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chainedgirl -> RE: Perplexing Question for a slave/submissive (3/4/2005 4:20:55 AM)
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ORIGINAL: bear4u2pet
"I would not enter a relationship in which I was asked to take complete control, even if that request was issued as an order."
But then do you not, even as a "submissive", actually exert complete control over the relationship?
The real question is "does the submissive, by being voluntarily submissive, actually completely control the relationship and thus, advertantly or inadvertantly, enslave and control the dom directing the dom to serve the specific desires of the sub?"
Ok, i can see where this might be the case in casual scenes or in a play session where the Dominant and the submissive were not an attached couple. Then the sub does tend to control the relationship, because it is usually the subs list of limitations that define what will or won't happen.
But a collar puts a different spin on things to me. When i accepted Master's training collar i also accepted i was giving up the 'right' to have control over my own life choices. When i am told to do something or not do something that goes against the grain (and this happened recently), then i see that i have no choice but to obey Him. That is the real test of who has the control. i can tell You i do not. i can try batting my eyelashes and pouting til the cows come home, but it won't work because He is in contol.
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