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i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 2:24:56 PM

stillexploring

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yes i am quite soft ( i cant see blood/pain donot like them) , sensitive(cant hear abusive language or something thats really bad about me or someone i know) , Shy (cannot tell anyone i am involved in any relationship where i obey woman etc).
But i have strong desire to be submissive /slave of a lady. ..
So can i be submissive even if i have so much conditions ?

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 2:29:09 PM

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Yes. You are allowed to want what you want and to look actively for it. If someone doesn't agree to the limits you have, they are not a match for you.

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 2:29:36 PM

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Yes. Finding a match, though, will be more difficult as it will with anyone who has more limits or very specific limits that may not jive with the majority. Everything, though, is possible.

I don't think any one taken individually is too bad but all together it might be an issue. I am curious though about your statement, "cannot tell anyone i am involved in any relationship where i obey woman". Does this mean you can not tell anyone you are in a D/s relationship or that any relationship you get into you must project the position of power?

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 2:37:23 PM

stillexploring

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Yes. Finding a match, though, will be more difficult as it will with anyone who has more limits or very specific limits that may not jive with the majority. Everything, though, is possible.

I don't think any one taken individually is too bad but all together it might be an issue. I am curious though about your statement, "cannot tell anyone i am involved in any relationship where i obey woman". Does this mean you can not tell anyone you are in a D/s relationship or that any relationship you get into you must project the position of power?

i will not tell anyone (friends/family etc) that i am in D/S relationship , Reason is simple , i live in a country where peoples will not accept such relationship and i may be degraded in society ..

let me try to explain my limits in more details .
All my demands are simple
1. my mistress should not be harsh enough , its fine if she slap me or beat me with some wooden stick , but she should do it with care ,she must take care if it does not bleed , So pain will be gladly accepted but harsh pain cannot be accepted .She must be worried about my safety too.
2.She may call me pet/bitch etc . but using pure abusive language which hurt my feelings cannot be accepted .
3.Shy , yes please keep relationship private as described above.

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 2:41:47 PM

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Just be up front and honest. Get to know someone before jumping into anything. Be patient. Good luck.

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 3:18:53 PM

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There is nothing wrong with being submissive, and more about service than senstation... In fact women will flock to you for that if you prove to be a decent and sincere human being with those qualities.
Learn about yourself, learn about what you want, be honest about it, and you'll do just fine. M

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 4:10:04 PM

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More about service than sensation.

Are you good with a broom? Can you drive a car? Can you hold bags in the store? Can you clean toilets?

Would doing these things be enough for you?

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 6:58:44 PM

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Can you cook, clean, massage a back or two and feet? How about mow the lawn and shovel snow? There are many domestic duties that a sub will apply themselves to.

Would these things be enough ... if they please your Mistress/Master. Will you be okay if that same Mistress/Master has another in their home that DOES do the things you will not? In the end, communicating with a prospective Mistress/Master about everyone's desires and needs is the key.

You also might like to fill out your profile a bit more, listing your hard limits right there to be read.

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/2/2006 7:46:21 PM

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*chuckles a bit* its hard for a subby male learning about his desires...he is often afraid and will not disclose them to his partners.
I have learned over time that you will come to grips with your desires and be more open about them so that they can be fulfilled.

Or...you will encounter a woman who will sniff them out and quickly put you in your place. (has happened to me both r/t and online lol).

Dont be shy...and dont be afraid....embrace your desires and beg them to be fulfilled. If your lucky...you will end up with a wonderful Mistress.

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/3/2006 9:15:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: stillexploring

yes i am quite soft ( i cant see blood/pain donot like them) , sensitive(cant hear abusive language or something thats really bad about me or someone i know) , Shy (cannot tell anyone i am involved in any relationship where i obey woman etc).
But i have strong desire to be submissive /slave of a lady. ..
So can i be submissive even if i have so much conditions ?

Trolling, trolling, trolling......

I guess I'll put away the car wreck pictures, the pint of blood I keep for squicking people out and won't plan on making you bark at the restaurant, eh? Shit.

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/3/2006 9:20:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

quote:

ORIGINAL: stillexploring

yes i am quite soft ( i cant see blood/pain donot like them) , sensitive(cant hear abusive language or something thats really bad about me or someone i know) , Shy (cannot tell anyone i am involved in any relationship where i obey woman etc).
But i have strong desire to be submissive /slave of a lady. ..
So can i be submissive even if i have so much conditions ?

Trolling, trolling, trolling......

I guess I'll put away the car wreck pictures, the pint of blood I keep for squicking people out and won't plan on making you bark at the restaurant, eh? Shit.

BARKING AT RESTAURANTS!!!! I think I just messed myself - MisPandora, don't tease so - ROFL

It sounds like he just wants to be a vanilla maid - to each their own I say.

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/3/2006 9:30:09 AM

MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: ToGiveDivine

quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

quote:

ORIGINAL: stillexploring

yes i am quite soft ( i cant see blood/pain donot like them) , sensitive(cant hear abusive language or something thats really bad about me or someone i know) , Shy (cannot tell anyone i am involved in any relationship where i obey woman etc).
But i have strong desire to be submissive /slave of a lady. ..
So can i be submissive even if i have so much conditions ?

Trolling, trolling, trolling......

I guess I'll put away the car wreck pictures, the pint of blood I keep for squicking people out and won't plan on making you bark at the restaurant, eh? Shit.

BARKING AT RESTAURANTS!!!! I think I just messed myself - MisPandora, don't tease so - ROFL

It sounds like he just wants to be a vanilla maid - to each their own I say.

No, I did not mean that literally.
Bark at restaurant.
Shit.
LOL

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RE: i am soft ,sensitive and little shy - 10/6/2006 3:38:28 AM

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greetings to all

i find myself spoil and i love it to have someone cater to me rub my back and do what i like is so fun. does anyone find they may be spoiled i think when you do find a wonderful service type of submissive it is a thing so dreams to some many have lost the true nature of what they are about i have letter where they say i will kiss you feet ( this si something they wish to do ) or i will lick you for hours (ok that sound ok but for hours may be a littel be on the long side then there are the house cleaners ( oh i wil wash you wall you floor do the dish ) not one has said what do you wish of me what can i or how can i be of service to you , this let me pick what i want from them this si what is missing from the submissives now days wanting to learn how to please me not telling me what they will do but i will find out what is wrong looking for the right one is hard somettimes but will be work it self out

take care mons

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