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what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 8:31:26 AM   
Jusey


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Status: offline 		Please let me know what is the deal with the hateful attitude? Most replies that I get are very nice and sweet but I keep getting these replies from slaves like I have personally attacted their mother. Twice I have got a reply calling me "lazy and/or stuck up". The only message I sent to them was "are you available?". I know I am being a little sensitive at the moment, but dommes are sensitive too.....Why do people feel the need to reply so hateful to only a simple question? I can understand if they do not want to reply at all. It is reasonable if someone is not interested to just not bother to reply but to be hateful for not obvious reason just has me lost in space. Ok, done ranting for the moment.
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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 8:37:48 AM   
redpetals


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Status: offline 		there are slaves who are really very vanila and are showing their asses this way
the ones that act like petulant lil farts are begging to be ignored arent they?


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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 8:48:33 AM   
jeffman1234


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Status: offline 		Dear Jusey,It is a big Internet, You will get a lot of crazes out there.  

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 9:07:31 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		'cause PEOPLE, in general, can be hateful. It has nothing to do with kink. If they're hateful, then you know, even if they ARE available, they ain't for you.

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 9:23:20 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		Because we are all human beings and some human beings regardless if they are dominant or submissive do things that are rash, insensistive and maybe out of character. Throw in the invisiblity of the Internet and that will breed rude behavior.

I am not defending the messages you received, but if that is all you put in your message and after reading your profile which is one sentence, I would not reply to you at all and many would call me rude. My question to you, that does not really go to your question but, if all someone wrote you was "are you available" and their profile was one sentence what would be your impression?

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 10:35:57 AM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		Yes, you do need to put a lot more in your profile. But, that doesn't excuse those posters.
Some people are just rude and have no manners.

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 10:44:02 AM   
JerseyKrissi72


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Status: offline 		even when I am not interested in someone i reply to every message in a kind manner.

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 5:13:00 PM   
LadyJulieAnn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: redpetals

there are slaves who are really very vanila and are showing their asses this way
the ones that act like petulant lil farts are begging to be ignored arent they?



I don't think being rude necessarily correlates with being "vanilla".

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/28/2006 5:23:02 PM   
yaqeta


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Status: offline 		My thought: by saying little in your profile and even less in your message, the implication is that you think the slave being available is all that is required for them to be interested in being yours.  The things you describe you want in your journal entry are fine, but you don't say anything to indicate that you would get to know the slave, train them over time, and build this kind of role with them - its like you just want someone who is willing to rock up and start on the housework without any kind of give and take.  Which might be exactly what you want, and if so, fine (and good luck - I think you'll need it).  But many slaves need a little more than this before they can reach the point where they can be that obedient - they need to know you, and know that you care about them.  For these slaves, suggesting that they should "know their place" before they have even met you could be quite offensive.

My other thought, that may or may not be relevant: do these slaves say they are searching in their profiles?  I am not, and yet I still get messages from doms on a regular basis - straight one-liners, the mark of a troll.  It gets very VERY frustrating when this happens over and over when you are not looking, and it seems as though the person messaging you is not concerned about your profile and who you are, just sending the same message to sub/slave after sub/slave.

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/29/2006 5:51:05 AM   
WhipTheHip


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Status: offline 		Your profile is too brief.  You didn't respond to your likes and dislikes.  You
specified what you are looking for, but didn't give others any information
about yourself to see if they would like you.

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/29/2006 7:44:38 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		I don't believe I would respond to "are you available" either.  I may hit the easy respond button.
Beyond that, if you didn't care enough to write anything worth responding to, why should I?
Call it rude if you like.  Though you get what you give out of life. 
If you're not willing to give them expect not to get back.

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/29/2006 1:27:29 PM   
pinkee


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Status: offline 		i got a weird email this am...a fem slave, asking me if i was looking for a Dom.  Since she was young, i asked her if she was okay, and laughed off the Dom thing, as my profile's pretty clear.  Then she responded by calling me a stupid bitch, etc.  i was very confused....but IMHO, that's what the "delete" button is for.  pinkee

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/29/2006 2:04:17 PM   
ToGiveDivine


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ORIGINAL: toservez

... Throw in the invisiblity of the Internet and that will breed rude behavior.



toservez nails it right there for the online communications.  Alot of people think that just because the other person isn't in front of them, can't get to them, and doesn't know who they are, that they can say whatever they please.

Most of these people are cowards that wouldn't say to someone's face what they email them online.


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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/29/2006 4:12:36 PM   
EnglishDomNW


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ORIGINAL: Jusey

Please let me know what is the deal with the hateful attitude? Most replies that I get are very nice and sweet but I keep getting these replies from slaves like I have personally attacted their mother. Twice I have got a reply calling me "lazy and/or stuck up". The only message I sent to them was "are you available?". I know I am being a little sensitive at the moment, but dommes are sensitive too.....Why do people feel the need to reply so hateful to only a simple question? I can understand if they do not want to reply at all. It is reasonable if someone is not interested to just not bother to reply but to be hateful for not obvious reason just has me lost in space. Ok, done ranting for the moment.
Jusey


Best way to look at it is they've already demonstrated what you'll get if you go any further with them, so they saved you a lot of time.  Delete, forget, block and let them figure out their own problems.

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/30/2006 12:52:15 AM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Actually that question would have saved a lot of time and energy for those of us that would prefer quick to the point then if interested continued discussion.  Have had many Doms ask a million questions except that one when if they had asked i would have told them no i am not emotionally available right now.  Yes i could do that in a long drawn out message too but why bother when a short to the point works.  Now as far as the profile is concerned that would be for those that are available and yes more would be nice.  If not available i wouldn't read the profile anyway.

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RE: what is the deal with the hateful attitude? - 9/30/2006 7:57:55 AM   
Saraheli


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Status: offline 		Maybe its because your oh-so-witty & informative "are u available" message was the 30th or 40th such masterpeice of the epistler's art they have recieved in the 10 minutes they have been online.
Such a short and generic message would lead me to think that you were lazy AND stuck up, and yes I probably would reply with something sarcastic & nasty

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