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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 1:21:16 AM

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 1:37:27 AM

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I have a shirt that says, "I'm not mean, you're just a sissy." I wear that to work...and have worn it while traveling on a number of occassions. The TSA agents at the airport have gotten a kick out of it more than once. The real ironic trip, though, was when I had to go to the emergency room right when I landed and spent about...oh...eternity...screaming in the waiting room with a kidney stone.

I also have a shirt that says, "Flirt harder, I'm a scientist." That one gets grins, too...but no one seems to flirt harder, damnit. But then, I'm a scientist so maybe I just don't notice?

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 1:48:27 AM

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I want a shirt that says "Stop reading my shirt!" and some pants that have on the back, "If I wanted you to look at my ass I'd have written something on it!"

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 1:54:12 AM

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You'll start a trend!

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 1:56:33 AM

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My mall has a custom embroidery place. Look around for one. They'll do almost anything they can fit into the machine.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 1:59:39 AM

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Actually, I was mostly kidding, but now that I think about it it does sound like it would be amusing...

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 2:13:42 AM

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So, Im wondering what role does humor and silliness play in whatever it is that you all do when youre doing it. And, if humor is important, how do you keep it fun?

For myself, humor plays a huge roll simply because that's the way I am. I have been fortunate to be with those who accepted this, and even went out of their way to encourage it.
As to how does one keep it fun? Well, I can not speak for anyone else, but I always just make sure that I see the brighter side of things. If I goof up with something, and get a beating because of it, the next day I look at it and laugh about it.
It does not diminish the lesson that was learned, but I always have believed that you should be able to eventually laugh at your mistakes.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 2:26:19 AM

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Humor and silliness are very necessary parts of my life, and there have been times that a submissive or a dominant partner did not work out for me because they could not understand this is a good part of the definition of PLAY.

Yes I get to embarrass my slave often, and she gets to laugh her posterior off at me too.

Of course it is fun watching her Domme others too, because EVERYONE can be funny at times, and enjoying that is a good thing.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 3:12:34 AM

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...Yes I get to embarrass my slave often, and she gets to laugh her posterior off at me too.

yeah. Iskander thinks it's hilarious to put red hot chilli powder in a container marked "herb and garlic seasoning" so i go and sprinkle it all over my food and then almost die. and if that's not bad enough He says, "well if you don't know that herb and garlic seasoning isn't red then you can eat the whole thing". so i did. and i liked it. never underestimate a masochist.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 3:19:10 AM

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I just hate seeing good food go to waste... It had nothing to do with a sadistic streak.. Honest...

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 5:56:07 AM

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Skipping over the Mr Microphone and dishes part..........ahem.......

If I cannot have humour as part of my interaction with the people in my life, well, they quickly become NOT a part of my life. I have been known to plot and plan for weeks for a few minute long practical joke. Even bought a book on how to make little paper boats that would float in a toilet bowl once. (its a long story)

My biggest problem is that I tend to laugh in situations others find, less than humorous. I usually can excuse myself so that I can laugh in private then compose myself before offending people but there has been an occasion or two I did not make a new friend.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 7:19:30 AM

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Master and I are constantly laughing and joking around. It's wonderful as I come from a family of giggly, mostly happy people, who enjoy a good joke or goofy situation. I find that I use my laughter to counter-balance the yucky stuff that falls into my world.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 8:00:18 AM

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I just realized something. I have this long detailed profile that I put some thought into and I've been keeping it active for a month or so, tweaking it every now and again. But, I forgot the most important thing. A sense of humor. Nowhere did I mention "fun" Needless to say, I added that as a criteria.

But, it got me to thinking. In the past, when things were good, I knew they were good, because I was having fun. Even when I was getting the crap beat out of me, I was loving it because it was fun. And, when I stopped having fun, everything else went bad because, well, it just wasn't fun any more. There was no laughter or joy. No giggling. No irony. Just grim reality, as heavy as the winter is long.

I feel like I should put out some profound and serious question about fun. But, that would be counter productive. So, Im wondering what role does humor and silliness play in whatever it is that you all do when youre doing it. And, if humor is important, how do you keep it fun?

Good thought, gypsy.

Humor is a part of me. I kid around with some of my patients and am more quietly humorous with others. Humor is a great help in making people feel better.

I like to have fun with my friends. I like to have fun with whoever I am involved with. When things are going wrong in a relationship and even trying to have a little fun to lighten things up (at the right time, of course...not in the middle of a very serious discussion) doesn't go over...then I have the feeling that the relationship is most likely doomed.

I like to tease and joke and be silly sometimes. Not always...and I think I am pretty clear about where the lines are...but if I have to be "M.O.A.H.S." (pronounced "mo ass") all the time, then I think I want to resign.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 8:20:41 AM

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My biggest problem is that I tend to laugh in situations others find, less than humorous. I usually can excuse myself so that I can laugh in private then compose myself before offending people but there has been an occasion or two I did not make a new friend.

I have this problem too. I remember when I was at my former dominant's house and we were watching a "touching" movie... I laughed at a part most people could cry at. He looked at me like I was loopy. He grilled me about it later, almost like it offended him. It is just the way I deal with many negative emotions and always have.

In my situation my Daddy never tells me not to laugh or it is "wrong". I also feel I can cry, which was the problem between my former dominant and myself, I could not cry in front of him... I did not feel safe to, so I laughed instead....

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 8:25:47 AM

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Ohhh, now crying is a huge one for me. Not in others but in myself. It is just something I rarely allow myself to do.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 8:42:06 AM

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But, it got me to thinking. In the past, when things were good, I knew they were good, because I was having fun. Even when I was getting the crap beat out of me, I was loving it because it was fun. And, when I stopped having fun, everything else went bad because, well, it just wasn't fun any more. There was no laughter or joy. No giggling. No irony. Just grim reality, as heavy as the winter is long.

I agree living a particular lifestyle should be pleasureable and fun for that particular person. But, That doesn't equate to it being fun every given moment. There is always going to be moments of struggles that are not so fun or pleasureable. At the end of the day... can you be happy with it or not. If you are... then carry one... if not...make some changes.

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I feel like I should put out some profound and serious question about fun. But, that would be counter productive. So, Im wondering what role does humor and silliness play in whatever it is that you all do when youre doing it. And, if humor is important, how do you keep it fun?

I don't make a constant effor to keep if fun... in fact... I think fun should just be a natural flow. I also think fun and humor orginates from our character and general attitude. So thou I don't make a focused effort to make a particular event fun. I do focus on my character and general attitude that will a natural flow towards enjoyment and pleasure.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 8:45:56 AM

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 8:48:21 AM

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I didn't used to, but Sinergy tends not just to make me laugh, but it is safe to cry with him too. He makes me cry a lot (in a good way...smiles)

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 8:53:46 AM

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Ohhh, now crying is a huge one for me. Not in others but in myself. It is just something I rarely allow myself to do.

Not to say that you are doing this... But Suppression of emotions is a big one to me! I don't like it and never will. Both my girls are very much encouraged and validated in expressing their feelings not matter the feelings... It's just a question of the appropriate manner that they are expressed. Crying can and is rather appropriate way to express painful emotions and it is something that I find very empowering for our relaitonship when they share these feelings.

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RE: Are we having fun??? - 10/14/2006 9:02:45 AM

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I luuuuuuv havin fun...but then the problem is that I kind of don't know my limits...I can find something funny in public..that you shouldn't be laughing at..and then at times like at..funerals or some..very serious things... and then the problem I have is that I just can't avoid laughing nor stop I just end up in a laughterattack and then sometimes all the people around me have ended up laughing too..and ya know..it's not a good thing to do at funerals