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Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 1:04:50 AM   
cherrypepsi


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Status: offline 		Hello everyone. I've been on collarme for a while and until recently all of my experiences here have been good ones. However, lately I've recieved messages accusing me of being a fake. One specifically mentioning that it was impossible for me to have had a three year relationship if I was 19 years old.
 
I was in a near three year relationship, I did refer to my partner as my Mistress, and although we weren't active in any local community, we did live as Dominant and submissive. I've never claimed to be anything that I'm not.
 
So my question, is there a better way to word my profile so that I can avoid this negative attention? Should I avoid mentioning my experience with my last Mistress entirely?
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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 1:12:25 AM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		Don't bother changing your profile.  No matter what you do or say, there's someone going to come out of the woodwork and claim you're a fake for some reason.  Just ignore and go on... I mean, you're not interested in that person anyway, unless they have a personality transplant.  So don't let it bother you :)

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 1:13:34 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		You're going to be called much worse things online my dear, because people online know they are protected by anonymity...   It is up to you to not let jerkoffs online annoy you, so I suggest a thicker skin, and use the delete/block button when you need to.
Good luck, and welcome to the forums.   M

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 1:14:13 AM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		Take the good experiences you've had and enjoy them. For the rest, utilize the block button. I was accused of much the same...when you add up the years I've been active it's obvious I was a minor. Be who you are and let the rest go.

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 1:27:13 AM   
cherrypepsi


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Status: offline 		Thank you all so very much. I suppose I was just a little shocked when I first recieved the messages. When I take the time to think about it, the good people that I've met here on collarme make it worth recieving the occasional not-so-nice message. I suppose I should break in that block button.
 
Also, thank you for the welcome BlkTallFullFig.

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 1:47:39 AM   
mons


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Status: offline 		greetings dear

do not mind anyone you know who you are, i have been called fake so manythngs i laugh now and i do not explain anything to anyone they are the ones who may be fake i am not speaking of the post just now i am talking about submissive and slaves who write me many are ok so are just well wierd

take care your young but well i do think you young but who i am to say

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 1:53:31 AM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		don't change because of a few wanna-be's or players out there (except maybe the color of the font in your profile, since it is difficult to read with black on blue...hurts the eyes)

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 1:58:47 AM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		Some ppl just like to screw with you. Others believe they have the right to past judgement. There way is the only way and that's all there is to it. Falter from it, and you're not really into kink or the BDSM lifestyle. I find it funny for those who find BDSM to be a religion with stead fast "This is how it has to be." After all, where's the BDSM bible and Book of Proper Behavior? As long as you and your partner/s are happy, that's all that matters.

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 2:04:50 AM   
NastyDaddy


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Status: offline 		Because it's "Cherry Coke" and "Wild Cherry Pepsi"...

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 3:02:43 AM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

Because it's "Cherry Coke" and "Wild Cherry Pepsi"...

I was going to say "because they drink coke" and you beat me to it LOL

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 3:54:03 AM   
cherrypepsi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

don't change because of a few wanna-be's or players out there (except maybe the color of the font in your profile, since it is difficult to read with black on blue...hurts the eyes)

 
I'll definately do that, thank you for the advice.
 
quote:

ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy
 
Because it's "Cherry Coke" and "Wild Cherry Pepsi"...

 
I thought "wildcherrypepsi" was a bit lengthy. Guess I brought it on myself, lol

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 4:26:02 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		When your in collarme you dont expect people to be so judgemental about you. You expect more tolorance. Unfortunately you dont have that here. This place is like anywhere else. You have your jerks and you will meet some very nice people. Enjoy your new friends and delete the jerks and you will do fine.

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 4:29:04 AM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		I have found that often when people use the word fake, what they mean is "you don't do things the way I think they should be done".  Given that interpretation, I am happy to be called fake by some people.

I have also noticed that there are those who seek to elevate themselves and their relationships by tearing others down, calling them fake, wannabe, posers, etc.  These negatively judgmental people tend to attach their own emotional responses to what they see in other people's lives and they do not even consider how the other people feel or think.  I have little tolerance for these narrow-minded people and I ignore them for the most part.

Do what brings you fulfillment and allow other people the right to do what fulfills them and don't worry about the people who will seek to tear you down; it just illustrates their own inadequacies.

Knight's kyra

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 4:41:26 AM   
MistressSassy66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

When your in collarme you dont expect people to be so judgemental about you. You expect more tolorance. Unfortunately you dont have that here. This place is like anywhere else. You have your jerks and you will meet some very nice people. Enjoy your new friends and delete the jerks and you will do fine.


You would think that it would be more tolerent...but alas it is not so.
Excellent advice..delete and or block


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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 5:02:46 AM   
cherrypepsi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

When your in collarme you dont expect people to be so judgemental about you. You expect more tolorance.

 
This is true. Although from what's been said in this thread I'm getting that it's a rather common thing. I feel a little silly for letting it get to me so badly.

< Message edited by cherrypepsi -- 9/26/2006 5:05:19 AM >

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 6:01:28 AM   
MCandNuri


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Status: offline 		..I was about to make the pun that "Maybe they're just not into the 'pepsi' challenge". *laughs*

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 7:01:40 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		Be true to yourself and reflect that in your profile then who cares if some people do not like that.

There are many people on these sites who are so bitter or mean spirited that they write poeple to nit pick or tear apart people's profiles who they were rejected by or just clicked on. It is their weak mind to feel superior and try to get some attention from you.

The word fake had a much broader sense of definition. It has become more a generic put down most of the time instead of someone intentionally or unintentionally miss repressenting themselves.

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 7:14:07 AM   
mandarin


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Status: offline 		Some people just do not like the younger girls.  i get it from both sides, ladies who think i know nothing and Men who think i should just grow up!!  Don't take it to heart and leave your profile be.

mandy

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 7:33:11 AM   
EvilGeoff


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Status: offline 		It is not unusual for people to have BDSM experience while they are minors, just as it is not unusual for people to have vanilla sexual experiences.  Now doing the math means that if you had a 3 year relationship, it started when you were a minor...But because of the great emphasis the BDSM community puts on BDSM occurs between "consenting adults", some people seem to forget that minors _can_ have BDSM relationships going on.

As a self-protective measure, we, as a community, do not want to acknowledge that.  Prosecution for child molestation or statutory rape is nothing to laugh at or joke about, and any kind of sexual or BDSM relationship between an adult and a minor is subject to all kinds of governmental nastiness.

It doesn't mean you are fake to get started young, but just remember that your admitting it will make some people VERY uncomfortable, and they might lash out in their discomfort.

Welcome to collarme, and best of luck!
- Geoff

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RE: Why am I being called fake? - 9/26/2006 7:52:54 AM   
cherrypepsi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EvilGeoff

It doesn't mean you are fake to get started young, but just remember that your admitting it will make some people VERY uncomfortable, and they might lash out in their discomfort.

 
Thank you, I'll keep that in mind.

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