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beginning - 9/22/2006 3:32:50 PM

lovetosub

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How should a total novice sub single man take his first steps into the real world of submission.

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RE: beginning - 9/22/2006 3:34:42 PM

alwayshis1

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with a real life local group.

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RE: beginning - 9/22/2006 3:37:46 PM

MrrPete

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go to:

www.fetishexchange.org and study.

read the Collarme Forums.

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RE: beginning - 9/22/2006 3:39:49 PM

lovetosub

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you are talking to a real beginner how would you find out about such a group

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RE: beginning - 9/22/2006 3:43:31 PM

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i would goodle my area with key words like fetish,bdsm,munch
that how I found out about the munch in Tampa.

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RE: beginning - 9/22/2006 3:46:28 PM

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thank you

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RE: beginning - 9/22/2006 10:40:27 PM

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I agree that finding a real world local group is important. However, I do think it's important that a newbie sub arm themselves with some knowledge, so I recommend doing a lot of reading. These message boards do contain a lot of information (though you do have to wade through some crap too!). Another site I recommend is SteelDoor ... the Chamber there has lots of articles and Mistress Steel writes articulately.

My advice is to take it SLOW! I know how easy it is to get caught up in the rush, in the urgent desire to try this out, to be swept off your feet into submission. However, your experiences are likely to be far more satisfying (and much safer) if you take time to get to know people before rushing in to play or service. So your first port of call should be a munch, which is a social meeting, a chance to chat to likeminded people in your area. And DON'T go playing with someone until you know the meaning of all of the following terns and have put some into place:

Safe call
Safe word
Limits
Negotiation
Sub drop
Aftercare

Good luck!
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RE: beginning - 9/22/2006 11:29:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: lovetosub

How should a total novice sub single man take his first steps into the real world of submission.

One foot at a time, placed carefully in front of the other, making sure that your shoelaces are tied and that you're not stepping in the dog poo.

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RE: beginning - 9/22/2006 11:34:05 PM

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My first suggestion to anyone entering into this kinky world is to educate yourself first. There are many online resources a great place to start imho, then move to real books (you know the ones with paper and covers). Everyone has an opinion on what books they think are best, it is best to review the books and find what you are looking for.

Before you can ever think of giving yourself to another you must first know yourself inside and out. You need to know what you have to offer, what you need to improve and what your wants need and desires are.

There are many aspects of Kink from simply playing to being 24/7 and involving tpe (total power exchange). This site is a wealth of information, I personally feel many on here are real and honest about kink however as with life there are those who are less than real and less than nice or helpful.

If you can find one who you can connect with to ask questions of and use as a resource while you are exploring yourself that is great. If not just jump in and enjoy the exploration. Dont be in too much of a hurry to jump into the deep end, use your common sense, this is a lifestyle that can leave you very open to being hurt both physically and mentally.

Welcome to the forums, and welcome to the wonderful world of kink

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RE: beginning - 9/23/2006 4:29:44 AM

MistressMaamNH

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quote:

One foot at a time, placed carefully in front of the other, making sure that your shoelaces are tied and that you're not stepping in the dog poo.

Unless of course, your fetish happens to BE, falling on your face into doggie doodoo hhehee

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RE: beginning - 9/23/2006 4:41:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressMaamNH

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One foot at a time, placed carefully in front of the other, making sure that your shoelaces are tied and that you're not stepping in the dog poo.

Unless of course, your fetish happens to BE, falling on your face into doggie doodoo hhehee

MMNH

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