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What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:10:15 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		So I just received an email on the other side and it made me think.
I know, scary thought.
The man it was from was very romantic.  It was such a turn off for me. 
I'm just not into romantic doms.  I like rough, tattoos, forceful...no romance whatsoever.  It fulfills a very hard, cold side of me.

What kind of dom/domme are you?
or...
What kind of dom/domme are you attracted to?
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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:13:08 PM   
KatyLied


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From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline 		Intelligent.  Woo me with how smart you are.  I wouldn't mind some romance, but it can't be the drippy, one size fits all flowers & candlelight thing, it has to be things that are meaningful to me on a personal level, showing that he has a feel for what is meaningful to me.  I don't like the rough, tattooed thing, I prefer the can-pass-as-a-banker or stockbroker-look.

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:13:37 PM   
MasterC46910


Posts: 108
Joined: 4/17/2006
Status: offline 		I am a laid back easy going Daddy Dom with a rather sadistic streak that comes out once in a while.

I am rather deceptive at times, I am more sadistic both mentally and physically then most would think.

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:14:50 PM   
spanklette


Posts: 882
Joined: 2/22/2005
Status: offline 		My first thought was romantic, but that's not altogether true. I prefer people who make me feel special. Sometimes that's romance and sometimes that's rough, tattoos, and forceful. I appreciate when people are themselves. If romance comes naturally, then I'm all for it!

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:15:41 PM   
pleazuredpain


Posts: 29
Joined: 9/27/2006
Status: offline 		Point me in the direction of a Sadist any day of the week.  Rough, crude, yet very loving after all is said and done.



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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:19:24 PM   
sweetnessforsir


Posts: 70
Joined: 1/5/2006
Status: offline 		I like romantic, rough and tumble men who make me feel special.   

Some days I need one or the other, and some times I need a little of each.

s

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:19:35 PM   
MochaMistress


Posts: 275
Joined: 1/8/2006
Status: offline 		I'm a sweet nuturing Domme that is romantic and caring. But I also have a bit of a sadistic twist.

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:19:54 PM   
mstrjx


Posts: 2045
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Status: offline 		I used to see this sort of thing on Alt all the time.  I always questioned whether the profiles that would say this sort of thing were real.  The types of profiles where there was no question of an actual relationship, but actual objectification from the start.

So many women here (on CM) are against the 'caveman' approach, or at least those on the forum.  The ones where you are already assumed to be possessed before the actual fact.  Where there is name-calling.  Where there is no wooing.  Where it is thought that the only position you would even consider reading their email is on your knees.

How a relationship plays out is one thing.  How to approach someone is something else.

For example, I could say that I would be the perfect Dom/Master/whatsis for you.  But I could never make the approach that would satisfy you, if only given one shot.

Jeff

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:20:57 PM   
Aileen68


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Don't get me wrong...I'm not saying that I want a relationship that is emotionless and uncaring.
I'd rather see that expressed through sane, careful, intense play instead of hearing "I love you"
It's based on what I'm seeking in a relationship at the moment.  I'm not looking for any kind of commitment.

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:21:19 PM   
gardenbluebird


Posts: 131
Joined: 5/9/2006
Status: offline 		Put me down for intelligent too.  Otherwise i'm a jill of all trades - romantic one day, slutty the next, then bratty, then pleasure slave, then pain slut, or whatever else strikes O/our fancy.  What i love most of all about BDSM: variety.

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:21:38 PM   
tade


Posts: 663
Joined: 4/23/2005
From: Tampa Bay, Florida
Status: offline 		I tend to be the more sadistic of the 2 of us (Wife and I). But there are times when she really surprises me, not to mention surprising our slave. Romantic, we save that for each other. We are very loving toward anyone we Top, but it's not quite the same thing.

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:22:26 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Joined: 5/19/2006
Status: offline 		Well Sir is a self proclaimed sadist and quite frankly i believe He does an excellent job at it.  He also is very intelligent and we have many lengthy fun and intense conversations.  He is rough of course and i include that separate from sadist because for me that is two different things.  I know when He pulls my hair for a kiss that the fun is about to begin.  And if He kissed me softly and tenderly i would check His temperature.  LOL.  He refers to Himself as more of a dumb country hick but we both know that is very untrue.  Many would fall for that line but only until they knew Him better.  He is rough, tough and delightful and can look like a professional, farmer, or probably a bum if He so chose to do so.  Would be His decision and i would love Him anyway He looked.


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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:23:33 PM   
Aileen68


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

I used to see this sort of thing on Alt all the time.  I always questioned whether the profiles that would say this sort of thing were real.  The types of profiles where there was no question of an actual relationship, but actual objectification from the start.

So many women here (on CM) are against the 'caveman' approach, or at least those on the forum.  The ones where you are already assumed to be possessed before the actual fact.  Where there is name-calling.  Where there is no wooing.  Where it is thought that the only position you would even consider reading their email is on your knees.

How a relationship plays out is one thing.  How to approach someone is something else.

For example, I could say that I would be the perfect Dom/Master/whatsis for you.  But I could never make the approach that would satisfy you, if only given one shot.

Jeff


It's a crapshoot.  The best anyone can do is to approach someone in their own way and hope that the other is attracted to that type.  That all important first impression, you know.

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:25:18 PM   
KatyLied


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From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline 		It is a crapshoot.  But sometimes you get lucky.

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:27:24 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		That's why you stick around and keep trying...for that one time that it does work out perfectly.

edited for spelling

< Message edited by Aileen68 -- 9/27/2006 6:28:23 PM >

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:29:00 PM   
RedSavageSlave


Posts: 733
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Status: offline 		I am with you Aileen.. I get very turned off by "romantic" contacts. I would rather have true realistic interactions with someone than have someone try to sway me with flowers and emotions. ESP if its early on.

I wonder why that is though..<shrug> oh well.. all I can say is "I yam what I yam"

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:32:27 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I'm a laid back, rough lovin' sadist Domme who makes a slut know his place, on the end of my leash. I pull hair, bite, claw, step on, slap, whatever I have to do to get my point across. My sub of course loves it

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:33:44 PM   
LTRsubNW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

So I just received an email on the other side and it made me think.
I know, scary thought.
The man it was from was very romantic.  It was such a turn off for me. 
I'm just not into romantic doms.  I like rough, tattoos, forceful...no romance whatsoever.  It fulfills a very hard, cold side of me.

What kind of dom/domme are you?
or...
What kind of dom/domme are you attracted to?


Ya know...a lot of people don't assume this about sub (males)...I digress...in answer to your question (I'll get to the other)...My Domme is sure of herself.  She's confident.  You might assume that as a given. 

It's not.

To be clear, I don't have a Domme (nor does any Domme have me).

The other:  Some of us like to be courted too.  You don't need to bring us flowers...(trust me, that really isn't necessary) but be aware...those of us with any ability to breath without a follow on oxygen tank (those born after WWII or later {forgive me for those I may have offended}) were born during Gloria Steinems (sp?) reign and every damn one of you (and your Mothers....and mine) told us we needed to be more like Alan Alda.

In the late 70's, early 80's you all wanted to go to Robert Redford movies (all the while telling us "No honey...I really don't respect those kind of men") but you still told us you wanted us to be more "understanding" and when we went to a biker bar with our buddies...we watched all of you leave on the tail end of a fine two wheeler.

So, you can understand our confusion when, at 40 or 50, we're amazed that you want to cuddle up and find a permanent place in our future.

(Not that there's anything wrong with that).

Soooooo....for those of us that were raised aware, inculcated with the appropriate response, opening doors when we think it's appropriate....even as that one chic who looked like a fucking lumber jack stood there dumbfounded and striked vehemently at (us) and said "WHAT THE FUCK????? I can open my own fucking door THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!!"....

And yet we still opened the door for every woman that followed...with a smile....

I just ask this one thing:

Tell us you're interested...ok?

(It's the least you can do).

Oh yeah...I forgot...courting.

It's okay if you do (us...courting that is)...we won't hold that against you.

(Really).

< Message edited by LTRsubNW -- 9/27/2006 6:40:22 PM >

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:36:39 PM   
juliaoceania


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From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		Edited because I misunderstood

I wanted someone to appeal to my intellect, and made that clear on my profile.. most could not do that for some reason... they saw a pic of a female with a bra and panties on and thought with their other head

That was why Sinergy got an email back from me...lol... he actually asked me what I wanted to go to graduate school for...and while his profile was elegant and intelligent with a hint of romance... his email was friendly and not forceful at all

I do not like forceful men unless I  consent to it.

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 9/27/2006 6:47:36 PM >

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RE: What are you? - 9/27/2006 6:42:51 PM   
lilsky


Posts: 14
Joined: 10/7/2004
Status: offline 		type of dom i'm attracted to..... hmmm

smart, caring, sadistic, affectionate, almost crude and rude, hash and strict, gentle and understanding,...

i guess that could be sumed up as an intelligent daddy dom with a sadistic streak,... that just seems to simple to me though..lol 

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