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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:08:04 AM

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Just agree and say "Yes, Sir.. you may punish me.... right after you eat your breakfast". (be sure to be prepared to duck)

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:09:54 AM

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My Master is a very good Master and i know i am very good slave i do everything he says without hesitations, the thing is we spoke this conversation online. after i told Him that He should eat breakfast and i said it with Daddy of course, He says is MY slave Telling ME what to do? i said no i am just trying to help. He said well nonetheless you will punished hard next time.This was online

Soooo, is he going to punish you online also?

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:10:00 AM

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That made me laugh my ass off LOL, thanks for the laugh,

Sincerely Ryboom's lil slave

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:11:02 AM

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So he is not punishing you NOW, just next time? I guess you now know what not to do...

if it was online is there a possibility he was joking around? I do that sometimes.

I would still talk to him about it openly and honestly and make sure you know where the boundaries are and how to deal in the future. Also, so that he understands you did not intend to make it sound like an order but you were merely concerned with his well being. Talk to him. All the answers from everyone on collarme will give you no insight to his thoughts and not knowing those thoughts, nobody can really accurately make a judgment of whether or not the response was appropriate in your particular situation.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:12:15 AM

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No He somtimes punishes me online like He will make me get on cam and make mehold a quarter with my nose against the wall for 30- 45 minutes with my hands behind my back. He said next time i go see Him i will be punished

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:16:02 AM

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Could be that this is a form of interaction that gets him off and he enjoys toying with you and weighing your reactions. If this is something you can handle, then enjoy this part of him. If this is something that seriously upsets you, then ask him about his methods and what you can expect from him as his sub. Sometimes the elements of the sub never being sure of the dominants next move is how some like to operate within the dynamic.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:16:19 AM

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(I hate being told to smile when I'm unhappy or feeling blue).

Hey! Smile!

Huh. That goes a long way for showing how you respect others limits and boundaries. Thanks for sharing.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:18:45 AM

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Hi Raiken i think that is exactly what it is!! You hit on the high note so to speak with that one and i do enyoy that side of Him very much

. Thanks

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:22:14 AM

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(I hate being told to smile when I'm unhappy or feeling blue).

Hey! Smile!

Huh. That goes a long way for showing how you respect others limits and boundaries. Thanks for sharing.

Master Fire

Master Fire,

i hate that too! It happens a lot at work. Like if i am serious and thinking about how to solve a problem, and i walk by someone with this concentrated look on my face, someone will often say, "hey smile life isn't that bad." Arrrg! It irks me to no end. One time i responded by saying yeah, thanks as i was just contemplating as to the best way to kill myself! LOL!.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:26:12 AM

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"after i told Him"
"that He should ..."
"i said no" I am just trying to help.

he is objecting to your use of directives and commands, whether you know it or not, use of directives and commands to a person who sees himself as your "Superior" is destructive to your interpersonal dynamic...

i really am surprised you dont know this, and if you dont, i see that as a flaw in his stewardship, again i sugest a mentor.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:26:19 AM

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I'm just too practical and straightforward with that. If I'm playing with someone, they know it. If I'm serious about something, they know it. Most slaves I know take perceived insubordination, training, and punishment VERY seriously and it's not something we combine with playfulness or "keeping the sub off kilter."

There's plenty of ways to mind fuck or torture someone emotionally withOUT confusing them on expectations of behavior and thus causing them to go to a cyber forum and ask other people for what they think it could be about.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:28:47 AM

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Hi Raiken i think that is exactly what it is!! You hit on the high note so to speak with that one and i do enyoy that side of Him very much. Thanks

Sincerely Ryboom's lil slave

It came to my mind as i recognized it after reading through the posts. i love and enjoy when a Master plays with my head in this way. i love mind fucks and the uncertaintity, anticipation and feelings that are invoked in me during these interactions. i believe i have learned the most about myself through engaging in this type of exchange. It is always exciting and keeps things creative and fun.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:31:30 AM

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ok i am sorry i typed it like that i happened to have what i had said to Him word for word and that is "You Should Eat Breakfast Daddy, It Is The Most Important Meal Of The Day", and that is when He said that and i told Him i am sorry Daddy i was just trying to help. That's all i said

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:36:55 AM

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i am not sure i understand, are you still unsure of why he is upset at what you said?

Are you accepting with the "hard " punnishment you will recieve in the future for this infraction?

I guess i am not sure what you are looking for because it seems to me that you want folks to say that you were right, and your Daddy was wrong, and that you should not be held accountable.

Am i wrong? please explain.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:37:26 AM

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Have you done this before with him. If so then you should have know better. Nagging = punishment.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:41:01 AM

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I'm just too practical and straightforward with that. If I'm playing with someone, they know it. If I'm serious about something, they know it. Most slaves I know take perceived insubordination, training, and punishment VERY seriously and it's not something we combine with playfulness or "keeping the sub off kilter."

There's plenty of ways to mind fuck or torture someone emotionally withOUT confusing them on expectations of behavior and thus causing them to go to a cyber forum and ask other people for what they think it could be about.

LA, i see your point. However, to go beyond this, there is that element of confusion, emotional manipulation and surprise, that is often present during this type of exchange that some thrive upon. It has to be mutually understood to be mutually enjoyed though. Not everyone has a taste for it. This type of exchange intrigues me, tests my resolve, stimulates my intuitive talents, and fosters my courage if a fear element is involved, etc. After a while once the dominant and submissive become more familiar with one another and begin to understand the nature of the other, then the mind fucks are a challenge to become more creative, to remove predictability. Also, in the beginning if one is new to this type of exchange, it takes some hits and misses, but if both hang in there and keep an open understanding and communication going, both begin to understand this type of dynamic and enjoy it.

And as you stated, and for me as well, the dominant would have to be upfront with me from the beginning that this is the type of interplay he enjoys. And that i am to expect it occuring as he wishes. Other wise it may feel cruel or twisted, or misunderstood by the one on the receiving end of things. On the other hand, if the dominant is also a sadist, he would enjoy being called cruel and twisted, as is his nature. *grin.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:41:57 AM

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No that is not it at all, i am not trying to prove my Daddy wrong in anyway, He IS ALWAYS RIGHT. This has never came up before, i am excepting of my punishment from Daddy as well, it is just i want to see how other's feel on the situation, and hear others opinions and see if others have had a similar situation, that's all

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:42:09 AM

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(I hate being told to smile when I'm unhappy or feeling blue).

Hey! Smile!

Huh. That goes a long way for showing how you respect others limits and boundaries. Thanks for sharing.

Master Fire

Master Fire,

i hate that too! It happens a lot at work. Like if i am serious and thinking about how to solve a problem, and i walk by someone with this concentrated look on my face, someone will often say, "hey smile life isn't that bad." Arrrg! It irks me to no end. One time i responded by saying yeah, thanks as i was just contemplating as to the best way to kill myself! LOL!.

Sorry, people. I meant no offense!

I also mean no offense with this next comment... I guess there's no room for a little comic relief on these boards.

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:46:36 AM

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Nothing wrong with comic relief, don't take it too personal, i found no offense by your comment. i just shared that i can relate to Master Fire in how she feels about it. Humor is subject to the one receiving it. *smile

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RE: Just A General Question - 9/21/2006 11:48:17 AM

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... He IS ALWAYS RIGHT...

Okay folks, I'm trying for comic relief again. No flames, please!

Rule 1. The boss is always right.
Rule 2. If the boss is wrong, see rule #1.

Nobody is always right... Nobody is perfect... No matter what that person may tell you.

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