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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/9/2006 6:12:16 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Fascinating..............It is well worth it to learn more than your part, I think.

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/9/2006 6:12:16 PM   
Voltare


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Status: offline 		[n]Well, I won't argue that some dominant women are very attractive.  At the same time, I've known lots of women who were attractive - dom, sub, switch, and everything in between.  I think goth women can be drop dead gorgeous, in fact.  It doesn't mean I would want to date one, though.

Sometimes it's good to acknowledge that what I like, and what is good for me, aren't always the same thing.  And, considering I'm more than happy in my relationship with my slave, I simply don't have any interest in pursuing a relationship with any other women (nevermind types of women.)

On the other hand, I've known more than a few dominant women who prefer dominant men for relationships.  They express their dominant nature on submissive men, in non-sexual and non-romantic outlets, usually with their partners full consent and approval.  No question it can work, especially if the expectations are clear from the beginning, and there's no effort to wage a power struggle on both sides.  Jealousy can also tear such a relationship apart - but that's true with all relationship, no?


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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/9/2006 6:34:19 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		I think I'm sold on a good submissive-type male :)

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/9/2006 6:45:38 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I've had a few enjoyable experiences but they've never lasted.  There are quite a few dommes who like to be flipped now and then, but being flipped now and then isn't the same thing as being submissive, and that's exactly where those experiences have broken down.

I don't think a relationship with a dominant woman would be totally out of the question for me, but it couldn't work unless it was part of a poly arrangement with more than one slave.

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

So, how have others dealt with this?  The reasons it could go wrong are many and probably boring so if possible, lets stick to what went right?

I look forward to hearing about the experiences of others.

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/10/2006 5:09:36 AM   
SirLordTrainer


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

The emails were sincere :)  You just sort of stood out among the others and I believe in acknowledging where acknowledgment is deserved.


And I do indeed appreciate that....

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/10/2006 3:20:02 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

It usually ends up with the Dom saying "I'd like to explore my submissive side with you sometime"...


**laffs*  That is exactly how it ends up!  I've never had an interacton with a Male Dominant yet that didn't end with this phrase!

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/10/2006 3:26:08 PM   
LotusSong


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

It usually ends up with the Dom saying "I'd like to explore my submissive side with you sometime"...


**laffs*  That is exactly how it ends up!  I've never had an interacton with a Male Dominant yet that didn't end with this phrase!


Especially when one is as sweet and non-threatening as we are :)

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/10/2006 3:32:00 PM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I have a weakness for strong women and I often find myself attracted to dominant women.  I also strongly believe in respect and do NOT engage in that crap about all women are submissive/unequal or any other BS.  However, the challenge of taming one is pretty hot and I have found they do make good lovers.

So, how have others dealt with this?  The reasons it could go wrong are many and probably boring so if possible, lets stick to what went right?

I look forward to hearing about the experiences of others.

Your post would have been palatable to me if you'd not said that your aim is to TAME the woman.  Is her dominance that threatening to you that you feel you need to undo what she's worked so hard to do?  Why can't you simply enjoy her strength and passion and be a partner, you having slaves, her having slaves, and your being a partnership together? 

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/10/2006 9:32:31 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		I didn't write the post for you to find it palateable, I wrote it from the heart.  As for threatening, why don't you submit to me?  Or do you find that too threatening? 

I am kidding but at the same time trying to make a point.   In my case I am pretty much a one woman man and so poly doesn't work well for me.

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/10/2006 11:24:19 PM   
mam


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Status: offline 		What do you have to offer her? Or she you?
I wonder what any dom male can give me that I can't get from a submissive male.
:) and submissive males come with pretty bows and ribbons!
lmao

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/11/2006 5:31:56 AM   
Dollbecky


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Status: offline 		Once a upon a time my Beloved wanted to have a 24/7 slave girl; not a switch not sub but slave ... dutiful, obediant, virginal,  a "natural" slave and a whole load of other things to boot (John Norman inspired Im sure) then he meet me.
And I really am the worlds most sucky sub  (I am a switch just not a good one) and yet he forgives me every single time.
But he still after all these years he raves about my strength, my willpower, my evil wit  ..he tells people its like being on the right side of a pistol or riding a tiger, he wears a "My girlfriend can beat up you up" badge for  heaven sake (hes a silly at times)... I know he's proud of my dominant some what forceful  personality and he complains about  other women not being  like that; he admits he would not be happy with a long term monogamous relationship with a less strident partner.
Does he ever sexually submit ? never, ever....its just not his thing.
We are a blissfully happy as equals (one of whom can bottom or play sub.
Does he think he's tamed me ? I am sure he enjoys that thought greatly :)
no one tell him any differant! Ok?   :P

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/11/2006 5:49:45 AM   
demistress


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

If I date a dominant man, I was it to be a relationship of equals. I don't like drama...or power struggles. It's not a game I enjoy and it just ends up pissing me off.

Master Fire



As usual MFM has already said it.....

But I do enjoy dominant men bottoming to me, and IF (which I've discovered a grand total of ONCE) they can keep their dom-sh*t in check, I can bottom to a really strong (mentally and spiritually as well as physically) man.

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/11/2006 7:16:21 AM   
gypsylee


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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/11/2006 7:42:57 AM   
MzTlaz


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Status: offline 		Well...I have it on my profile so I'm certainly not saying anything new...I date Doms....I love the Dom/Domme interaction so long as they aren't trying to TAME me!  And that usually ends with them getting flipped or I just totally lose interest.  I love a Dominant man who is confident enough in his Dominance to explore his submissive side...and yeah, I get that line too! Typically when I top a Dom it tends to be lots of sensory play with a little pain thrown in (in my experience they tend to have low thresholds for pain...lol) and they always seem to adore the play.   I certainly return the favor too, I will bottom for someone I have chemistry with and I can take a lot of the pain they like to dish out. 

In the long run though I think a relationship between two Dominants needs for them both to be poly-playful to get their individual sadistic needs met.

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RE: Seducing Dommes - 10/11/2006 8:06:37 AM   
gypsylee


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Status: offline 		i'm confused. if a Dom/me is able to submit doesn't that make him or her a switch?

 

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