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Steelriven -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 3:05:51 AM)

I tend to agree with everyone here. So what if you aren't looking for the "one," some people like play partners, and some like fuck buddies, and some would rather enjoy "playing," with some one they love, or could fall in love with.

But the one just isn't going to jump out at yeah. It takes time, so who knows you just might have the one right in front of you, and not know it. Just because you're not looking, doesn't mean your head, and heart won't fall.

You're real, and honesty is good in my book. Even if the truth hurts sometimes.



darkinshadows -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 3:54:56 AM)

Your just being honest IMO - but are you a fake? - yup - to someone you would be.
But then they wouldn't be worth your time.
 
 
Peace and Rapture



MasterC46910 -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 4:09:07 AM)

At certain times in our life we are not ready to settle down with anyone, much less the "One".  We don't want a "One", we are not searching a "One".  But that does not mean we have to put our sexual or social life on hold or in limbo.  During these times the "One" could show up and we may just pass them by.  Let them drift off to find another.  There will always be another "One" show up when we are ready to change the circumstances of our lives.  It is a individual decision that is determined by where we are at that point in our life.  Sometimes we find we may have passed up the best thing that has, thus far, come into our life.  Other times we will find we made the right decision.  But it will be our decision and we need to be comfortable with it and learn to live with it. 



amlonging -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 8:37:29 AM)

I think your honesty makes you more real than the miriads of players that say they are looking for the "One" and never follow through on anything.  I would give an hour of play time with you then the endless hours I have spent weeding through the "non-commitals but really looking because I really want it so trust me even though I will never get back to you and keep you dangling because I really don't mean what I say" crowd.

RSC you are SO right on.  Follow through is cheap *sigh !!
But someone willing to admit they are looking to bottom and explore is so underrated.  Yet men (Tops aka Doms) do it all the time under a disguise of "consideration."
 
The following forum was started cause of Aileen's honesty.
I did post a reply there.
http://www.collarchat.com/m_628874/tm.htm

Another comment here...
Looking for safe and sane tops or bottoms is difficult.  I went though several years of exploring and experimenting before I decided on what I give and who I am in this big world of WIITWD, what I desired in a D/s relationship and all the rest of it.
I wasnt ready for a D/s relationship.  Period. 
Why CM folk throw around the words fake, wannabe, real, true..yada yada is so distracting.....  I believe RSC hits the clear note on the head. 
 
Rock on Aileen !!



LordODiscipline -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 9:07:19 AM)

Hey!
 
Look for the fifty, sixty, or the 'none' -
 
Anyone calling you a "fake" has an issue with reality and their expectations of other people...
 
Besides - I have always disliked the terms "The One" and "Soul Mate" and "haberdashery" - they are all rather misleading and completely idiotic in terms of origination of meaning and how they have been evolved into something etheral and [allegedly] poignant....
 
It is as though the people declaring they are looking for the "one" will look throughout the entire population of hte earth for a single being...
 
Romantic notions without real reference except through unrequited expectations and the ability to state when things go south: "Well - I wanted the "one" - just not THAT one...
 
Of course - if you want a hat.... well - you had better find 'the one' who has stocked it   ;)
 
~J



becca333 -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 9:16:31 AM)

Sometimes you don't want Mr Right, you just want Mr Right Now.



Bearlee -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 9:24:18 AM)

 


ROFLMAO...   Haberdashery?



mnottertail -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 9:25:16 AM)

You know--- President Truman.

Ron



becca333 -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 9:26:54 AM)

If we're going to start Haberdashery talk, this thread should carry a special warning.  There's such a thing as standards, you know.



michaelGA2 -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 10:00:36 AM)

and i thought this was "Reality TV"

LOL



GirlyDevil -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 10:16:38 AM)

Not your not fake. I'm only looking for one right to play casually not long term anytime soon. Even though my profile says that I'm looking for a L/T. I'm not looking right now.



Mercnbeth -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 10:34:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68
...What if you aren't looking for the One?...


this slave wasn't looking for the "One" either (and also wasn't looking to be referred to as slave), just continuing on the path of her life, resolved to walk it alone if need be...but staying open to the divinely inspired experiences--becuase they do happen.[:)]
 
what this slave actively searched for after being made aware of this "lifestyle" was companionship and information, if even at a friendship type level, with someone who had been enjoying it for a while longer than this slave and continued to do so as well.  play was definitely an interest and considered, but was not the immediate priority.
 
this slave's attitude was "hmmm having the natural inclination, coupled with being trained to serve in all sorts of ways since this slave can remember, this is a no-brainer to hang out with like minded folk if even for the fun and the experiences" (and if something fabulous came of it, then so mote it be!)
 
this slave has had no previous formally pre-determined Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationships, only vanilla ones that resembled them very strongly and the other participants were always labelled "controlling", "demanding", "strict", "militaristic", "spoiled" or "abusive" by certain family, friends, professional and laypersons as well.
 
1 month into this pragmatic, thought-out, meditated and prayed over search, she met Master...almost 4 years ago. at present, He is most definitely, without a doubt in her mind, heart,body or soul the person she looked for, for guidance, companionship, knowledge, fun and experiences in a safe, secure environment.  Him being the "One", on top of all of that, is divine gravy!!!



Marc2b -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 1:02:54 PM)

Okay, I’ve had a good night’s sleep and am wide awake now and not in such a weird mood. No, you are not fake. If there is one thing I despise it is ideologies (whether in the vanilla world or in the BDSM world), that is, the notion that "I am in possession of the one and only truth." It really irks me when someone says "you’re not for real," because someone doesn’t engage in the lifestyle in the same way they do. This is twenty-first century America and you don’t have to explain, justify, or defend yourself to anyone. Enjoy the lifestyle the way you want to enjoy it. If others look down upon you and denigrate you for it tell them to bugger off (to borrow an English phrase).

By the way, I see we don’t have any B5 fans around here.


Edited for some dim-bulb spelling mistakes



michaelGA2 -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 1:05:15 PM)

i'm not the one...never was the one...probably will never be the one

now, i could be number 101

[sm=biggrin.gif]



gooddogbenji -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 1:12:16 PM)

Fake or not, I want to fuck that girl!

But seriously, I'm not looking for the one either, mostly because that makes around the worlds all that much tougher.....

Yours,


benji



Aileen68 -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 1:23:13 PM)

You boys need to be neutered.



LaTigresse -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 1:30:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

You boys need to be neutered.


From the threads regarding CBT I bet we have a few specialists in this field that could take care of it.



Aileen68 -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 1:37:08 PM)

Who was it that wanted to nail em to the wall?



LaTigresse -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 1:52:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Who was it that wanted to nail em to the wall?


I am not sure, those threads just make me cross my legs and say "OUCH!" even though I am female. I do remember MissTress's scrotum board nailing. ouchouchouchouch



mnottertail -> RE: You're not the One (10/11/2006 1:56:04 PM)

Hey Girls!!!!!!

Since I ain't the one, could I snag a quick air-start before I head for the house, and you all can carry on?


Curiously,
Ron



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