Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

time to move on


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> time to move on Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
time to move on - 10/6/2006 2:45:11 AM   
mons


Posts: 2400
Joined: 11/16/2005
Status: offline 		greetings to all
 
my writing has gotten better and i can now express myself more. i wrote a letter to bitatrouble i was stating someone one person had said i thought it was sick! now mind you i was speaking of this one person no one else in this forum i would not do this ibeen her somettime it would be rude to just called someone kink sick but i found this one sick to me
 
i have now be throw in a thread where now everyone under the sun is after me i foound this was done in a sleaky way no one ask if i would like to be in a thread i never meant to disrespect anyone here this is a mess. i seen many who have sided with me, it made bita very made and i understand we are not to mention names but she put mine our there so fast i come to log in to speak and i have letter from any people who i have had a wonderfuk  talk with so if it is wrong to mention someone name how does this person get to do this. i made it my point to say that who ever taught her this was sick. i know and well be a true dominant and say i should not have said this to bita but i do not want her to hatch an egg and sit on it forever to bring this back and forth to the forun
 
i have spoken before of my sense my 6th sense i do not know what is going on in bita like but i sense well something is not what i want to see , i say again i was not speaking to anyone of you here i have not reasons somehow this made her very angry and there is nothing one can do if someone is bend on being mad at me i wil just move on i hope she does too this is kid like i do not play games at all i come here to be with like minded folks who give a good conversation and so laugh i have enjoy it her i am not leaving bita
 
 
with respect to all others
mons
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: time to move on - 10/6/2006 5:22:15 AM   
bignipples2share


Posts: 611
Joined: 4/19/2004
Status: offline 		mons, you have misunderstood.
Bita did not move what you said to another thread. Somebody else did. It was not Bita.


(in reply to mons)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: time to move on - 10/6/2006 5:28:07 AM   
zebrastripes


Posts: 33
Joined: 10/3/2006
Status: offline 		mons,
 
I replied to that thread, but I did not reply in an angered tone to you, I do not even know you.  I responded to things feeling 'sick' to one being a 'kink' to another.  No harm done and please do not feel offended.  If I have somehow made you believe that I was out to get you for posting your thoughts, I am sorry.
 
zs
 

(in reply to mons)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: time to move on - 10/6/2006 5:33:20 AM   
reticence


Posts: 180
Joined: 2/28/2006
Status: offline 		mons

I thought bita was kind to you, very kind.  I think you are misundersanding something.  One must do what one must do, i wish you well,

(in reply to zebrastripes)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 12:41:44 AM   
diamonddreamlove


Posts: 770
Joined: 5/19/2006
Status: offline 		Missed this one and i think that is ok.  My kink is not necessarily anyone elses kink cept for my Dom that is.  In short live and let live.  Didn't real the thread, glad i didn't and could we all please get along.  Mons i have read many things you have written and have enjoyed them.  So move on and keep posting.  Take care!


_____________________________

"Many attempts to communicate are nullified by saying too much." Robert Greenleaf

(in reply to reticence)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 12:53:26 AM   
becca333


Posts: 1050
Joined: 4/11/2006
Status: offline 		Don't give up - you've got every right to be here, and to express your opinions.

(in reply to diamonddreamlove)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 1:02:33 AM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		Mons, I believe you have had some misunderstandings with others lately that could be cleared up. It would be a shame to see you move on from here over misunderstandings. Everyone here has had bad days on the forums. I hope you change your mind, but if not I I will wish you well.

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to mons)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 2:22:29 AM   
mons


Posts: 2400
Joined: 11/16/2005
Status: offline 		greetings to all
 
no i am not going anywhere at all hello zebra i would never say something wrong to someone who i never thought did anything to me zebra you ok with me.recicence now ok lets me just say no she was not nice to me and that is all julia i may write very bad but i have reading level of a gradstudent i never misunderstood anything maybe she did not send the thread.
 
now i have a time writing but my skill of reading are over the top i can not understand why it does not come to my hands lol but i do reread things and when i feel i am wwrong i have and willl say the right things to hwom ever i made that mistake too but thank you all for your very insightful input and i will  post still i love coming here it is great everyone has an open mind and so fun again thank you i will not mention it again but i will be back to answer those in need and remember i did not say this about everyone on the boards   





[link=http://smiley.smileycentral.com/download/index.jhtml?partner=ZSzeb097_ZNxmk502JMUS&utm_id=7925][/link]

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 2:55:20 AM   
susie


Posts: 1699
Joined: 11/21/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

greetings to all
 
my writing has gotten better and i can now express myself more. i wrote a letter to bitatrouble i was stating someone one person had said i thought it was sick! now mind you i was speaking of this one person no one else in this forum i would not do this ibeen her somettime it would be rude to just called someone kink sick but i found this one sick to me
 
i have now be throw in a thread where now everyone under the sun is after me i foound this was done in a sleaky way no one ask if i would like to be in a thread i never meant to disrespect anyone here this is a mess. i seen many who have sided with me, it made bita very made and i understand we are not to mention names but she put mine our there so fast i come to log in to speak and i have letter from any people who i have had a wonderfuk  talk with so if it is wrong to mention someone name how does this person get to do this. i made it my point to say that who ever taught her this was sick. i know and well be a true dominant and say i should not have said this to bita but i do not want her to hatch an egg and sit on it forever to bring this back and forth to the forun
 
i have spoken before of my sense my 6th sense i do not know what is going on in bita like but i sense well something is not what i want to see , i say again i was not speaking to anyone of you here i have not reasons somehow this made her very angry and there is nothing one can do if someone is bend on being mad at me i wil just move on i hope she does too this is kid like i do not play games at all i come here to be with like minded folks who give a good conversation and so laugh i have enjoy it her i am not leaving bita
 
 
with respect to all others
mons


mons

It was quite clear in my original thread that it was ME that started it and not Bita. It had nothing to do with bita at all. I replied to you on that thread to make it clear to you that bita had nothing to do with me starting the thread at all. I not bita took issue with the fact that instead of saying you thought something that was done was sick, you called a someone a sick sick person for doing it. There is a difference.

If you made bita mad by doing so that is up to you and her to sort out but she had nothing at all to do with the other thread that I started.

I hope now you will understand that.

(in reply to mons)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 5:14:56 AM   
pinkee


Posts: 487
Status: offline 		i admit to being confused about W/who posted the Op regarding mons, and when i realised my mistake, i apologised in a later post.  However, i stand by what i first said; i think it is undesirable to place a particular member -- or one of T/their posts -- on the hot seat.  Surely W/we can find more diplomatic ways to initiate dialogue.  i personally think mons has been done wrong.
 
pinkee

(in reply to susie)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 9:00:17 AM   
Arpig


Posts: 9930
Joined: 1/3/2006
From: Increasingly further from reality
Status: offline 		Wronged?...BAH!!!

One of her posts was quoted and commented on, where is the wrong in that?
If one isn't willing to take the heat when something one says is unpopular, then don't say the unpopular shit, stick to the PC-bland-sheep replies.

She said something that susie found objectionable, so susie started a thread to discuss that specific aspect of mons' post, and in doing so she quoted the entire original post (which prevents any contextual misunderstandings). What the fuck is wrong with that?

< Message edited by Arpig -- 10/7/2006 9:02:25 AM >

_____________________________

Big man! Pig Man!
Ha Ha...Charade you are!

Why do they leave out the letter b on "Garage Sale" signs?

CM's #1 All-Time Also-Ran


(in reply to pinkee)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 9:40:20 AM   
givemyall


Posts: 620
Joined: 12/3/2005
Status: offline 		Totally agree Arpig, everyone has a right to comment - it is a forum isn't it - it would be very boring if we all sat here nodding in agreement.

Problem as I see it, is that we should be able to comment without someone creating a whole new thread naming the person who's opinion they dont agree with.  Maybe if someone has a problem with another member, they should take it up on a more personal basis via email - not blast their name across the heading of a thread.

I think the 2 people who were initially involved in all this and had a difference of opinion have been wronged by this thread, I cant imagine its been a nice situation for either of them....i've always enjoyed reading their posts and I sincerely hope that this little scuffle, caused by someone that generally has f*ck all to say on the forums, wont stop them airing their opinions and giving their excellent advice.


(in reply to Arpig)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 4:33:15 PM   
BitaTruble


Posts: 9779
Joined: 1/12/2006
From: Texas
Status: offline
quote:


 i seen many who have sided with me, it made bita very made

 
You see mad when the truth is, I am sad.
 
quote:

and i understand we are not to mention names but she put mine our there so fast

 
No, I did not. 
 
quote:

 i should not have said this to bita but i do not want her to hatch an egg and sit on it forever to bring this back and forth to the forun
 
I did not do this thing, Mons. It breaks my heart that you take the words of someone else and say they are mine.
 
quote:

i have spoken before of my sense my 6th sense i do not know what is going on in bita like but i sense well something is not what i want to see ,
 
Your 6th sense has failed you and I am sad for you.
 
quote:

 i say again i was not speaking to anyone of you here i have not reasons somehow this made her very angry and there is nothing one can do if someone is bend on being mad at me

 
I am not angry. I was never angry.
 
quote:

i wil just move on i hope she does too this is kid like i do not play games at all i come here to be with like minded folks who give a good conversation and so laugh i have enjoy it her i am not leaving bita

 
I never wanted you to leave. In fact, I think this is a good place for you and I think you probably need it more than I do. My main goal here is education, to share what I know, to learn what others know, to help open minds and doors to new ideas and to have my own mind opened so I can see things in new ways and new perspectives, but I don't have to do that here, I can do that anywhere.


quote:

with respect to all others
mons


You have made your feelings about me very clear, Mons. As a teacher, I feel as if I have failed with a student but at the same time, I can only use the tools at my disposal to help me teach. Sometimes the student is not ready for the words of the teacher and sometimes the teacher fails to find the right words to use with the student. I believe that's what has happened here.
 
Perhaps, one day, you will be ready to hear my words and then you will realize that everything I have said comes from a place of education and not consternation or one day I might find the right words to use.  If and when that happens, maybe we can have a conversation, but until then, I shall leave you alone and simply say that I hope you find what you need to grow.
 
I truly wish you well, Mons.
 
Celeste
 



_____________________________

"Oh, so it's just like
Rock, paper, scissors."

He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."


(in reply to mons)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 4:53:04 PM   
Sab


Posts: 325
Joined: 5/2/2006
From: Canada
Status: offline 		Didn't read it so don't give a crap!

What I have always found with Celeste is that she is always very open and honest - if people don't see that then, again, who gives a crap!? Very few things we do can be considered sick, if any - and who are we as individuals to decide what is sick and what is not!!? Consensuality is a forgone conclusion in all that we do, if it isn't then there is something wrong.


_____________________________

God blessed it and it brought me to her.

(in reply to BitaTruble)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 7:01:40 PM   
Aine


Posts: 820
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: offline 		Ok...my issue with the whole thing is that we're not allowed to exactly quote and name the person whom we read something by in our emails.

Yet we are allowed to do that in the forums.

I'm a little confused on this.  Within a single thread, there IS the quote option when replying to someone.  It makes for a good reference point when you don't want to confuse people.

Where is the line?  I can understand to a point the reasoning behind these rules.  But I was always confused as to why a particular person's exactly quoted and named post was allowed to start a whole new thread.

I stayed out of the whole thing after my first post because I was becoming uncomfortable.  I understand challenging ideas.  That is what we're here to do.  But instead of opening up the issue/idea in a new thread, why did the OP have to specifically point out mons?  I've seen a TON of threads with absolutely wonderful re-openings on ideas without having to get so personal about it.

Maybe it's just my ideals and my personal stance on tact, but I thought that that particular "calling out" was a wee bit on the personal side when it didn't have to be.

Just my two cents.


_____________________________

Honey, you obviously missed the "want to be used as a toilet fetish" thread or "where do I get instructions on setting my sub on fire" thread. LOL

Thank you, DelRay for that one.

(in reply to Sab)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: time to move on - 10/7/2006 7:17:53 PM   
zebrastripes


Posts: 33
Joined: 10/3/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

greetings to all
 
no i am not going anywhere at all hello zebra i would never say something wrong to someone who i never thought did anything to me zebra you ok with me.recicence now ok lets me just say no she was not nice to me and that is all julia i may write very bad but i have reading level of a gradstudent i never misunderstood anything maybe she did not send the thread.
 
now i have a time writing but my skill of reading are over the top i can not understand why it does not come to my hands lol but i do reread things and when i feel i am wwrong i have and willl say the right things to hwom ever i made that mistake too but thank you all for your very insightful input and i will  post still i love coming here it is great everyone has an open mind and so fun again thank you i will not mention it again but i will be back to answer those in need and remember i did not say this about everyone on the boards   





[link=http://smiley.smileycentral.com/download/index.jhtml?partner=ZSzeb097_ZNxmk502JMUS&utm_id=7925][/link]


Hi mons and nice meeting you.

(in reply to mons)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: time to move on - 10/8/2006 12:45:29 AM   
Aine


Posts: 820
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: offline 		See, bring up an idea that is being discussed by a few people, fine.  That happens all the time.  And what happens on other sites isn't going to be the same everywhere.

Like I said, I was curious as to the line between two things.  And my own personal take on how it was -executed-.  I wasn't bashing anyone in particular.  I was questioning the action, in accordance to the rules that I have seen enforced around here on CM.


_____________________________

Honey, you obviously missed the "want to be used as a toilet fetish" thread or "where do I get instructions on setting my sub on fire" thread. LOL

Thank you, DelRay for that one.

(in reply to angelina1)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: time to move on - 10/8/2006 1:00:22 AM   
mons


Posts: 2400
Joined: 11/16/2005
Status: offline 		bita
 
i see i was wrong on one thing i thougth you wrote the thread you can stil speak to me always i have nothing agaisnt you. i am a kind person i wish to speak to you if you wish no problem it is ok i am open and i do mean i am sorry i was wrong ok now we have talk before let no one take your name and use it the person who finally strated the problem ihas spoken i will deal with her later.
 
bita take care take this hand i have given and we will be ok
 
mons

(in reply to Aine)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: time to move on - 10/8/2006 1:05:03 AM   
BitaTruble


Posts: 9779
Joined: 1/12/2006
From: Texas
Status: offline 		It's all good, Mons.  I am more than happy to speak with you at any time and I'm so glad this has been cleared up.



Celeste

_____________________________

"Oh, so it's just like
Rock, paper, scissors."

He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."


(in reply to mons)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: time to move on - 10/8/2006 1:16:58 AM   
mons


Posts: 2400
Joined: 11/16/2005
Status: offline 		susie
 
my word your the person who took offence to what i said. i will not repeat what i said to you i sure you can find it now why did you turn it inot a thread when i was only speakinfg of one person who said they would do this so a woman? you should had been woman enough to write me and ask me what did i mean but no you took it further up to make it appear i said all of tthe people here were sick! i never said that susie and you know this why cause major problems for me i will not leave her i see you wish this. you now come out anf say after i had said mean things to bita you come now after all of the problems are here. why did you not come before this why you a chicken to make that poor woman feel like crap becase if you is wrong and so dumb stand up and say what you did why leave her and many people thinking she did this you are not very high on the human poll you should had made it clear you said this and wrote it. i feel terrible to think i made her feel bad but you have a back bone of jelly to put this on her and when all of this time to tell the truth.. I am proud to say i do not lie i was taught this from a young age no one can trust a liar i do not trust you this would had been over and done with days ago. explain why you let her take the fault and why you laid back and had so much fun this is wrong and a liar is sick now on one here is a liar but you i will make that clear from the first start so susie dear will not thread this i am only speaking of you, you no one else.
 
now to all others i was not speaking to anyone man or womean it was a statement that was written in a reply, i am a dominant done things and will do them again but i find i have friend here i do not and never did think anyone of you is sick if is did i would not come here but then again we all have free speech and i have an opinion i would not  attack anyone here for that reason but something are  scray so with that i say let the games and fun began
 
mons   





[link=http://smiley.smileycentral.com/download/index.jhtml?partner=ZSzeb112_ZNxmk502JMUS&utm_id=7920][/link]

(in reply to mons)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> time to move on Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109