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LadyEllen -> RE: What am I really (10/13/2006 5:10:33 AM)
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ORIGINAL: sublace
Thank you Ladies for your help and thoughts! I really do love women, I've even thought that maybe I should have been a woman. I sometimes feel like a woman trapped in a guy's body.
My thoughts on this as a TS woman; I dont know you, but in my experience, people who use the phrase "feel like a woman trapped in a guy's body" are usually crossdressers who are fantasising about the whole transgender thing. The use of such a cliche in my experience indicates that it aint so. I stress - this is my experience and opinion. Its just that true transsexuals can usually express their situation in their own words, rather than using that particular phrase. If this is something truly worrying you, then Google "COGIATI" and take the test there - answering truthfully. Its not a proper diagnostic tool, but it might indicate whether you have issues or not, that require professional assistance. You can buy hormone treatment and surgery without such assistance, but that is also a surefire way to end up regretting it all, if its not something you need.
Changing gender is not something you want to do - it has to be something you need to do. Its one of the most difficult, painful, expensive things anyone could ever do. Again, my impression is (and purely from experience, I'm not qualified), that if you find that dressing in female attire is a turn on for you, or a release from inhibitions that allows you to be with a man, you are most likely not transsexual. Can you truly, and I mean truly, countenance going into a surgery for castration? How would you feel about taking pills that would give you breasts, and take away the ability to have an erection? Not for a while, but forever?
Of course, there are plenty of TS women who are with women, even after surgery. Of course, its possible not to have the surgery and to live 24/7 as a female. Think that through - could you honestly live 24/7 as a female? Its not just about changed appearance - its about a whole different set of rules for the way others see you and treat you. Not just the "good" stuff, like doors being opened and stuff carried for you, but also the less good stuff, like being regarded as less important etc, in work and business.
My only real desire for men is for them to use me for their sexual pleasure. I love being with women, loving them, caring for them and making them happy, I've always been like that. I'm just so confused over why I also love to be filled by a penis. I'm sorry, but somedays it just drives me nuts thinking about it. I guess being with couples would be ideal as long as I didn't have to kiss the male part of the couple. Maybe I'm just having a bad day, I don't know.
Well, maybe you're a bisexual crossdresser. Is this such a bad thing? Worse than what, for example? Please dont be under any misapprehension that being a crossdresser is somehow lesser than being transsexual OK? That in order to justify who and how you are, you need to change your body or your entire life, just to feel comfortable with your sexuality. Just enjoy that you have what you have, and if you do truly feel like a change is something you need, stress need, then investigate it, but dont rush headlong into anything that might take away the enjoyment you have from what youre doing, just because it makes it more comfortable to you to think of yourself as something else.
sublace
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