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RE: Advice from Masters Please - 10/13/2006 8:20:14 AM

LokisBrat

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As with most scenarios, each household situation is different and requires checks and balances tailored for that home. The growth of a power exchange relationship coming from a vanilla marriage like mine has, will depend on the communication, willingness, and creativity of the relationship. Each and every step should be taken with complete understanding of the direction, so as to not stray from the desired path. Having unmentionables with a pre-installed radar can make things a bit challenging, but can be achieved if proper planning and preparation is made for the sacred time alone.
In my household, I know for example, even if the unmentionables are asleep. it still does not ensure total privacy. (*NOTE TO SELF: get a sitter next time full bondage is on play menu.)

To ask advice and techniques from others is great, but should not be taken literally, but with the understanding that it is unique to that relationship.

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RE: Advice from Masters Please - 10/13/2006 7:29:17 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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To the OP ..You have gotten some very good advice so I will not expand upon them, the only thing that struck me that had not been addressed was that you asked that she journal her thoughts etc..did you stop to think that with the running of home and kids and maybe even a job and your bedroom time, that with all these responsibilities she is simply to overwhelmed to journal, has not the desire to journal? is too tired to journal?..or just maybe is not good in the written form and has no idea how to place it in writing?...Personally though journaling does have its place and time for some people and issues..The face to face looking into each others eyes and verbally communicating is always the best way to go about it....IMO....best of luck..Tempting

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RE: Advice from Masters Please - 10/14/2006 1:05:27 AM

ChaOz

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Yeah face to face could work, she could talk about herself in the 3rd person, 'your fuckmeat.." etc. Though discuss the boundries she wants first, I think its a good idea to have a slave in 24/7 set the rules and limits.. then you get creative within them.

Obviously you have the final say but you need to talk more, especially as your raising kids. Oh, and I wouldnt play near the kids. They see/hear everything and even body language would be picked up. You are their sole example of how a relationship should be and will have an effect on who they become.

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RE: Advice from Masters Please - 10/14/2006 6:10:35 AM

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For some people, journals are not the be all end all of the communication process, and instead are more of a hinderance to communication than a help.

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RE: Advice from Masters Please - 10/15/2006 6:04:34 AM

shadevarr

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If she is interested in the lifestyle as you say, you can also try taking her out to a munch and let her know that she is encouraged to talk to other subs.

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