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quietkitten -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (2/16/2005 2:13:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: topcat Bluesky fantasy woman? A mid thirties, double jointed, long haired, redhead about five one, 110 lbs, literary minded, can take care of her self, likes to let me take care of her, polymorphic, tough and cute as kittens. She talks- tells me everything- even if she thinks I might be happier not knowing it. She listens, and can hear what I am saying, or trying to. She likes motorcycles- not just the idea, but actuallly getting on the bike and going somewhere. She can express her needs and desires clearly without resenting that I am not a mind-reader. She keeps her promises. She sees and validates the the things I put into the relationship. A hard worker with the ability to keep her work in perspective. She loves her work and the people around her. She has a generally sunny disposition, and a silly sense of humor. She's affectionate, and passionate, and doesn't think sex is a bargining chip. She's got a broad world veiw, and a strong sense of civic duty. She should love adventures, be warm hearted, smart, funny and strong enough to know that letting me be in charge doesn't mean I think she's weak. Random things that I have found work well for me in a partner: Eldest child Wears glasses Reads (reads a lot) Likes Sushi Smokes Artist of some sort None of which are deal breakers or anything- just things that seem to have popped up more than once. Add a few inches in height and 30 pounds.... hmmmmmm

topcat -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (2/16/2005 2:29:06 PM)
quote: Add a few inches in height and 30 pounds.... hmmmmmm Now come on! Do you really think I walk around with a sign that says "you must be this tall to ride"? I do like a mate I can fling onto a bed from across the room, and carry up a flight of stairs, and that can wear heels and still be shorter than me- But I have worked around those things in the past... Stay warm, Lawrence

quietkitten -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (2/16/2005 2:32:28 PM)
lol I will keep that in mind sir...

knkywch -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (2/16/2005 3:25:52 PM)
Willing2serve: I am very much enjoying this thread! Thanks for starting it. I love the range of answers and resonate with some too... As for my perfect dominant... well, here are the things that come to mind in this moment: - He is a mature adult who is stable, balanced and in good health spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially. - He is forthright, honest, open, and honorable. - He knows what he wants and is articulate about it. - He's experienced enough with erotic power exchange to feel confident and powerful about his abilities in this arena. - He's slightly taller than me and physically stronger. - He is usually calm, self-assured, fairly easygoing, and gets along well with others. - He is capable of emotional intimacy, and has friends that he loves and who love him. - He is in satisfying open primary relationship with one or more others, or at least respectful and supportive about the fact that I am happily married to someone who is not my dominant. - He likes me, finds me amusing, and considers me sexually desirable. - His geographic location, schedule, and other logistics are compatible with mine. - He can shift out of the more intense overt "scene" stuff to a lighter level of D/s play so that we can engage in some mundane activities together (such as have a meal, go to a movie, etc.) - He knows how to effectively communicate with his eyes and can back it up with words and physical interaction. - He knows how to make me squirm and submit, and gets excited by that. - He is able to scare me as well as comfort and soothe me. - He enjoys resistance play. Recipe for my perfect dominant... 1 part mentor 1 part teacher 1 part parent 1 part employer 1 part wicked creative genius A dash of predator A pinch of arrogant bastard A liberal sprinkling of seducer Sense of humor to taste Mix ingredients together in a strong, healthy, attractive and virile male body. Best served by a compatible bottom...hopefully, me![;)] Thanks again! kw

GrandpaLash -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (2/16/2005 3:31:37 PM)
Well, I'll simply expand on a section from my profile. Looking for a submissive poly female, age irrelevant, size not quite so irrelevant but up to 180 lbs., perhaps a little over, preferably local. Intelligent and articulate would be very nice. Experience is not necessary but she would need to demonstrate strong D/s and SM fantasies/needs at the very least. We would prefer a submissive pain slut - that is, in this context, someone who gets intrinsic sexual pleasure from pain, not just submissive pleasure from accepting the pain. If she happens to be slave-wired as well, that would be a bonus. She would also be preferably one who can happily consider being topped by the other sub in this trio, who is developing a liking for Domming other women. She would need to be smoking friendly. Micro-control does not attract us, we seek a submissive with initiative and an ability to direct herself within the broader bounds of our directives. The annoying thing is we had one, young, very intelligent, perfect in every way and eye-candy into the bargain, but she was a 'do-me' sub, and we eventually had to let her go. Challenge is one thing, all-out war is another. It became like living in a combat zone. But we live in hope. Now, if we could only find one that didn't carry on in chat rooms simultaneously with negotiating with us ('waves madly at everyone in the room' came through during the final conversation with one of them), we'd be laughing. Grandpa Lash

songbird26 -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (2/16/2005 4:03:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darthbetta Wehalp... guess I'm out of the running [:'(] LOL x0x0x. grin Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks, Mister Fighting Fish, and far be it from me to judge my Gorean brethren and sistren. Good on you for finding what works for you, and lucky, too, for finding your compatible lady!

quietkitten -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (2/16/2005 4:12:42 PM)
I had to think for a while about what I am looking for. I want someone who can dominate me both mentally and physically, so I need a man who is tall and strong as well as intelligent. I want a long term relationship, not just a fling. As much as I love sex, it isn't necessarily the most important part of the relationship. I really want to be loved completely, cherished. Looks are not important, chemistry is..

kyakitten -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (3/5/2005 9:26:57 PM)
Time to revive this thread! It's a good'un, and somehow I missed it the first time around. Dear Santa Claus, here's my list. Oh, and early delivery would be nice! My ideal Dom is my touchstone. He finds strength in being the center of my world and knows that his presence there is what centers me. He is not incomplete alone, nor am I – yet together, we complete each other. He is consistent, firm, fair and considerate even though he doesn’t need to be. He’s likely to be: Smart Creative Extroverted Calm Motivated to success professionally but not a workaholic. He understands the value of a friendship, and of honesty. He honors other people, animals, and the world around him. He believes in the concepts of “noble” and “just”. He finds beauty in (nearly) everyone and everything. Since we’re talking ideal, he’s wickedly funny. Down to earth. Romantic. Kind. He smells good. Has a strong, resonant voice. He has enough hair to run my fingers through, and maybe a bit more. He takes good care of himself and demands the same of me. He’s quirkier than anyone would expect and confident enough to share those quirks with me. My ideal Dom is a skilled communicator who knows what it takes to build the trust to truly own a girl, body and mind. He is a teacher who finds gratification in the caliber and passion of his student and what she achieves. He respects me for who I am and helps me attain new heights at home and in life. He cherishes the joy in my eyes when he’s happy, makes wise choices in shaping his sub’s behavior, and gravitates naturally towards the carrot instead of the stick. My ideal Dom knows that our relationship is a journey and will never consent to stop learning, teaching, growing and loving. Like me, he is committed to living a life that is a dream.

MadameDahlia -> RE: Fact or Fantasy? (3/6/2005 12:04:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CTclay My ideal domina is 5 foot, 8 inches tall, strawberry blonde, but she dyes it red; dark eyebrows; one green eye, one gray (the left one), but she wears a green contact lens in the left one. Every thirteen months she quizzes me on which eye is naturally green and which gray, and she flogs me mercilessly if I forget. Maybe it's the right one. She is English, but a U.S. citizen. (I find her accent annoying in some obscure way I can't put my finger on.) She conducts secret work for the government, but she is always home by 5:47 p.m., where I await her with slippers in my mouth. She can put a cherry in her mouth, eat the cherry and tie the stem into a simple knot with her accomplished tongue, which is pierced. She then feeds me the cherry stem. She drives a Bentley, which is odd for my perfect domina, because I don't really know what a Bentley is like, but I'm a submissive, and she tells me I don't get to decide these things. She's the domina, dammit. She decides. I trust her, and I'm sure I will like the Bentley or endure it for her sake. She smokes cigars. She enjoys foot worship, which is unfortunate, because I don't, but there you have it -- my ideal domina likes things that I don't like, so I get to display my devotion to her by eagerly doing those things. She is a weightlifter, and her biceps are stronger than mine, although she is otherwise very thin. She likes to wrestle me into submission. Her middle name is Helga. I can't remember her first name. She flogs me mercilessly for forgetting. That is my perfect domina. One day I shall meet her. This post made me laugh so hard I'm thrilled I wasn't sipping on something as I read it. As for my perfect significant other(s) - well... I'm eclectic. I like various hair colors, eye colors and heights. I'd like the height and weight aspect to be proportionate, though if they're a bit over or under I'd like them to be willing to work on reaching a reasonable health. I'm a bit of a health nut so spirits and smokes of any kind are right out. I'd like to mesh politically and spiritually with him/her/them. I'd like intelligence... humor... beyond that it's anyone's guess. For the record I've met someone... He has a sense of humor. He knows what to say to make me smile... and melt. He identifies as a switch. When I mentioned the idea of a poly relationship he didn't recoil while hissing. I'm thinking this is a pretty good sign... and I'm thinking that the future may hold wonderful, beautiful things.

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