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When another calls Him/Her... - 10/10/2006 11:23:22 PM   
MasterNdorei


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Status: offline 		Recently i attended a submissive's meeting where the topics were about how we would handle given scenerios. This one got quite a variation of answers up for discussion....
How would you handle it if you are at a party/dungeon where another slave/sub/bottom starts hanging around you and your partner, and before long is referring to Him/Her by the same title with which you use to address Him/Her.
Has this happened to anyone in real time?
If it did, how would you react?

Master's dorei

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/10/2006 11:35:24 PM   
MissBabydoll


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Status: offline 		When a submissive-acting person at a party comes up to Me, whether I am with one of My pets or not, and calls Me "Mistress," I always say the same thing" "Thank you, but that title is reserved for those who wear My collar. You may address Me as 'Miss.'" If I'm with a pet, at that point I will lay a hand on him to indicate possession. I think it's a nasty emotional betrayal to allow a sub to get away with that.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/10/2006 11:40:49 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		It would be up to Himself to handle it. My reaction would probably be one of amusement. ::chuckles::

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 12:02:54 AM   
Angelicanimal


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Status: offline 		I have never found it amusing  when other submissives have approached my Dominant, but He turned out to be such a cad that i cannot blame them FULLY.
However, I am always careful not to tread too closely on another subs "turf"....and would always appreciate the same courtesy.  Now how about this.....I would think it a terrible insult to my Dominant were I to go "play" without His knowledge or permission.   I find that He is making plans to play behind my back.....what am I to think of this?  In fact, it sickens me and I would like to pack His shit up and never speak to Him again.  But I will wait to see if He goes........any insights on this.  He acts more at times like a wayward sub than a Master.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 3:53:38 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Hmmmm some amusement, lots of discussion with my partner afterwards to make sure they weren't clueless and get their thoughts and let them handle it.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 4:13:30 AM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		*chucklez*  Ohhh, this is familiar.  I could be standing.......hell, kneeling right next to Thorns and He has women surrounding Him, most of them flirting and trying to get His attention.  Now, i am secure in my relationship with Him to just shake my head and laugh, get up and let the lil' girlies have fun.
The one thing that gets corrected by Him is:  The term "Master".   I am the only one allowed to call Him that.  There have been a few that have needed to be corrected.  As to how i handle it?   I smile alot.

Happy Wednesday!
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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 4:46:55 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		It did happen to me once and my Mistress at the time politely told this person she was not their mistress and referring to her as maam or miss would be much appreciated.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 5:22:16 AM   
Littlepita


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

It would be up to Himself to handle it. My reaction would probably be one of amusement. ::chuckles::

Celeste


I vote for this one. However I KNOW I wouldn't like it if some subbie started calling him Daddy. But, I would let him handle it, which I know he would.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 5:26:15 AM   
Tikkiee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterNdorei

Recently i attended a submissive's meeting where the topics were about how we would handle given scenerios. This one got quite a variation of answers up for discussion....
How would you handle it if you are at a party/dungeon where another slave/sub/bottom starts hanging around you and your partner, and before long is referring to Him/Her by the same title with which you use to address Him/Her.
Has this happened to anyone in real time?
If it did, how would you react?

Master's dorei



I would not react at all. It would not be my place to correct the other person.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 6:58:32 AM   
Wolfspet


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Status: offline 		With complete and utter hilarity.  IF some unsuspecting submissive came up to Wolf and called him  M'Lord, I would probably literally piss myself.

Its short for Lord High Fuzzy Butt, it is a old joke from our first forays into the internet, where we learned how badly we were doing the M/s "lifestyle" for all these years.


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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 8:30:34 AM   
gypsylee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterNdorei

How would you handle it if you are at a party/dungeon where another slave/sub/bottom starts hanging around you and your partner, and before long is referring to Him/Her by the same title with which you use to address Him/Her...



if female ~ claw her eyes out. if male ~ watch with amusement.

though, i dunno how other subs would feel referring to Iskander as "Narky Muthafukkah".



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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 8:36:17 AM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		like others have answered, it wouldn't be up to me to react at all. tho i might have a hard time concealing a raised eyebrow and smile of amusement here and there. this sort of scenario has actually happened to us a few times, tho never in a gather of other M/s lifestylers, but more in "mixed" functions where it's bedroom bdsm kinksters, swingers, curious vanillas, etc...many times those folks will assume that my Master and i are engaged in some sort of elaborate roleplay (as who actually lives this way in real life right?lol), and they want to "join in", so females have thrown themselves at my Master and started calling Him Daddy, playing what they believe is submissive. He either ignores them outright, gently shoving them away, or if they are really persistent, has a few harsh words with them.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 8:38:54 AM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		'A rose by any other name would still smell as sweet'.
Others may address my Sir as they wish but it changes nothing that He is still my Sir.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 8:50:22 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		It would annoy me to no end but i know my Master would correct them.  it has happened before and he corrected him so i know if it happened again the same thing would happen. i am secure in our relationship.

Matt's littleone

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 9:07:44 AM   
Steelriven


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Status: offline 		Hmm, if he was called Sir by others I might just smile, because they would probably be saying it out of respect. If some one called him master, I might laugh, and arch my eyebrows. Specially if it was a male. If some one wanted to scene with him right then and there we'd have to have a long discusion about it. And if anyone else called him Daddy, I'd correct them myself. Even if it wasn't for me to correct, because I'd probably just blurt something out.

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 9:14:19 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I would not react the way I would want to react... weg. he handles that, and I know he would. He would not allow that and he would tell the submissive in question to call him by his name. He does not like to be called even "sir". Daddy is a highly intimate term, and it would upset me if some strange submissive (in real life) called him that.

I would think that it could easily happen  with a newbie sub that does not understand the way things work and that not all dominants want all submissives to apply a title to them. For this reason I would not react unless it was to gently inform her what his name was, and that he preferred his name used. I would only do this if he was not able to do it himself (such as across the room or something).

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 9:18:33 AM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		I would hope my submissive would do nothing.  I have no problem with anyone calling me or anyone else for that matter Sir or Ma'am.  I do it.  My submissives do it.  It's a matter of courtesy for adults regardless of dom or sub.  If someone were to call me Mistress I would politely request they call me Kat or Ma'am if they prefer.  The two titles I can't stand are Goddess and Miss and would request a change also.  If I am interested in playing with someone, I will do so.  My submissive will either make himself useful or assist me or get played with the other.  If the other person is becoming a bother, I will tell him to go do something useful or "please excuse us". 

But my submissive's reaction should be one of courtesy and deferring to my judgment on the matter.  No room for jealousy or rude behavior even if the other one is doing so...but then I am not monogamous either. 

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 3:23:29 PM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		I think how you react is up to your dominant.  My Lord has a very specific form of address that he instructs his slaves to use.  He does not care for anyone else to use it and would ask them not to if they did.  If they used it in my company and not around him then I can politely ask them to address him another way.  However, we can't control other people; we can make our preferences known and hope that they respect our boundaries.

Knight's kyra


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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 3:44:34 PM   
makwa


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Status: offline 		you know to be honest i think he wouldn't allow anyone to call him Master other than me.  and he perferrs i call him Daddy since i am his babydoll. 

*but lets say someone did come up to him and tried either (Master or Daddy) i believe he would stop it at that moment. 

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RE: When another calls Him/Her... - 10/11/2006 9:56:14 PM   
bmercurt


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Status: offline 		Respect for my girl is number one. Firm and direct always works best. The strength she has giving herself to me will always be rewarded by what others will never mistake in my behavior. Full devotion in ownership. no exception.

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