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raavyn -> Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 8:26:36 PM)
Hi, all. I haven't posted much, but i am very confused and don't know if i am handling a situation correctly. I was with my Master for 6 months and was happier than i had been in my life. In fact, i was going to move in with Him and His lady very soon. Now, for some reason, someone is sending hurtful and mean messages to Him, His lady, and some of His other girls. I dealt with this for a while, trying to convince them that it wasn't me ... until this person sent a VERY hurtful message to His lady. Somehow, they sent a copy of a conversation between me and my Master, and put a bad twist on the words. I can't even go back and look as i don't keep archives of my YIM since this whole situation started, just in case i was being hacked somehow. Anyway, long story short ... the only way i can think to stop this person from hurting those i care about as a way to hurt me for some reason, was to sever the relationships. Even though i hurt a lot from not having any of them, especially Him, in my life anymore, they won't be hurt by this person claiming to be me again. I have even closed my YIM. Does anyone have any ideas as to how i can stop this imposter so that maybe i could contact my friends again ... if they still want to talk to me, that is. ok, enough sappy whining, lol ... any advice would be welcome. Thank you, raavyn

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 8:31:26 PM)
Simple, change your IM. Create one strictly for use with your Master and his family. Do not share it with anyone. Tell your Master and his Lady that you are changing the name. Make a seperate one for everyone else, and if anyone asks about your relationship, politely avoid the subject. Hopefully, that should rectify things. You might also want to consider using a different messenger, if someone was getting into your yahoo perhaps changing to MSN or AOL might be better. DV

raavyn -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 8:34:58 PM)
The YIM this person is using is not mine, but they are claiming to be me. And somehow, they know enough about me to pass it off, and they believe it is me. Changing my normal YIM will do no good in this case, I'm afraid.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 8:45:34 PM)
I believe the only way someone can have access to your YIM conversations is if you send them to someone, or if you save archives and someone has access to your hard drive. OR...you're having those conversations while at work and your IT department tracks that stuff. Maybe someone at work is toying with you. a) stop IM'ing at work for awhile. b) don't keep archives (they are saved on your hard drive) c) change your password regularly, to 10 characters or more, and include a punctuation mark in it. PS: Actually the best advice is to take this to your Master and let him decide what to do.

diamonddreamlove -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 8:52:12 PM)
Is a difficult thing but if there is trust already built in that 6 months then they would know better. Also having a key phrase or words in a certain manner would help to know that it is really you. Could even have Master confront them telling them He knows it is not you and see the reaction. There again it all depends upon how important the relationship is to you.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 8:53:00 PM)
I would defiantely say switching accounts is the way to go then. Promise Master and family that you wil not contact they via YIM any longer. With a promise like that, he should know that whomever is writing them there isnt you. When I had a similiar situation, I had my pet use a code word. When they were greeting me, they had to say a certain phrase so that I knew it was them. Without that phrase, there was NO conversation. Change the phrase every now and again, so there is little chance someone can figure it out. And do not IM the phrases. Send them by phone or something. Maybe that wil help DV

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 8:59:07 PM)
This whole thing smells like too much drama and too many people involved for my tastes- other girls? Convincing it wasn't you? Conspiracies? I'd say go with the suggestion of creating a name that ONLY your master and his live in know, ONLY communicate with them with that name and take at least 3 more months of talking together before making any decision to move in together- make sure this is just a freak occurrence and not an ongoing drama that will envelope your/their life. And I agree with Owned.

Focus50 -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 10:22:59 PM)
I loathe messy conspiracies but I think this is quite simple to unscramble. In this age of technology it's easy to believe you're being hacked by an outsider but I wonder just how many have such resources and capability, esp for merely sabotaging a personal relationship. So I'm definitely thinking "smaller"; that your enemy is not some faceless stranger/computer-geek/dark lord of mischief etc but is r/l and resides within your close circle.... I'll wager an even hundred that the perpetrator is absolutely one of those you both care about and even believe she cares about you! At the very least, you should be absolutely sure your personal computer is just that - personal. Awww hell, I'll spell it out - his prime is cleaning house and protecting her own! Really, it all started coincidentally when you were about to move in with them?? Just like any good detective, I abhor that word "coincidence" and woe betide my sub if she ever dared to explain something away as "coincidence". Sure, it happens, but she'll get a thorough grilling before I believe it. And then there's kismet - of fate doing you a favour! Let's see, there's you and him + his lady + "his other girls" ta boot???? Assuming he had 3 or 4 separate dicks (one for each of you to service), he still can't allocate the 100% committment to each of you that he undoubtedly expects from all in return! Bet another hundred his "lady" also knows that. So she's in survival mode and getting rid of the competition while hoping he'll do his part and get past puberty one day. The greater relationship (ie, all of you) is a massive train wreck looking to happen somewhere soon and you've received an admittedly hurtful warning to get out now. Or keep watching for more girls overboard, esp any about to move in. The "lady" has claws.... Focus.

BlackKnight -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 10:42:19 PM)
Focus50 is correct. I read the initial posting by miss raavyn, and it's spelt out plain as day. If the culprit can't be accessing your 'puter, then what's the next logical thought, 'eliminate that which is impossible...'. look at the variables, where the most are and where they lead. Too maney loose variables in the masters homestead.

theRose4U -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 11:19:38 PM)
I would agree, if it's not you and they have chat logs there is only one place they could have gotten this information. Master needs to look closer to home for the source of the problem.

proudsub -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/13/2006 11:19:51 PM)
quote: Somehow, they sent a copy of a conversation between me and my Master, and put a bad twist on the words Is there any chance your Master has shared some of your conversations?

ChaOz -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 12:54:16 AM)
Man, I agree its probably someone she knows.. There are a number of anti-trojan software you can use thats free. Some have limited trials, others are completely free. It wouldnt be hard for someone to put such a thing on your computer as a lot of the more basic ones are just point and click. The software itself does all the work for you and you dont need to know programming or anything like that. I can send you a list of free programs to download, just ask in a PM to me if you want them... I wont put it here, dont know the policy of links off site. Anyone else can ask too, they are good to have on your comp.. get rid of tonnes of stuff. I had like 500mg of useless internet crap as well as malicious stuff. Other then that, I'd leave. If he doesnt believe you then he doesnt respect you. I'd have thought if he wants you to move in then he has a stronger connection to you then that, not to mention he isnt really a Dom if his own are involved in such manipulation.

gypsylee -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 5:03:15 AM)
this is better than scooby doo! but you're all wrong. it was me.

Squeakers -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 5:43:18 AM)
Speak to your Master perferably in person or on the phone and have a password that is only shared by the three of you Himself, His lady and yourself. Make sure this password is used in every communication. For example, the password can be something as simple as chocolate and say something like "i had chocolate ice cream for a treat this evening." Of course if someone is hacking your pc they may catch on after time but not right away.

Celeste43 -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 6:29:32 AM)
It sounds as if someone you know and have given access to your computer has put a keylogger program on it. Basically it sends them a record of everything you do. Corporations do this to ensure employees do not use computers to go onto nonwork sites, or do anything illegal. However, someone putting it onto your computer is illegal. I have no idea how one would check for or remove such a program themselves. Myself, I would take my computer into the tech shop for cleaning and specifically mention this possibility. If they do discover it, they may be able to find out where the info is being sent. At that point you want to call the police.

Rule -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 7:06:04 AM)
I agree with Focus50 and others that someone in that house does not want you. Inform your master and let him deal with it. He would be wise not to add you to his family. Someone is saying "enough is enough" and he had better take that hint.

MsKatHouston -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 7:57:12 AM)
Anyone who would stoop to such tactics would be gone immediately. I do not apprecaite underhanded, dishnoest, sneaky, malicious stupidity such as that. But, I agree with those who said it is someone close to home. No nameless, faceless stranger would put in the effort to screw with your personal life as opposed to dealing with your passwords and personal finances which is much more likely to occur with a general hacker.

raavyn -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 9:03:45 AM)
Honestly, i thought all of these thoughts too, but not for long. It just doesn't make sense, when she KNOWS for a fact that she is and always will be His number one, and i was only coming on as a 'Beta'. How could anyone be that insecure with a wonderful Master like hers? I have checked my computer for all manner of spyware, grayware and hacks ... my system is clean. I don't know who has done this, but whoever it is has done a great job and should work for the government, lol ... they ruined my life and made me miserable without even a trace of their own identity. r

ayasha -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 10:32:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: raavyn Honestly, i thought all of these thoughts too, but not for long. It just doesn't make sense, when she KNOWS for a fact that she is and always will be His number one, and i was only coming on as a 'Beta'. How could anyone be that insecure with a wonderful Master like hers? I have checked my computer for all manner of spyware, grayware and hacks ... my system is clean. I don't know who has done this, but whoever it is has done a great job and should work for the government, lol ... they ruined my life and made me miserable without even a trace of their own identity. one would bet money it is somebody in His house - if not His Lady, then one of His other girls. Do any of His other girls live with them? If not, do not rule out that His Lady is not the one - this one has seen stranger things. It is amazing how the people who portray themselves as secure, and should be so secure, are often not when it gets right down to sharing. Everybody has their insecurities - some just do not admit it. Do not trust or rule out anyone till You get to the bottom of this.

theRose4U -> RE: Am I handling this properly? (10/14/2006 10:35:05 AM)
quote: It just doesn't make sense, when she KNOWS for a fact that she is and always will be His number one, Does she really? The heart is an irrational thing. It's been my experience that the move to poly isn't an easy one governed by the rules of math. It's not as easy as 1+2= happiness It's normally 2 x 1 = trouble.

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