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sugarcoatedscamp -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/11/2006 10:56:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: paCDponygirl
Certainly in the past I have made mistakes in letters I have written in content, spelling, punctuation and or grammar. Since the response rate from Dommes is less than 5% in my experience, it has been hard to figure out what it was that put them off. At one point I even wrote to many asking them for advice about why they did not take the time to reply one way or another. Was I disrespectful? Was it not written well? Did I not go into your needs enough? Were you just not interested in what I was interested in?
The letters have ranged from as little as one paragraph to as many as twenty. The shorter ones were usually to Dommes who listed their location as, Pennsylvania (which is a big state) or The East Coast. There would be a short introduction and an inquiry as to whether or not they were near Philadelphia as location is an issue for me. As time went by I realized that crossdressers are not much liked (see thread 'why don't Mistresses like cds?) and I would inquire about that as well if I could not get any indication from reading their profile. These are two deal breaking issues to me and if one or the other is out, then there is no point in spending alot of time writing a long detailed letter. For those about to jump on the "just another lazy slave who doesn't get it" band wagon, I simply say: PLEASE, don't even go there. Any sub out there will tell you that when it comes to Domme/Mistress response rates, they are very, very, very low. Maybe this is part of the problem. I realize that Dommes get inundated with emails and many of them are one liners, but how many hours can you spend writing long, detailed letters to mistresses and getting no repsonse? Not a negative response, NO repsonse, before you stop putting as much effort into your emails? As subs we need to take our fair share of the blame. Lord knows there are many, many A-hole guys out there. I understand that, but I think that as Dommes, you need to start taking some responsibility for the poor quality of emails you receive too. How many e-mails do you not respond to?
I can relate to your response rate issue, but from the dominant perspective. I can't tell you how many interested emails I've sent out to submissive women, with no response. I can see when they read them, but there's no indication of their interest (or, more likely, their lack thereof) if all they do is read and delete. Personally, I wouldn't even mind a quickie I'm-not-interested-in-you-but-I-appreciate-your-interest-in-me note. I try very hard to say something in response to every email I receive, even if it's just pointing out that the writer is a jackass. *wink* Sure, it's not the most pleasant email they might receive from me, but at least they know I'm not interested.
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