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Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 2:57:03 PM

Bearlee

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Tasking a submissive or slave:

Someone earlier mentioned ‘…tasking the submissive to whatever .’

Am I the only submissive who enjoys being tasked? I like being told to do things; writing a paper, researching, cooking particular meals, polishing his boots (okay, not so excited about actually house cleaning, but you understand what I mean). I’d like pleasing Him and making His life easier; doing things for Him.

Not having had a Dominant really, I’m curious as to how you deal with this. Is it difficult to come up with stuff? I can’t imagine that…but maybe. Do you prefer things that make your life easier…or do you just come up with ‘busy work’?

I’m curious what kinds of things both Dominants and s-types enjoy in this regard.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:00:58 PM

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He tells me what books to read, what movies to watch, to write a resume for myself...etc etc etc..lol

Sometimes I just need to be told what it is I should be doing to remain focused... he is going to review my resume tonight

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:05:45 PM

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I like it too. I have a service-kink need. But I also have a please enlighten me need. Tonight I read one article from the Economist. I have a book to read and I've not been good at getting it done. It's not the normal type of reading for me and I'm having trouble getting into it. I'm going to make an effort to read x amount of pages every day.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:06:58 PM

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Seeeeeeeeeeeeee... that's what I mean! Awesome!!!

...lucky girls, too! <sigh>

bearlee

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:07:06 PM

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i am the same way, everyday he sends me a purpose, sometimes its cleaning the house or to send him x-rated pics to his phone. he knows me and knows that i need to reminded to keep focus and it helps to know that i'm washing the floors for him, that he is my purpose not just washing the floor.
i find it a perfect way for him to be dominate every day,and it always reminds me that i am his slave.

i love it and feel off on the days that he cant send me my purpose.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:13:45 PM

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Well; in the past I have had Mine finish education (post secondary); had them involved in volunteering at a Community Centre, a nursing home, etc..
I also want them to understand and feel comfortable with budgeting, finances, investments, etc..
Discovering a new hobby or skill.
As well; the 'tasking I know most here mainly focus - is the sexual gratification /denial aspect.
Keeping them 'busy' is really not a purpose to Me; but having them productive, confident, enjoying life, and learning more how to be the best damn submissive or slave is a wonderful thing to mold.......
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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:18:36 PM

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Well, that doesn't work well for me. I have a very demanding job and often work nights (on my own time) on work related projects.

I finished my post graduate work, know how to budget, have volunteered most of my life, etc. I'd rather clean the floor, etc., because I know it will please Him, not because I was tasked with it.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:23:07 PM

MASTERRocker

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Possibly Bandit - but many are younger' you were fortunate to put yourself through education - Mine are paid for and I expect only the Best for them; their dreams, their desires.... their opportunity a success.
To Me ; when they succeed, then I succed

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:24:54 PM

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I understand that one too, bandit. Kinda like cooking meals and cleaning the kitchen, bringing Him coffee...it's just what I DO...

I'm sure this is an individual thing; each couple would have different priorities, probably...but that's why I'm interested, actually.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:27:06 PM

MASTERRocker

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OK...... to Me domestic service is a 'given'......... that is natural

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:29:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MASTERRocker

Possibly Bandit - but many are younger' you were fortunate to put yourself through education - Mine are paid for and I expect only the Best for them; their dreams, their desires.... their opportunity a success.
To Me ; when they succeed, then I succed

I'm not quite sure what you mean. I don't think I was fortunate. It took a lot of hard work and sacrifice. I was younger once too, you know. But, I'm certainly not judging anyone. I am simply stating that being tasked wouldn't work for me.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:31:51 PM

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Interesting question, Bearlee. I am generally not "tasked", occassionally, but not normally. I find that I anticipate his every need. In fact, it pleases me greatly if I've figured out what he needs before he opens his mouth. I love knowing I make his life easier and more pleasant, even though I have a career that causes me a ton of stress and strain (and I'm getting old too!).

But there is nothing like the look on his face when he sees I have done something that he was going to ask me to do before he asked. It's almost like I can read his mind sometimes and that brings me satisfaction.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:32:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee

I understand that one too, bandit. Kinda like cooking meals and cleaning the kitchen, bringing Him coffee...it's just what I DO...

I'm sure this is an individual thing; each couple would have different priorities, probably...but that's why I'm interested, actually.

Yeah, I'm sure each couple does have different priorities. And, it also depends upon living arrangements, types of jobs, kids, etc.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:34:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MASTERRocker

OK...... to Me domestic service is a 'given'......... that is natural

It is not a "given" in my relationship. If I am busy with graduate school he has told me we could get a maid because I might be teaching classes and taking them. I try to spoil him when I am around though because I love doing it. I do not live with him, so when I do things for him like do his laundry, unpack his apartment, and cook for him... I am truly doing it for him as a service.. I have my own place to support and keep clean too.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:35:10 PM

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I was thinking the same, julia. It's certainly not a "given" in mine either.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:38:22 PM

MASTERRocker

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Ok well in the past, Mine lived with Me; I provide them with transportation, an allowance, and all amenities.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:39:00 PM

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My views are a little different, but that's more because I'm a little different.

I have a saying that sometimes I'm bold in telling 'applicants', and other times I'm almost ashamed to say it. 'I'm pretty easy to please, but nearly impossible to serve.'

I'm independant. I won't go into how I 'got' there, but suffice it to say, it's factual. I'm aware that certain subs/slaves have at least somewhat of a 'service' orientation to them; I just don't always require that. If one of the considerations of a sub is that they 'make the Dom's life easier', then you can see that you have to 'prove' it to me that by trying to serve me doesn't just make a worse mess.

Having said that, to help you feel fulfilling, you do get the opportunity to pleasure me in those ways.

But at the same time, probably what can easily give me the greatest pleasure is for you just to be 'there', looking as you do. Waiting for my touch, waiting for my roughness, dressed as you're instructed or in whatever position is required (or bound in for that matter).

I can take over from there.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:43:39 PM

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As I said, it depends upon a lot of things. I wouldn't be terribly comfortable having someone else provide transportation or an allowance for me. I prefer to do those things for myself.

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:49:36 PM

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Yes - I understand that each household is different - but to Me; My household is TPE; and one of the greatest things I can reward a lovely, loyal, slave; is to make sure that her sacrifice and willing obedience to follow her desire to serve; - is a future.....

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RE: Tasking a submissive or slave - 9/28/2006 3:55:42 PM

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Bearlee, I'll answer your OP from My perspective. holly is very service oriented. While I have in the past had service-oriented submissives, in this relationship it is much more at the fore.  We are still working out how that service kink can best be used in our relationship.

We are planning a trip together, for instance, and I have "tasked" her with most of the travel arrangements.  I greatly enjoy both giving the assignments and receiving the results, and when we take the trip I suspect that the service "performance" will be very important to us both.

I cannot imagine making up unneeded tasks for her (or any submissive, really). She is incredibly busy (loving mom and spouse, caring and involved daughter, full time graduate student, active community volunteer and devoted submissive -- I can hardly imagine more time/stress demands!) and I would feel snarky making up busywork. Moreover, I doubt I'd get any gratification from it. She knows that she has certain regular tasks (examples include preparing lunches when we meet, communicating with Me daily) and she receives and performs her extraordinary "tasks" as well. That service makes My life easier and makes both of us happy.

What I find interesting about service submission is that it is a component of D/s that if you don't get it, you just don't get it. I have had a long time in WIIWD, and I've had deep, loving relationships with those without a service kink, and those with, and there is a real gulf between the two.  I have had discussions with non-service oriented kinky people who cannot imagine her or Me obtaining gratification out of her service to Me. The submissives don't conceive of a service component with their Dominant partners (other than serving them sexually), and the Doms can't imagine "wasting" a willing submissive's time on this service stuff (usually, not always, they think its about sex too). Non service folks think I'm kidding when I describe one lovely evening in our relationship consisting of her cooking and serving Me a meal, and then her waiting (sitting/kneeling) beside Me as I read or work, focusing on her service to Me. Service folks "get it."

E.

(to be clear, this "service stuff" doesn't preclude sex! But it puts it in a different framework.)

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