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Maya2001 -> RE: the real thing (1/18/2008 5:13:10 AM)
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I realize this is a an old post, but will respond for newer readers. Not every Dom is going to be the same, and there is no one "twue way" of starting a relationship, some Dom/mes are willing to go through a vanilla courtship first, then there are the wankers looking for the peep show but there are others who want to cut to the chase rather than wasting a lot of time and discuss the D/s and M/s aspect right away wanting to know your views are to know if they are realistic and will match their ideas and how you feel about serving in a certain ways, some of that discussion will center around sex and they don't want to waste time starting off as boyfriend/girlfriend vanilla relationship as equals and then to switch later, for some they would see that the same as lying because that is not how they view the relationship to be and may insist on a couple protocols right away example calling them sir but still was respectful to the new sub they were approaching and build slowly from there inorder to establish respect and authority right from the start. I am in a 7 month off and on relationship with a Dom who started off the relationship like this, I realize now it was what attracted me to him and allowed him to stand out from the rest of the herd of Doms that either started "on your knees bitch" or started off very vanilla, but my listening to the masses who stated this was not the "twue way" that it is bullying or would refer to him as an uberdom which resulted in me breaking things off 3 times but after a bit of time I would find myself drawn back to him and each time working things out again has deepened the relationship, this last time I finally have got it in my head that his way is the only true way for him, he is not going to pretend to be something he isn't not even for my comfort level, my last outburst of anger and frustration of him not doing things the "twue way" like everyone else was awfully terrible and I said a lot of things that he did not deserve, but when I had enough time to cool down and I finally read something on these forums that clicked with me, I finally realized I was at fault bigtime and I sent him a long apology but after the things I had said but had no expectations of him to take me back at minimum maybe a touch of forgiveness after all I had said. But after a long talk he forgave me totally without reprisal and with a touch of humour at how foolish my reaction was, and accepted me back, I know now I found someone very special and I am glad he does not do everyone elses version of the "twue way" otherwise I probably would have overlooked him altogether.
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