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punishment - 10/12/2006 12:37:52 PM   
Sub03


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Status: offline 		I think I am in serious trouble with my Master and need to talk to someone. I haven't been in trouble in awhile and today I was totally stupid and disobeyed Him. I know He is dissapointed in me but I dont know if he's going to punish me or not. He just left for a meeting and im going nuts not knowing.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:42:21 PM   
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I think I am in serious trouble with my Master and need to talk to someone. I haven't been in trouble in awhile and today I was totally stupid and disobeyed Him. I know He is dissapointed in me but I dont know if he's going to punish me or not. He just left for a meeting and im going nuts not knowing.

Sometimes the mental anguish is worse than the physical pain.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:43:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, all I can say if you disobeyed him then just brace yourself for whatever discipline may come. You disobey you have to pay.  Maybe you should think about why he is disappointed with you.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:44:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		The post is awfully vague, but I'll take a stab.

He 'is' your Master.  Your profile says 'slave', so we can say that if you misbehave you expect to have to face some sort of repercussions.  Do you not agree?

You admit to some sort of transgression.  It could be minor, it could be very bad.

If you trust his judgement, then whatever it is that he comes up with will be deserved.  Right?  If there is a punishment involved, you should be willing to take it.

What is the worst that can happen?  Probably that he decides to release you.  We cannot tell from the post, but again, if you trust him, then you are better prepared for the seriousness of this than us.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:44:57 PM   
Sub03


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Sometimes the mental anguish is worse than the physical pain.


Yea I know--I would rather have the pain.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:46:57 PM   
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I feel for you, really.  I got punished over the weekend, yuck!  I did deserve it though, and I catch myself now before I do it again.
 
I think that part of the punishment is having to think about it coming, that might actually be the punishment when it's all over.
 
You did it, you know you shouldn't have, now it's time to pay the piper.
 
Don't worry, I will tell myself that exact same sentence if I do something wrong again also, so don't take it mean..lol.
 
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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:49:08 PM   
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The post is awfully vague, but I'll take a stab.

He 'is' your Master.  Your profile says 'slave', so we can say that if you misbehave you expect to have to face some sort of repercussions.  Do you not agree?

You admit to some sort of transgression.  It could be minor, it could be very bad.

If you trust his judgement, then whatever it is that he comes up with will be deserved.  Right?  If there is a punishment involved, you should be willing to take it.

What is the worst that can happen?  Probably that he decides to release you.  We cannot tell from the post, but again, if you trust him, then you are better prepared for the seriousness of this than us.

Jeff


I know I deserve it. I know it's coming, I just don't know what it will be. It wasn't anything really serious, he told me to do something and I didnt do it. Its not enough to make him let me go, I dont think, so im not worried about that. Its just the wait, the knowing its going to happen but not when or what.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:52:11 PM   
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I know I deserve it. I know it's coming, I just don't know what it will be. It wasn't anything really serious, he told me to do something and I didnt do it. Its not enough to make him let me go, I dont think, so im not worried about that. Its just the wait, the knowing its going to happen but not when or what.

There was once that my late Master made me wait almost a week before finding out what my punishment was. By the time he decided on it, I was such a wreck that I would have welcomed ANY kind of pain just to take away the mental anguish I was feeling. I found out that he did it this way because THIS was my punishment. A lesson I never forgot.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:55:07 PM   
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I know I deserve it. I know it's coming, I just don't know what it will be. It wasn't anything really serious, he told me to do something and I didnt do it. Its not enough to make him let me go, I dont think, so im not worried about that. Its just the wait, the knowing its going to happen but not when or what.



Then, as others have mentioned, you can start by mentally berating yourself, as you are.

But both of you should at least consider the alternative.  You do something wrong, but DON'T CARE.  Don't worry about the incident, brush the punishment off, don't learn anything from the experience.

At least you have the sense to feel, to worry, to 'want' or 'need' to do better in the future.  You should both be thankful for that, yes?

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:59:43 PM   
Sub03


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I know I deserve it. I know it's coming, I just don't know what it will be. It wasn't anything really serious, he told me to do something and I didnt do it. Its not enough to make him let me go, I dont think, so im not worried about that. Its just the wait, the knowing its going to happen but not when or what.



Then, as others have mentioned, you can start by mentally berating yourself, as you are.

But both of you should at least consider the alternative.  You do something wrong, but DON'T CARE.  Don't worry about the incident, brush the punishment off, don't learn anything from the experience.

At least you have the sense to feel, to worry, to 'want' or 'need' to do better in the future.  You should both be thankful for that, yes?

Jeff


Yes, im sure he knows im berating myself and will be for awhile. I just want to get it over it. I hate this part of it. Ill punish myself till he does.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 12:59:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sorry, I'm going to have to take the low road on this one.

It "sounds" like you wanted to disobey because you haven't been punished in a while.  Maybe not consciously, but you did it on purpose.

It "sounds" like a cry for attention from your master; kind of like make up sex.  You have a big fight, then the thrill of horizontal exercise.

I could be wrong, but that's the first thing that hit me when I read your note

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 1:03:16 PM   
Sub03


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Sorry, I'm going to have to take the low road on this one.

It "sounds" like you wanted to disobey because you haven't been punished in a while.  Maybe not consciously, but you did it on purpose.

It "sounds" like a cry for attention from your master; kind of like make up sex.  You have a big fight, then the thrill of horizontal exercise.

I could be wrong, but that's the first thing that hit me when I read your note


I dont think so, my Master gives me plenty of attention. I dont have to misbehave to get it. And I hate punishments and was trying to avoid one as long as possible--why did I disobey then? Honestly I really don't have a reason.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 1:04:25 PM   
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I dont think so, my Master gives me plenty of attention. I dont have to misbehave to get it. And I hate punishments and was trying to avoid one as long as possible--why did I disobey then? Honestly I really don't have a reason.

I think until you can answer that question, you're doomed to repeat the misbehavior. 

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 1:28:41 PM   
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I dont think so, my Master gives me plenty of attention. I dont have to misbehave to get it. And I hate punishments and was trying to avoid one as long as possible--why did I disobey then? Honestly I really don't have a reason.



You have absolutely no reason?......Surely *something* must have crossed your mind while you were * not doing * whatever it was?.
I mean it could be that you ...forgot, or you didn't feel like bothering at the time, or you decided not to do it at the time, thinking you'd get around to it later.....etc.?

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 1:39:25 PM   
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I dont think so, my Master gives me plenty of attention. I dont have to misbehave to get it. And I hate punishments and was trying to avoid one as long as possible--why did I disobey then? Honestly I really don't have a reason.



You have absolutely no reason?......Surely *something* must have crossed your mind while you were * not doing * whatever it was?.
I mean it could be that you ...forgot, or you didn't feel like bothering at the time, or you decided not to do it at the time, thinking you'd get around to it later.....etc.?

agirl




As bad as it sounds, I just chose not to do it. For no other reason then I just didnt want to. A stupid self centered decision I know.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 1:49:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		You're probably aware punishment *is* coming.  None of us here would be able to take a stab at what said punishment would be.  Even if we could, why deny your Master the right to mete it out when and how he deems?  I am sure he is well aware that you are stressing over it.  That, in itself, is a good lesson.  Now you know not to disobey next time, eh?  Good luck.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 1:52:43 PM   
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As bad as it sounds, I just chose not to do it. For no other reason then I just didnt want to. A stupid self centered decision I know.


I have rarely had no reason to disobey someone I have given power over me, whether it be a boss, professor, or my Daddy. I think that if I had no reason at all to disobey, nothing going on in my head as to why I would not listen to what he instructed me to do, this would be disturbing for my Daddy. "Just because" might make your punishment worse.

I do not know what you did, so if it was some stupid little thing then I would think that perhaps you were being contrary and rebellious to push limits perhaps? Children push limits, and I guess subs do too.

I have never had ocassion to disobey my Daddy, but I did my former dominant twice, once because I had not given him the power to control what he was attempting to control, the other time it was because his order was not based on good rational thinking. Both of these ocassions it was not my failure alone, it was his also for not communicating to me. LA is right, if you do not think about why and how this failure occured it will keep happening over and over again until he does begin to wonder whether or not you really want to be his submissive... at least that is what would happen in my dynamic, he would just figure I was not wanting to submit anymore.... but that is just my experience.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 6:48:17 PM   
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And I hate punishments and was trying to avoid one as long as possible--why did I disobey then? Honestly I really don't have a reason.


Why do you obey him?  From this statement it seems that you obey to avoid punishment.  I find that external motivations to maintain certain behaviors rarely work in the long term.  If you are internally motivated to maintain certain behaviors you are going to have much more success at them.

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 6:57:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		dig deeper on the reason, or else you will not deserve the gift of his punnishment.
 
you are a lucky girl to be getting punnished, you know this, he is a man that keeps his end of the bargain, but if you dont dig a bit deeper then you are not keeping yours, which when you do the math, adds up to you not truly sorry.
 
this is not meant to be unkind, only honest, i hate to see folks lying to themselves, it hurts them, and wounds the people who love them.
 
 

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RE: punishment - 10/12/2006 7:23:39 PM   
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And I hate punishments and was trying to avoid one as long as possible--why did I disobey then? Honestly I really don't have a reason.


Why do you obey him?  From this statement it seems that you obey to avoid punishment.  I find that external motivations to maintain certain behaviors rarely work in the long term.  If you are internally motivated to maintain certain behaviors you are going to have much more success at them.

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