Termyn8or
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I am 5'11" and about 210lbs. It is not in the right places. Somebody can weigh that at my height and be cut, massive arms and chest and almost no flab at all (and they're working on that last ½" ), but that's not me.
I consider myself chubby, possibly fat in some people's eyes, but certainly not obese. When I see an obese person, for right or wrong I think to myself 'if I were that big I wouldn't eat for a month'. Used to be fat, between dietary changes and some fasting in the past I am down to chubby. It feels good. I don't want to go back to being fat, and that is a struggle as one ages. My job is alot more sedentary than in the past, and of course now I am a bit of an internet junkie, so the fight will not be easy. But in my mind I must maintain, I feel better with the weight off, and I am determined to keep it that way.
Let's say you are the Woman for me. There is more to life than physique, so let's say you are fat, but I can deal with it. Now I would expect someone I hook up with to have similar values and ideals, so when I walk into the room, are you eating a taco or chicken salad, or a spongecake ? Are you making a spicy stirfry, or a big pot of spaghetti ?
Obesity, or at least overweightness, or chubbiness, is an epidemic. Skinny people seem to stick together, so what now ? Expect anyone you meet to have a few extra pounds. Especially into the forties. This is when alot of the people still gainfully employed have moved into more sedentary jobs, like foreman, manager etc., and their taste does not always adjust.
Normally I don't eat alot, but if I work hard, like moving or doing house repairs I pig out. There are days when, at work I do no physical labor at all, on those days I do not pig out, I eat very little.
I haven't had potato chip in about 10 years, sugar in 15, and I only eat pasta about once a month now. I am TRYING to stay healthy, so if you, chubby Woman are for me, you are doing the same. You are not eating fast food with supersize fries. Get the point ? If you are for me, we will do our own cooking. That includes on the stove of course.
Chubby girls can be fun too, even fat girls, but when it comes to obese it gets in the way. How does one define these conditions ? No, not by medical science silly, it is simple.
Standing up, wearing a pair of jeans:
If you can slide them up and down but your hips keep them from falling down you are svelte, and fuck you.
If you got about an inch or so protrusion above the beltline, you might be chubby.
When that protrusion gets to the point where it hangs below the beltline on the outside, you might be fat.
When you give up and buy bigger pants to go OVER that gut, you are probably obese.
See ?, we don't even need a scale. Human nature being what it is, I'll be honest, chubby or fat, OK, but obese, no. Reason ? I have two very valid reasons, and remember these are my reasons and OP, YOU asked.
For one, obesity wrecks the body. I don't want to have to have a defiblilator on hand. My intention is to find a way to drive you wild, to heights of ecstacy heretofore unexperienced. That's what keeps you around, so if I want you around I figure that comes with the teritory. You will need a strong cardiovascular system. I want you to the point of passing out, like in the porn movies, but for real, and maybe better. I have tools for this purpose.
For two, obesity, to me, shows a weakness. This is a weakness I would rather not see in a partner. That is my personal preference, and I hope I get this across without someone construing an insult out of it. We all have weaknesses, but just how weak are we ? I took charge of my health years ago and actually cured some conditions that they say are permanent. I never hit obesity, but I was fat, and my knees were so bad I could not walk down a flight of steps. I changed.
I am quite careful about what I eat now, and in a mate I would expect to see a similar resolve, desire, goal. You don't need to lose weight, this is how you came out of the box, that is fine, if it weren't you wouldn't be here. Just don't gain weight. Excess weight is bad.
Health is an important thing to me, but lately I can't pay 100% attention to it, but I'll tell you this, I don't eat junk food, anything that comes through a window, nor any cake, candy or even ice cream. This has been so for a decade or so.
And since this IS an adult website I'll mention this, I get a hardon like a 20 year old. I mean it gets HARD. Not the biggest thing in the world but big enough, and hard as a rock.
I haven't seen a doctor of any kind in ten years, still got all my teeth and hair, not gray. I just wish I could see. My eyesight is terrible, I have two pairs of glasses, one for distance and the other for closer, like on the computer, and then at work I have to take them off to do close work. It sucks. But I could be in alot worse shape, and at one time was.
I would hope someone would want to be around me enough to try to be healthy and live long. Wouldn't you ? To be with me and be self destructive means that you are not fulfilled enough to want to live. That is unacceptable.
T
PS Same thing goes for other things, like addiction to hard drugs, binge/purge, everything like that. It is a compulsion, do whatever you want, but stay in control. In that way you earn and maintain my respect, and likewise. Realistically, I could probably help someone out of one compulsion, but if there are others or if it is very strong, one might be beyond help. Sad but true.
T
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