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First time - 10/14/2006 12:06:09 AM   
bigjohnson


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Now before everyone assumes this is yet another post by a male looking for something to play with himself to please consider and if you have any advice about my question

I have been with a mistress for a few while and we have come to the conclusion that I should have my anal virginity taken. She asked me for my imput on what positions I thought would be best and how to get the scene started. Since it will be my first time being taken anally I decided to come here for a little assistance. Thank you for your help.

If Lady Albatross reads this I will wait for the list of past posts about this subject as well. Thank you also Ma'am.
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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 1:55:26 AM   
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It's pretty straight forward...start small and work your way up. There are several sizes of butt plugs.
http://www.stockroom.com/Red-Anal-Plugs-P2088.aspx

And, LUBE...lube lube lube lube...then more lube. But (pun not intended, but noticed), before all this, do some reading. The lining of the rectum is fairly thin and can be torn by fingernails and such. A knowledge of the basic anatomy is a good idea.

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 7:13:13 AM   
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Johnson....

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 7:16:23 AM   
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I guess your post leaves me really wondering how much experience and responsibility your mistress is taking for the event and YOUR well-being when she's asking you how to do it.......

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 7:52:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: bigjohnson

Now before everyone assumes this is yet another post by a male looking for something to play with himself to please consider and if you have any advice about my question

I have been with a mistress for a few while and we have come to the conclusion that I should have my anal virginity taken. She asked me for my imput on what positions I thought would be best and how to get the scene started. Since it will be my first time being taken anally I decided to come here for a little assistance. Thank you for your help.

If Lady Albatross reads this I will wait for the list of past posts about this subject as well. Thank you also Ma'am.


Hey I know this will come as no surprise but I recommend you get some books and read them together -- your mistress should certainly read them herself.

You might consider going to a doctor first to have that area of your body checked out. We didn't do that for Fox and after years of trying anal and him not enjoying it we discovered he had scar tissue from when he'd been raped when he was younger -- we might have done him damage or harm had we not gone so carefully and with so much lube.

The list of books on anal play isn't wide and the quality varies. The basic rules seem to be: go slow, use more lube than you think necessary, start small, and give constant feeback.

Here's the best book I've read and written a review on:

"The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men" by Bill Brent


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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 8:28:57 AM   
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LOTS of lube ... a butt plug is a good start to stretch the ring a bit.  I have used KY and an anal vibrator.  It's a bit on the thin side, so the sensation isn't as painful a stretching.  Also, hands and knees with your back slanted down, your face on the pillow.  Do not extend your arms, rather draw them against your side.  That way you don't set up a 'pulling' sensation.  Keep your knees in an inverted 'V' position with your ankles spread.

That would be the first time ... the second time to widen the ring without completely ripping it to shreads ... kneel up and tape the vibrator in, then rock your body up and down.  Your Mistress can then use her hands and lips anywhere she likes ... *s*

Just a couple of suggestions ... In the end the important thing is to have fun ... it's a very interesting and very powerful sensation if you just relax and enjoy the experience.


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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 8:54:41 AM   
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Oragel will numb the sphincter somewhat when applied before lube or you could start with ginger if you want to go that way.........position will need to be considered as it is happening.  You don't want to be flat and face down with her weight on top of you full, your first time unless you want some pain.  relaxation, confidence,  time and lube is the essence of the matter however.

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 10:35:58 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

I guess your post leaves me really wondering how much experience and responsibility your mistress is taking for the event and YOUR well-being when she's asking you how to do it.......


It can't be any worse than this poor guy's experience :/

http://www.collarchat.com/m_629569/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm

I hope she just uses a nice latex glove and lots of lube.  It's nice if your bowels are cleaned out first. She should press gently on the anus, testing for tension and "give".. then she should gradually use ONE finger and  insert, feeling the release of tension of the sphincters.  Then as you relax, she should insert two with the same considerations... It will feel good when done slowly.. especially if she hits your prostate :).. then she can move to 3 fingers then the first small dildo and then to infinity and beyond!

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 1:26:07 PM   
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There is a butt plug that is inflatable. It works very well and from what I hear has a wonderful sensation. You should give it a try and give us a full report! lol

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 1:53:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

There is a butt plug that is inflatable. It works very well and from what I hear has a wonderful sensation. You should give it a try and give us a full report! lol


ahem..I hope you're supposed to inflate it, before you insert it...

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 1:55:53 PM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissyRane

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

There is a butt plug that is inflatable. It works very well and from what I hear has a wonderful sensation. You should give it a try and give us a full report! lol


ahem..I hope you're supposed to inflate it, before you insert it...



No, the point is to inflate it slowly as you use it to gently stretch out the muscles. When you deflate it then it can come out easier too.

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 3:35:08 PM   
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alrightyyy I hope it's gotta pump..I didn't think about that option when I read it..I imagined someone using the old fashioned way..the mouth way

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 5:43:18 PM   
Morrigel


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Wow.  I guess I'm the only person who thinks the first object to enter by the back door should be a nice slim lady's finger?  Preferably making that little teasing beckoning gesture that forces you to fetch a ladder later on to clean the ceiling--?

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 7:59:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissyRane

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

There is a butt plug that is inflatable. It works very well and from what I hear has a wonderful sensation. You should give it a try and give us a full report! lol


ahem..I hope you're supposed to inflate it, before you insert it...



NOPE this is the latest medical device to check for cranio-rectal inversion. You have to blow it up AFTER insertion

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RE: First time - 10/14/2006 10:17:40 PM   
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As a Domme who enjoys doing anal play on a willing boy and who has been fortunate enough to take a couple of "anal cherries", I offer these ideas:

1. Mistress and sub need to have built a level of trust with each other so that he can be assured that he can give Her feedback as to how things feel without castigation from Her.
2. Mistress uses gloves (latex or vinyl, depends on whether either of them have any allergy to latex) ... this protects the rectal lining from Her fingernails etc. Also using gloves tends to remind Mistress to remove any finger jewellery which could otherwise dig in to unwanted places (eg a ring on an outside finger can play havoc in the crack!).
3. Lube, lube and lots more lube, yes I agree with that one!
4. sub's body position varies with the sub ... the kneeling position described works for some, but I have also found having sub lie on one side with top leg drawn up can be quite effective. Some Women may recognise this position as being one some gynaecologists use on them at times! I had one sub whose rectum would only "straighten out" for penetration by any more than a finger tip when he was standing and bent over.
5. Having sub at a suitable height and with sufficient lighting so Mistress can actually see what She is doing is very important!
6. I find gently teasing outside, up and down the crack, then around the ring, then the ring itself, gets the process going.
7. I tell the sub to concentrate on breathing out when I am attempting to insert the finger, that helps relax the sphincter muscle. sub is to give feedback as to direction, not all rectums "go" the same way! Work in the tip, then the second section and waggle it a bit, then finally, the whole finger as long as it's OK. Mistress is also guided by involuntary muscle spasms gripping Her finger.
8. First time, one finger is great ... don't overdo it for a first session.
9. Can find very narrow buttplugs to use either in sessions or between as Mistress directs, so the sphincter gets more used to the sensation.
10. Gradually build to 2 fingers, 3 etc.
11. Use a vibrator once the anus is appropriately large, there are some made for anal play with the right flared base so they can't be sucked up inside. I always use a condom on anal toys, makes clean up so much easier! It's preferable if the sub buys his own which is only ever used on him. Otherwise, I use 2 condoms, one over the shaft and another over the base of the toy to ensure it is totally covered. After use, the condoms are removed and the toy is also washed with a disinfectant product designed for cleaning such toys (doesn't damage the surface of the toy).
12. Only after several sessions, when all else is well and the boy can take a vibe of the same size, would I attempt to use a strap on. There is much less "feel" with a dildo in a harness worn by the Mistress, so She must be suitably familiar with Her boy to "know" where She is inside him. Can also be a challenge to find a position with the correct height for him and Her to accomplish good penetration and thrust.

Good luck!
Mistress Jay
PS Re the Mistress asking him ... that's not necessarily a bad thing, I would rather a Mistress own up to not being an expert in every technique rather than trying to bluff Her way through!


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