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Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you love? - 10/8/2006 12:50:42 PM

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Male submissives what is it about the dominant woman that you love?

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 1:56:47 PM

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Oh wait i already posted in the wrong section, lol

i love the fact that Dominant Women know what they want, how they want it and when they want it. There are no mind games (unless it's for play), and no drama. Makes life so much simpler, and makes Women look so much more confident and hotter!

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:02:13 PM

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If there was one piece of advice you would give to a woman wanting to be the dominant in a relationship with a red blooded male, what would it be?

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:07:45 PM

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I love women.

What is special about dominant women is that we share compatible sexual and romantic expressions, and I am delighted to meet one for relationship (play or more) prospects.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:11:21 PM

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If there was one piece of advice you would give to a woman wanting to be the dominant in a relationship with a red blooded male, what would it be?

Understand him (BDSM and more), for understanding each other will help the relationship work best.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:16:00 PM

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Hmm...i am not sure what You mean by 'red blooded', if You meant hot blooded (bad temper) here is one advice:
once this Mexican told me "Never fight a stubborn bull", meaning if someone is stubborn enough to not let You ride them in the first place, it's better not to keep trying. So if a Woman wants to Dominate, She can start slowly and increase the intensity. If he constantly fights it..... well maybe it's the wrong bull.
Does that answer Your quesiton?

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:20:52 PM

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nice answer ... and it's true ..the opposite of dominance is indecision and the opposite of submission is stubborness...

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:25:45 PM

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For my response, I took red blooded to invoke feelings of humanity.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:35:00 PM

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Could be the Kiwi in me lol ... but hmm ... 'red blooded' .. appreciates the womanly form ;)

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:43:21 PM

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Haven't experienced it enough to make a fair assesment.

With my meager experience...I would say I like the true nature of the one-on-one aspect of it.

The total concentration of both of us on each others role/preference...sort of like yin/yang. The polarities.

The stronger feminine aspects of the universe are experienced and enjoyed.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:50:27 PM

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Male submissives what is it about the dominant woman that you love?

I would have to say that I love the sense of control, of confidence they have in their life and the ability to reach inside my mind and make my prideful nature dormant. Hmm, I love their sense of self-respect and self-esteem, the way they make the decisions that I dont have to and the relief I get at knowing that I am making someone special happy. :)

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 2:57:20 PM

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i love her sence of control, the freedom she gives me with her dominance

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 3:38:55 PM

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Male submissives what is it about the dominant woman that you love?

Assuming you are referring to a lifestyle dominant woman that I could love:

I love that she has figured out how to achieve the balance of deriving maximum pleasure and benefit from her relationship with a man willing to submit to her, while still being able to love and respect him.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 3:59:44 PM

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nice answer ... and it's true ..the opposite of dominance is indecision and the opposite of submission is stubborness...

Wow..... I have little experience but your words above kinda pegged me.... Think I may lean towards switch because I'm a stubborn sob and very controlling in all aspects of my normal life but also have a somewhat soft side and a few sub/fantasies in the bedroom once in awhile. One of the things that's been a problem for me over the years has been fear of rejection.... soooooo the idea of a woman taking whatever she wants..whenever she wants is real exciting for me? Also wipes out the rejection thing....takes the load of my shoulders? Think that would be the main attraction for myself.......

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 4:16:35 PM

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If there was one piece of advice you would give to a woman wanting to be the dominant in a relationship with a red blooded male, what would it be?

Encourage ongoing communication and confessions from your malesub. This will enhance your dominance over him, place you in a position to gradually expand his parameters, and prevent your shared lifestyle from growing stale.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 6:34:54 PM

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If there was one piece of advice you would give to a woman wanting to be the dominant in a relationship with a red blooded male, what would it be?

Win my trust, then lead me step by step in the direction you want to take me.......I'll do everything I can to please you.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 6:54:33 PM

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For me, i like the confidence that a Dominant woman has in what she is doing as well as the fact that Dominant women know what they want and are not afraid to ask for it.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/8/2006 11:49:51 PM

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In my case, I think it has something to do with mothering instincts. The Domme is like a mother, and the sub is like a child. The child needs love, nuturing, and discipline. And the child grows from all of this. This is my ideal Domme. But having read a number of different Domme profiles and different Domme responses here on Collarchat, I'm well aware that Dommes are like prescription medicine, they come in all different shapes, sizes, and intents. You as the sub just need to look for the Domme that suits your needs. And yes, your needs as a sub DO COUNT, despite what some Dommes may preach.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/9/2006 8:13:34 AM

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Assuming a solid vanilla foundation in the relationship, I appreciate a dominant Woman because:

1. I can express my 'style' of love and affection which involves service.

2. I get to pamper her

3. A Femdom LTR/marriage appear to elicit a deeper level of devotion from me.

4. I know exactly how to please Her because She'll let me know.

5. While not a masochist, the techniques She would most likely employ would keep me focused on the important things in life, one of which is Her.

6. I want a deep, intense LTR or marriage and this would be effective with me.

7. I can in a very tiny way redress some of the historical wrongs visited upon Women by men.

8. Maybe I can perhaps to heal old wounds. For instance, I have morals so if She had experienced infidelity in a previous relationship, my faithfulness coupled perhaps with a chastity device would help heal a hurt.

9. I'm masculine, so appropriate behavior in public might inspire (or shame) other men into treating their Wives/Girlfriends better. Women would notice our relationship and would want that for themselves.

There are other reasons, but these come quickly to mind.

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RE: Men: what is it about the dominant woman that you l... - 10/9/2006 8:18:54 AM

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I like intelligence, self-confidence, and personality.

I've dated too many women that catered to me because that's what they thought they had to do based on other relationships.

I can hire a maid, I can buy sex (I don't of course), I can get a cook - what I really love is someone that can stimulate me mentally. (If she loves to have sex too, that's even better - but that's the red-blooded male part of me ;-D)

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