wonder why my Dominat refuses to show her affection for me in those simple ways like the roses just because or my favorite choclates because i have not had them in so long or even a nice day out shopping with her letting me enjoy the timewith her even if we don't buy naything. or for real happiness something I've really wanted given with a gentle sweet kiss that melts my legs and in receiving make me submit as well.... that just is so dreamy to me and i know if i ever find it i will be that one in a billion that has found true love and compatability.

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 5:21:30 PM

nella

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my Dom give me breakfast in bed and takes me to have a good time. i love Him and He loves me, we are mates for life as well as Dom and sub.

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 9:10:02 PM

webgirl

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Romance doesn't make you any less of a dom and it wouldn't be confusing or make me lose respect for you - quite the opposite... it would only make me feel honoured and cared for and make that desire to serve you even more powerful.
I read your profile and it's too bad you live so far away from me... you would have to have your pilot's liscence to ge to me

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RE: Romance - 1/13/2005 9:40:45 PM

sub4hire

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I must agree with what most everyone else said as well. When my Dom gives me a massage or does something special for me. It only shows me how much he cares without having to voice it. It also makes me want to please him all the more.
I have certain tasks I must complete. When I feel wanted. I throw in a lot more tasks. It is merely keeping one another happy. He knows I've appreciated the extra effort and he gets plenty of extra effort thrown his way.
I don't see it as making him any less of a man or a dom. Why should men hide their feelings?
Females have evolved, why haven't men?

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RE: Romance - 1/14/2005 8:16:12 AM

velvetvixen

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quote:

(but I'm sure I've brought food or a snake at some point)

Did you bring the snake a snack, Merc the Just? Or was it like when you went camping as a kid and everyone slept with on eye open because "last year some kid woke up with 10 copperheads in his sleeping bag!!"

Just last night Master brought me dinner that he "made with his own two hands." I am not confused as to my place or his position. I would not be desired by a Master who never thought about or felt the need for "romance."

When you find your girl, you will find the right mix and there will be no confusion.

Best wishes

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RE: Romance - 1/14/2005 8:28:59 AM

happypervert

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With a name like Benny, you are allowed to act like a normal human being. However, if you ever change your name to something like "HarshMasterDomlySir", then you are only allowed to sit on a throne and bark orders and dole out beatings -- no more Mr Nice Guy.

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RE: Romance - 1/14/2005 12:20:57 PM

BennyR

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Hence the reason I took my real name on here. I am what I am. A Dom with mental challenges (Aspergers Syndrome and ADHD) looking for his place in a cold bitter and lonely world.

But fear not little subbies...if you are near I am here.

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I travel'd thro' a land of men
A land of men and women too
And saw and heard such frightful things
As cold Earth wanderers never knew.

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RE: Romance - 1/14/2005 1:06:08 PM

ruffnecksbabygir

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my Master is a perfect gentleman, He opens doors for me, He treats me like a lady, He can be tender with me at times, and all of that makes me love Him even more.... no matter how sweet He may be with me at any given time i always am aware that He is in charge and that He can (and does!) just as easily remind me He is my Master so i am always aware of where my place is in our relationship.

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RE: Romance - 1/14/2005 1:29:31 PM

Mercnbeth

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quote:

Did you bring the snake a snack, Merc the Just?

Both - come to think of it!

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