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RE: Dom by Night, Noble by Day - 10/18/2006 9:35:24 AM

happypervert

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So what does a nice guy do.

Here's an idea -- why not go to a message board and make a post pretending to ask for advice while telling everyone you're a nice guy and also denigrating other guys to make yourself sound like a real catch. With luck some sympathetic (or desperate) girl will see it and take the bait.

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RE: Dom by Night, Noble by Day - 10/18/2006 9:44:18 AM

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We are all as the stars; we each have our own light to attract others. Be yourself in all things. There is nothing worse than trying to manifest yourself as something that doesn't fit your soul. No one has ownership of the franchise of how to think or act or become who you wish to be. It is your journey...finding an appropriate person to share it with is always the challenge.

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RE: Dom by Night, Noble by Day - 10/18/2006 9:48:32 AM

toservez

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ORIGINAL: TakeChargeType

Looking for answers...

Dumb question, but what is a Sub/Slave girl looking for?

Seriously, I've dated plenty of vanilla women. Most of them seem to like it when I get to taking charge at night because when I'm with a girl I want to take her experiences to every height. Hey, yes, I admit if she liked it enough and wanted to be "caught" in a french maid's outfit cleaning when I got home I'd be major-turned-on too--you could say that its the big "take it to the next level" that I'm looking for.

But I'm a genuine nice guy. I'm that fit, socally acceptable fun, gregarious type who you picture behind a big supervisor's desk and who you'd take home to mother. The BDSM clubs are too non-socially acceptable for me (especially when I might risk my work reputation)--then there's another twist.

To me, most of the guys I see on this site (I"m sorry if I don't make friends with this) are the waste-your-life types who weigh twice what I do and look like they cawled out of 3000 years in a cave. I couldn't do BDSM clubs 'cause I'd laugh--I wouldn't trust these guys with my coat at the door--and I'd spend the whole time in awe wondering how or why women would fall over themselves to be spanked by that kind of <expletive>.

So what does a nice guy do...keep trying to find someone kinky enough in vanilla world (not likely)? Write something a little different for a profile? Grow my hair down to my mid-back, grow a beer gut and facial hair, then take a picture of my naked body in front of a run-down mobile home mirror?

I could use a little advise--it's like I"m caught between two worlds!!!

You appear to have judge people in this life as inferior to you which is a shame. People in this life are from all places in society and all physical appearences. You ain't special or better.

This life is not for you that is perfectly fine, to each there own. I KNOW there are plenty of kinky women who are not into this life or are necessarily submissive or dominant in the real world. My guess is your need to judge yourself superior hurts your search and wooing of them.

Anyway after my insults, my actual advice to you would be honest communication with what you are looking for both in the real world and your dabbling in this. I actually would bet you have dated plenty of kinky women but your own thoughts on how wrong/dirty some of this stuff is to you has prevented you to try to explore some of the things that you are truly wanting.

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RE: Dom by Night, Noble by Day - 10/18/2006 9:54:52 AM

RedSavageSlave

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

I read your profile. The red flag I see is that you announce you're looking for subs because vanilla women want to be loved. Guess what, just because we're submissive doesn't mean we don't want to be loved and cared for.

Neither he nor I are as young, or thin, as we used to be. But so what? He loves me, takes care of me, gives me a safe place where I can drop my defenses. And that makes him worth ten times a man who thinks his looks entitle him to something his actions do not.

Not to mention the old "But the price is no picture or proper name. MAYBE if we really click I'll ask you to meet me in a random restaurant for dinner--neutral enough that we all have plausabile deniability, and public enough to protect both of us."

I am wondering how he expects to meet anyone with that kind of suspicious attitude..

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RE: Dom by Night, Noble by Day - 10/18/2006 10:08:22 AM

KeirasSecret

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my advice, since you asked,

is to change the font or background in your profile, seriously, it hurt my eyes. Also you might consider adding more about what you are looking for in a sub/slave and maybe a little about your beliefs as a Dom to your profile.
Just a thought.
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RE: Dom by Night, Noble by Day - 10/18/2006 7:55:44 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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If Dominant, I am thinking very new to the scene..seemed from his profile fetishist..not an insult just seemed from what I read ,of course as someone pointed out color of font made it difficult to read ,had to turn off lamp to even see most of his profile...To the OP...what do sub/slaves want?..IMO...quiet confidence in himself would be a good start..Tempting

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