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RE: what was it like - 8/19/2006 9:24:38 AM

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I would think that a huge difference between having children in a BDSM household or not would also be similar to the difference of a BDSM LTR and the fantasy that many online seem to have. Very few vanilla people run around having sex all the time in an inappropriate manner. Though I am sure you will find MANY vanilla family children that have seen some sort of abuse in their home, no?? In my opinion a BDSM LTR is no different than any other, we do what we do, at the appropriate times. I would no more leave my BDSM toys laying about than I would a vibrator.

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RE: what was it like - 8/19/2006 10:13:43 AM

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mons,
I do not know where or how you found BDSM, but I do not think I have ever seen anything related to BDSM that involved knocking down doors and forced rape. That is not BDSM, that is a violent assault. I certainly hope that you haven't confused criminal activities with WIITWD.

I was not raised in a BDSM situation, but I am a single parent. Because of that, when my son began to ask questions about my visitors and what we did, I was truthful with him. Not to an extreme of describing each act, but with an overview of the relationships. Instead of curiousity, he made a joke of it and called it "that D/s Bs". I think it is a question of the maturity of the unmentionables and their ages, PLUS how close the parents are to them. Had I not shared a very close relationship with him, I likely would not have felt so comfortable in discussing that situation and others that arose. An example: When he found a g- spot vibrator in a box in a drawer (no, he was not supposed to be in the drawer or the box) his curiousity got the better of him. He asked me who bent it. My two choises were to scold him for opening the box, or to educate him about the G-spot. During the little class, he ran across the word clitoris and was curious. We went to a medical type web site and he leaned about thatthe same day. Maybe I have just encountered people in the Bible Belt that prefer to tell their unmentionables NO instead of educationg them, but I have found that educating unmentionables is one solution to help prevent things like snooping through drawers, peeking through windows and doors, and not to mention the obvious, but teen age pregnancy and disease control.

We should never force our lifestyle on them, but it is surprising how a well adjusted and mature unmentionable can understand and accept that there are things that some adults do that should be respected and kept at home. The main thing is knowing who that little critter in your home is and understanding their maturity.

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RE: what was it like - 8/19/2006 10:19:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: slaveseeker

Not long ago,i read an ad that said "she grew up in a s/m family.Since then I've seen several ads that say they have children.So my question is did you or anyone you know grow up in a s/m family.I would want to talk to anyoneone that had this experience.
I will ask such things as how old were you when you first noticed it,how did you feel,was it exciting,did you cry and feel sorry for mommy,how was it explained to you,after you found out were you asked to watch or participate???????????things like that.I do not believe you can hide something like that if living in the same house,
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Personally, I'd have to think that coming up in a loving household where there is discipline and structure is miles above the feeling when you realize that you had a parent who stayed in a relationship where they were a doormat, or where they were non-consensually emotionally or physically abused by a spouse and never did anything about it.

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RE: what was it like - 8/19/2006 10:30:15 AM

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i grew up in a D/s family, where the male (my dad) was clearly the HOH and DA BOSS!

I recently spent time with a loving, married D/s couple who have offspring on a trip I made, and I had the opportunity, no, make that pleasure, to interact with their unmentionables. Mom wears a metal Eternity collar. Dad is the Boss of Everyone. It is what it is. There's horseplay that is passed around evenly, like in the swimming pool, but far more intense for the real masochist!!!!! And I must say beyond a doubt, these were some of the most pleasant, well-behaved, respectful and adoring yong adults(and one a teenager, no less) I've EVER encountered. They've obviously been responsible parents to the point that they've instilled respect, trust, honesty and boundaries into the household dynamic. And that's a far cry from what most "individuals of that age range", vanilla or not, get out of their growing up.

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