HatesParisHilton
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In life there are no guarentees. These suggestions just help one feel comfortable about meeting a stranger.I don't know if any of you agree, but people never seem like their picture or webcam. People that have taken recent pictures even. Not because they are trying to decieve but because a photo is a moment in time, even on webcam you do not see how a person moves. I would say a video of someone in a room at a party would be accurate if that is what was important to you. You would see how that person moves thru space and his relative size to other people. When someone is very tall or very short it is a bit distorted in a pic because your mind makes them a regular size. One of the most beautiful men i had ever seen pictures of met me at eh gym where I work recently. He was so much smaller than I imagined, it really threw me,
Look, I'm sure for you and many this is true, but there's a limit, and there have been years of studies into how men are so much more visually attracted and willing to "go for it" on the base of that than women, so sadly this will always (ofr the most part) come down to a gender diff. I do not speak for men in the following statement, but I do for many I know:
"a moment in time" if it shows that a bodytype/look" is even 70% what someone claims in e-mail is perfectly valid. No matter how they "move through the room" at a party and converse, if they call themselves (in e-mail) "Mae West" and they are really "Rosie O'Donnell", then sorry, they've fibbed, even if they did not mean to. And that kinda fib often means other kinda fibs, just like women complain about men making.
Also, I have met more than several women off the net, whom provided pics/whatever. In my life, the women willing to provide those (and I always provided my own for them in return, no matter how "not up to scratch" I felt I was), were ALWAYS accurate, right down to bodtype by male standards.
Which often is very different to how women look at bodytype descr5iptions. I told a woman whom wanted to meet me I liked Bette Midler body types. She wrote back (sans pic) and said she was "very Bette Midler".
She was not. She was very Toni Collette at Toni's LOWEST "curves". I politely brought this up and she stated "well, I have Bette's personality and curly hair and can sing".
Uh, YEAH, granted, but that had jack shit with what I was talking about.
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Now before you think me a troll or "visual first dammit" ogre, I met her anyway, we did date, mixed results, but still, just as a woman can prefer a male whom has more than a monosylabic vocabulary and a job, the male can say he wants a woman whom looks like a woman rather than some fashion runway sylph. (no offense to sylphs) Especially since so many women complain that guys want the sylphs at the expense of curvier women anyway.
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