RE: Long distance Rela. who goes where when the time is right?

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NavyDDG54 -> RE: Long distance Rela. who goes where when the time is right? (12/29/2005 3:33:45 AM)
I have been in a long distance relationship with my sub for 2 1/2 years now, we are finally going to meet in San Diego(7 hours from her house) because that is what my schedule allows, we had planned to meet once before when I was stationed in Seattle, she was coming up to see me, until 3 days before she left I had a death in the family and had to go home. It all depends on convience, personal preference, expenses(which one of you can afford to travel?) Ultimately it is your choice, if the trust is there to meet, then go with it. If they want you to travel to them, and you are not feeling 100% about being by yourself in a strange area take a friend with you and have them stay at a nearby hotel with a cell phone handy in case you need to get out. Remember a true partner would not deny you from bringing a friend to make you feel safer, they would understand. They might not want the friend hovering over your shoulder the whole time, but having one there would definately make you feel better.

sudja -> RE: Long distance Rela. who goes where when the time is right? (12/29/2005 8:53:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Voltare I mentioned in another post, that in almost every instance, the submissive should relocate. If they cannot leave the city or state, at the VERY least, the dominant should secure their own home in the area seperate from the submissives, until the relationship has solidified. No matter how you slice it, it´s nearly impossible for a Dominant to fill that capacity, in a house they do not own. Stephan I disagree - if there is going to be an issue, "You can't tell me what to do in my own house" then that attitude will be a problem no matter where the relationship (continues to) develop. sudja

Sartoris32801 -> RE: Long distance Rela. who goes where when the time is right? (12/29/2005 10:51:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I will focus on the traveling; ........, the people involved should make it a priority to meet halfway, on a lot of things, not just where/when to meet. Travel is expensive, and time consuming,..... Does it snow halfway between Florida and Pennsylvania? Snow is a Hard Limit! Sartoris

KatyLied -> RE: Long distance Rela. who goes where when the time is right? (12/29/2005 10:55:26 AM)
quote: Does it snow halfway between Florida and Pennsylvania? Snow is a Hard Limit! Stop whining! (snow can be fun)

Sartoris32801 -> RE: Long distance Rela. who goes where when the time is right? (12/29/2005 11:07:08 AM)
Hmm, I'll have some Buffalo Mozzarella, or Dolomiti with my wine please. I'll bring the wine, you bring the cheese. ( Halfway ya know) You as an naked snow angel sounds like fun. Sartoris

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Long distance Rela. who goes where when the time is right? (12/29/2005 11:13:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: knees2you Hi![:D] Say after being on-line for so long chatting with a Potential Partner, Which do You perfer, them coming to see You, to prove there worth? Or You going to see them and Prove Your worth?~~~ Sincerely, knees2You[;)] For us, it is not a matter of proving worth. LSR has a job that cannot be duplicated in many places, therefore, we are not able to relocate and vacations are few and far between. For us, if a servant is interested, he or she is going to either have to be local, or be willing to come to us. Not a matter of worth -- we have work that is not portable or re-locateable. When the situation was different, we -were- the ones to make the move... for the same reason. Our work at the time was "portable" or "transferrable", so we made the move. Lady Zephyr

MistressYlwa -> RE: Long distance Rela. who goes where when the time is right? (12/30/2005 6:18:50 AM)
Several things have come up, as this post grows. As most have stated, it depends on the finances of both parties. I have not found what I am looking for locally, so travel has become a part of my life. This past year, I have had subs come to me. Hotels for the first meeting. Only one has been acceptable and meetings moved to my home. As to relocation, it is very easy for me to relocate. However, spending the holidays with my daughter, I have decided to move back to Texas. So it is preferable that they either be in the Houston area or able to relocate there. classykindasassy Glad to hear that Houston is still going strong. [:D] I do not have sex on the first meeting. (Though have been tempted by some. lol) My primary interest is in whether they are what I am seeking on a daily basis. Have had the complainers and whiners. They are gone and I moved on. Mistress Ylwa

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